Season 3, Episode 29: Three Words

Can We Talk?
Three Words - Episode Description
Is it really fall without pumpkin spice? Join us as we bask in the seasonal shift heralded by cooler temperatures and vibrant leaves. We share laughs over Kayla’s pumpkin spice creamer purchase and recount the influx of students back in Blacksburg—affecting everything from traffic to our favorite dining spots. Kayla also gives a hilarious play-by-play of Brian’s evening snooze-fests, culminating in an unforgettable fireworks show that he mostly slept through. For a fun twist, we introduce “Three Words,” a new segment where we challenge ourselves to boil down our thoughts into just three words, sparking playful exchanges and testing our patience.
The heart of this episode lies in friendship and community. We celebrate the connections that make life richer, urging you to explore the Peas and Carrots Podcast on your favorite platforms and stay engaged through our website and social media. As we close, we share heartfelt reflections on our deep appreciation for each other and the incredible support from friends like Melody and Candy. It’s a warm, engaging chat that will leave you feeling the love and charm of the changing seasons. Don’t miss out on a conversation that underscores the magic of friendship and the delightful quirks of life.
Three Words - Transcript

00:00 – Announcer (None)
We go together like peas and carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast Sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders.

00:11 – Brian (None)
Welcome to the Peas and Carrots Podcast. Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian. Welcome to this week’s edition. And, miss Sanders, yes, the trees are starting to turn here.

00:23 – Kayla (None)
They are. Summer is fading away.

00:28 – Brian (None)
Bye, Felicia.

00:31 – Kayla (None)
I have a confession. I actually bought some pumpkin spice creamer, so I’m kind of bougie and I use the Chobani Wait a minute, I own it, I own it. I bought the Chobani Wait a minute, I own it. Wait a minute, wait a minute, I own it. I bought the Chobani pumpkin creamer. It’s so good, but I’m not letting myself use it until the end of August. Why? Because then I feel like I can let go of summer and it can be fall.

01:02 – Announcer (None)
I love it. We’ll see, stay tuned.

01:04 – Brian (None)
The leaves are changing. I looked ahead at the forecast and I see the highs for some of the days are like in the 70s coming up.

01:12 – Kayla (None)
So I’m excited what’s happening in our town.

01:15 – Brian (None)
It’s filling up with people. All them students are coming back.

01:20 – Kayla (None)
So, for those who don’t know, we live in Christiansburg, but Blacksburg is our neighbor.

01:29 – Brian (None)
And Virginia Tech is outside our back door. And I like the students. I mean without them we wouldn’t have an economy here, wouldn’t have all these stores, that kind of stuff. But it’s a lot of people.

01:39 – Kayla (None)
It’s like day and night. It’s a different world when they are around. You either go eat at 4 o’clock or you’re eating at 9 o’clock. If you’re going to a restaurant, we’re more the 4 o’clock type people.

01:51 – Brian (None)
During the school year, we are and you get that senior special attempt.

02:00 – Kayla (None)
So we were talking the other night. This has been a summer full. We have been a summer full. We have had a really fun summer. We’ve traveled a lot, we’ve played a lot. But is anyone else?

02:16 – Brian (None)
craving a routine. I mean, yeah, I do enjoy routine. I sleep better with a routine. I keep peace in my head better with a routine.

02:27 – Kayla (None)
I’m just ready for it. Really I think that’s why I love the start of school is because I get back in a rhythm and we’ve been like unsupervised toddlers for the last three months. So, yeah, doing what, traveling and all the things? Yeah, doing what, traveling and all the things? Yeah, okay, it’s like we’ve had a routine for a week and then it’s gone. And a routine for a week and it’s gone. Yes, I understand.

02:53 – Brian (None)
So I’m ready, like the routine back at the gym, the routine back with our food.

02:58 – Kayla (None)
Yeah, I get it. So yeah, but thank you, summer, you’ve been fun.

03:02 – Brian (None)
I’m grateful that the Olympics are over. I can get back in my sleep routine.

03:06 – Kayla (None)
You slept through them anyway.

03:10 – Brian (None)
That was not a very helpful comment. Yes, some of them. I did sleep through. Well, when it hits about 840. You’re gone. I’m in my easy chair with a blanket. Just wake me up when you’re ready to go to bed. So I’m going to tell on you.

03:22 – Kayla (None)
Just wake me up when you’re ready to go to bed. So I’m going to tell on you. The other night I was watching there is a streaming channel that I can actually watch the fireworks at Disney and I was watching the fireworks at Epcot and I was loving it, but every time a firework went off you would go huh Because you were asleep and the firework would wake you up. It was a long day. It was a long day that day. It was a long day, but it was quite comical trying to watch.

03:50 – Announcer (None)
Did I enjoy them at least? No, you were out.

03:52 – Kayla (None)
Oh okay, you were gone, so we’re going to do something a little different. Okay, this segment is called Three Words.

04:03 – Brian (None)
Three Words.

04:04 – Kayla (None)
We’re going to say more by saying less. So no cheating, you’re not allowed to say anything more than the three words, not words.

04:14 – Brian (None)
I don’t work like this.

04:15 – Kayla (None)
Uh-uh, this is the rule.

04:16 – Brian (None)
I need words.

04:18 – Kayla (None)
Well, you get three and that’s it.

04:21 – Brian (None)
That’s it. I don’t get to explain myself.

04:24 – Kayla (None)
You say your three words and then whoever’s hearing it gets to receive it as they are meant to, without any explanation from you. You can do this Okay.

04:37 – Brian (None)
You start us off.

04:38 – Kayla (None)
For example, I love you.

04:41 – Brian (None)
Am I allowed to respond to that? I just listen, that’s all we’re doing.

04:45 – Kayla (None)
You come back with. This is a game of three words, the first thing that comes to your mind.

04:51 – Brian (None)
Am I reacting to you or you’re just my own?

04:52 – Kayla (None)
three you can, but you’re on three oh now I feel this pressure. I mean, I know your response would be.

05:00 – Brian (None)
I love you, but I know I’ve thrown you a curveball, but you can do this. Probably my actual response to you would be love you more.

05:12 – Kayla (None)
Of course.

05:13 – Brian (None)
Okay.

05:14 – Kayla (None)
My little sentimental oh here we go.

05:16 – Brian (None)
I was just trying to Okay.

05:19 – Kayla (None)
Okay, so three words.

05:20 – Brian (None)
You’re making fun of me about the.

05:21 – Kayla (None)
Olympics.

05:22 – Brian (None)
I’m a little sensitive right now. Okay, okay, reigning in.

05:24 – Kayla (None)
All right Three, okay, okay. Reigning in All right Three words.

05:27 – Brian (None)
Do hard things. Okay, see, and I feel this pressure to explain.

05:33 – Kayla (None)
Uh-uh, you’re not allowed to Practice the pause. That’s so hard to do, apparently, because you can’t do the three things. Apparently I can’t.

05:53 – Brian (None)
Read more books.

05:55 – Kayla (None)
Ooh, do the work.

05:59 – Brian (None)
Gosh, I want to say something. Okay, I feel I’m in this awkward tension Just keep going.

06:05 – Kayla (None)
What would be your next one?

06:07 – Brian (None)
Love her. Well, no, you weren’t supposed to say nothing. This is like a jacked up.

06:14 – Kayla (None)
Okay, well, this is really awkward. Following that, buy the shoes.

06:23 – Brian (None)
And you do.

06:24 – Kayla (None)
Yes, I do. Next one Is yours. Own your crap.

06:32 – Brian (None)
Spend money wisely.

06:35 – Kayla (None)
Ooh, jesus is enough.

06:39 – Brian (None)
Brush your teeth, it’s Okay. Well, I just hear.

06:44 – Kayla (None)
Okay.

06:50 – Brian (None)
Mind your business, brush your teeth. Be like lincoln read your bible I am just following the rules here, okay, never trust farting okay, never trust. Farting, that’s three words, oh my gosh, um especially wearing white britches stop three words, oh perhaps this one’s a good one you’re more upset about me using more than three words, three words that I use.

07:28 – Kayla (None)
I’m a little upset about both, but it’s okay, embrace your quirks. I’m trying.

07:39 – Brian (None)
Three words Experiences over things.

07:42 – Kayla (None)
Oh, buy less junk things.

07:47 – Brian (None)
Oh, buy less junk Love others well.

07:53 – Kayla (None)
Don’t post that, but it’s so funny.

07:57 – Brian (None)
Three words oh so funny it I can’t figure out three words to say there I’m trying to be Yoda over here, Get back up.

08:07 – Kayla (None)
Oh words to say there. I’m trying to be Yoda over here. Get back up. Never say never.

08:12 – Brian (None)
I wanted to say this, but I couldn’t figure out the third word, so I made a third word up. Okay, Okay, love Jesus bigly.

08:20 – Kayla (None)
Oh, okay, go to church. Okay, open your home.

08:29 – Brian (None)
The only people allowed at our house are announced for UPS, amazon and FedEx. I am not opening up the home for you. You ring my doorbell, I will look at you through the peephole and I will not open the door.

08:41 – Kayla (None)
Here’s another one. Take a nap.

08:45 – Brian (None)
How do you do that? You watch the Olympics or Disney stuff. Take a nap. I like take a nap. Okay, how about eat a snack?

08:54 – Kayla (None)
Oh, good one.

08:56 – Brian (None)
Okay.

08:57 – Kayla (None)
I’ve got one for you. Watch Star Wars.

09:04 – Brian (None)
That’s in the Gospel, according to Brian, chapter 3, verse 10 there you go okay three words come on three words. She is beautiful always be kind kiss her daily hold her hand. Okay, let’s not get too we’re gonna keep this pg in.

09:23 – Kayla (None)
well, at my let’s not get too. We got to keep this PG in.

09:28 – Brian (None)
Well, at my age it’s not all PG. I mean, it is PG, go ahead. What are you looking at me like that? I didn’t say anything bad. I didn’t say anything bad Behave Three words. Have fun daily.

09:43 – Kayla (None)
There we go.

09:44 – Brian (None)
Laugh at yourself. That’s a big one. That’s a big one.

09:46 – Kayla (None)
That is a big one. Very good Laugh at yourself. Okay, know your limits.

09:53 – Brian (None)
Watch Godzilla movies.

09:55 – Kayla (None)
Make more memories.

10:00 – Brian (None)
I don’t know how to make this one into three words, but I’d say trust God always.

10:07 – Kayla (None)
Be more transparent. That one does not apply to you.

10:14 – Brian (None)
See y’all, would y’all email in and pray for me? Sign up for the Brian prayer list. Okay, I don’t know, why are you being like this to me today After?

10:27 – Kayla (None)
what you just said. A minute ago, I didn’t say anything. Okay, you have a look when you’re being mischievous, and it was yeah, see, now you’re laughing at yourself. One more, give me one more. Oh, eat a popsicle. Cheer him on. So there we go. It’s a little game of three words.

10:48 – Brian (None)
Believe in yourself. So well, that was fun.

10:53 – Kayla (None)
It’s harder than you think, though Are we doing four words next week.

10:57 – Brian (None)
No, I mean in a month, we’ll have a paragraph going Stop.

11:07 – Kayla (None)
We have three words, three last words. We appreciate you. This has been a really fun ride and we’re still going, but we wanted to come to you, our listener. We just wrapped up. This is wild. We just finished our third year of this podcast and your words, your kindness, your engagement, your emails yeah, Text messages, videos, phone calls We’ve had it all and it means so much to us. It is scary. I never thought I would be this terrified doing something to put yourself out into the wild, and yet others have made space for us and we will always hold space for you.

11:56 – Brian (None)
Yeah, I’m just shocked by how God has used this little podcast and the lives that he weaves, I mean, and some of you have become our friends and that kind of stuff. So thank you for listening, thank you for sharing the podcast with your friends and your family, thanks for allowing the Lord to just use these words to impact your heart.

12:16 – Kayla (None)
Yeah, and know this everything we share with you, it’s either something that God is working on in us or he’s worked on, or it’s something that we want to share with you because you feel like family to us and it’s almost as if we’re sitting across from you at a coffee shop sharing a moment where we can just be real with each other.

12:46 – Brian (None)
And Miss Kayla’s being kind towards you and I’m trying to crack jokes. That’s what’s going on at that coffee shop.

12:53 – Kayla (None)
Very much so.

12:55 – Brian (None)
But it’s been a joy and we’re going to continue on.

12:57 – Kayla (None)
Yeah we’re not going anywhere, but we appreciate you.

13:01 – Brian (None)
So we’d like to send you a Peas and Carrots coffee mug, a Peas and Carrots pen notepad and some Cute little stickers. All you got to do is answer this particular trivia question.

13:12 – Kayla (None)
Yeah, as we say every week, go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Look for that trivia button. Click it. What are your three words? Share with us and you can share multiples if you want to, like we did. But yeah, go to the website. Click the trivia button.

13:34 – Brian (None)
What are your three words? That website is peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Hey, thanks for listening this week. It’s always a pleasure and, by the way, you can search the peas and podcast the peas and carrots podcast wherever you get your podcast, or visit our website at peasandcarrotspodcastcom.

13:51 – Kayla (None)
When you do, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast. You can follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Just search for the Peas and Carrots Podcast.

13:59 – Brian (None)
I have a final three words for you.

14:01 – Kayla (None)
Oh no.

14:02 – Brian (None)
I love you.

14:03 – Kayla (None)
Very good.

14:04 – Announcer (None)
For more about the Peas and Carrots Podcast and to reach out to Brian and Kayla, visit peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Life’s not perfect. That’s why God gave us friends like Melody and Candy. Check out quirks, bumps and bruisescom, or search quirks, bumps and bruises wherever you listen to podcasts.

 

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Season 3, Episode 28: Highs & Lows

Can We Talk?
Not Home Yet - Episode Description

Reflections on 31 years. 

Highs & Lows - Transcript

00:00 – Announcer (None)

We go together like peas and carrots the peas and carrots podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

00:11 – Kayla (None)

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. I’m Brian and I’m Kayla. Welcome to this week’s edition. Oh, the Olympics. 

 

00:20 – Brian (None)

They’re almost over, aren’t they? They are well by the time this. 

 

00:23 – Kayla (None)

By the time this drops, I think they will have officially ended. But I forgot how much I love the Olympics. Baby, they just be. It’s the power of the story. I get that it is. You forget what each athlete has overcome. 

 

00:41 – Brian (None)

People shouldn’t be wearing this stuff. 

 

00:43 – Kayla (None)

Now listen, don’t start this. We’re keeping this family friendly and positive. 

 

00:50 – Brian (None)

I’m not dressing like this. 

 

00:52 – Kayla (None)

Think about watching those families sitting in those stands cheering for their kids and their sisters and their brothers. 

 

01:00 – Brian (None)

And with Snoop Dogg there next to him. 

 

01:02 – Kayla (None)

Oh, okay, can we just say that he is the best thing that ever happened to the olympics together are just hilarious. 

 

01:09 – Brian (None)

I just love watching them. I have enjoyed the swimming, some of the gymnastics I have really enjoyed that’s. That’s been fun, this shooting a rifle thing, I just I didn’t watch any of that. It was on TV one Saturday. 

 

01:28 – Kayla (None)

See, that was a choice that you made, but I’ve just, I’ve been all in for this one. Not that it’s any different than any other Olympics. 

 

01:38 – Brian (None)

And we have the closing ceremonies coming up. 

 

01:41 – Kayla (None)

So, yeah, not sure if we’ll see those or not, because we are headed where soon To the beach we are headed to the beach. 

 

01:49 – Brian (None)

For our 31st wedding anniversary. 

 

01:52 – Kayla (None)

We are. 

 

01:53 – Brian (None)

We have some friends coming down to join us. 

 

01:54 – Kayla (None)

We do, we’re going to spend a few days by ourselves, and then we have some friends coming to spend. Actually it’s my bestie and her husband and they’re coming to spend a few days with us and you guys are going to what? 

 

02:05 – Brian (None)

Go play some golf. You are Hope I can walk and move my hands the next day, Arthritis. I mean, I couldn’t even. Just to be honest, I couldn’t even go to the gym today because of it. 

 

02:21 – Kayla (None)

But I’m excited. I mean I’ll tank. If you want to use Febreze, you go right ahead. 

 

02:25 – Brian (None)

May not help with your arthritis but you’ll smell good, stop, okay, so Biofreeze. But here we are, I’m excited. I am glad we were not at the beach this week Tropical Storm Debbie has. Yeah, and the day that this episode drops the day you’re listening. Well, let me just say this the day that this episode drops, the day you’re listening. 

 

02:49 – Kayla (None)

Well, let me just say this Not the day that you’re listening to it, possibly, but the day this episode drops, we will celebrate 31 years of marriage. 

 

02:54 – Brian (None)

Yeah, I asked you what could I get you for our 31st wedding anniversary. What was your answer? You. 

 

03:02 – Kayla (None)

No, it’s not what you said. That is what I said you said get me to the beach. To spend time with you Okay that’s sweet. 

 

03:09 – Brian (None)

I looked up what the 31st wedding anniversary gift is and it’s not very exciting. 

 

03:13 – Kayla (None)

What is it? I’m curious. I can’t remember now. Oh, it was that good. 

 

03:16 – Brian (None)

It was not a good. I mean, I’ll get you. 

 

03:19 – Kayla (None)

No, we had this conversation. It drives me crazy when you spend big money on flowers and then I have to throw them away and it makes my heart hurt. 

 

03:29 – Brian (None)

Oh, pearls, I forgot. 

 

03:31 – Kayla (None)

Pearls? Oh Well, I already have those, that’s why. So there we go, happy anniversary. 

 

03:38 – Brian (None)

I mean, they’re not exciting to me, but you like them, yeah. So yeah, happy anniversary, darling. I’d do it all over again. 

 

03:44 – Kayla (None)

Me too. There is a quote we shared on a recent podcast that our entire team had come together and we had summer camp together. We delightfully spent three hours with Dr Natalie Pickering and she walked us through the Enneagram During that time. She shared this quote with us and it has stuck with you and I. Everything that irritates us about others illuminates something about ourselves. 

 

04:22 – Brian (None)

Lord, yes. 

 

04:24 – Kayla (None)

And we’ve been kind of chewing over that you even actually you had our team discuss it this week in like their daily morning thoughts. How is this true? 

 

04:38 – Brian (None)

It’s true, because there are certain things in other people that drive me up a wall. Certain things in other people drive me up a wall. And it’s true. It’s true for every single one of us, because I don’t want to say this. It’s like sandpaper. It’s like that particular characteristics of that person. It gets up next to you and it’s like sandpaper, just rubbing up against you. 

 

05:02 – Kayla (None)

Yeah, and so but often it’s as if God is holding up a mirror to us and the things that are irritating us are because we really know about ourselves. It may be a trait that we’ve either had and we’re working on, or it’s something we don’t really want to have to admit to. 

 

05:22 – Brian (None)

For example, if there’s somebody who how do I say this? Something that aggravates me about somebody else, will often expose arrogance on my part, that like I just want to say to people sometimes, would you just shut up? You have been talking for 60 minutes, do you not? I mean, do you have gills? Are you breathing? Just shut up. And part of that is one, I’m mentally worn out. But also two, it reveals my heart that like I’d like to say something. And how arrogant is that of me to say something, and how arrogant is that of me. So it reminds me of when Jesus said don’t worry about the speck in your neighbor’s eye, worry about the log that’s like in your own. And sometimes I think what happens is that speck is like sandpaper. Yeah, and it irritates something and the question becomes. 

 

06:31

Why is that irritating me? Why is that? Why does that particular person and that particular topic irritate me? Well, let’s just say this one it could just be that they’re stupid or that they’re wrong or something like that, but usually it’s a little deeper than that, because it’s revealing something in me, that there’s an arrogance, that there’s a lack of dependence, that my heart may not be open to certain things. So for me that’s been a big revelation and I don’t like to live there because I like my comfort and I also like to be right, and I just confess that. 

 

07:14 – Kayla (None)

Yeah, none of us likes to have to Do kind of a self-assessment, and this quote sent us in that direction that there are situations where we lose patience with others, or we’re easily angered, or maybe we are worrying about things that aren’t ours to worry about, or am I being self-righteous? Or am I being self-righteous? Or perhaps I’m projecting my own values onto someone else in a situation? Well, this reminded me that in those moments, I need to pause and ask myself what’s the motive behind why I’m acting the way I’m acting? Is it because I’m feeling a rebellious streak, because they’ve shown me something about myself that I don’t want to own, or is it as simple as I thought I had outgrown that? 

 

08:16 – Brian (None)

Now we’re talking about a whole negative side here. Now there could be a positive side. 

 

08:21 – Kayla (None)

Oh, absolutely, yeah, no, I was going to go there, right yeah. 

 

08:24 – Brian (None)

Like because we’ve both. I mean, let me say this I went very heavy on the whole negative side. Now, if there’s somebody who is beating you up mentally and yeah. They’re like abusing you. You know I’m talking about and you feel a certain way. Do not sit there and say well, there is something wrong with me. Well, there is something wrong with me. No, there’s something wrong with that person yeah. Yeah, so please don’t hear what I’m saying at all as a justification for somebody to mistreat you. 

 

08:58 – Kayla (None)

Absolutely and truthfully. We were going to get there in just a second. There are situations where the Lord can use other people to help us grow, to grow in grace, to grow in our own responses, to grow in how we would then react to something. Whereas I may have reacted totally different five or 10 years ago, the Lord may use that person to help me be a better version of myself the next time I may see something modeled to me that I want to emulate. So it’s not just a matter of running away from things. Sometimes it’s a running towards a good behavior or a good decision. That’s a great point, and so there is that. But this quote I think the quote itself lends to admitting the hard stuff. 

 

09:53 – Brian (None)

I like what you just said. That is a big one. I mean, you’ve just blown my mind literally that sometimes what I see in like somebody else, I need that in me and so that kind of pricks at my heart or rubs me but yet I need that and I want that. That’s hard for like me to admit Now I’m going to be honest, but that’s great insight, I mean someone who doesn’t worry about. You ought to be a psychologist. Oh shoot, Because you’re actually fixing me on these podcasts. I see what you’re doing here. 

 

10:28 – Kayla (None)

It took 31 years. 

 

10:29 – Brian (None)

Oh, stop it. 

 

10:32 – Kayla (None)

It’s easy for me to worry. I love being around people who have the capability to not worry about tomorrow. 

 

10:41 – Brian (None)

I don’t, I don’t like being around those people. 

 

10:44 – Kayla (None)

Why. 

 

10:46 – Brian (None)

There’s a comet headed to Earth to hit us and they’re just sitting around knitting pictures of dogs or something. No, I want somebody working on a solution. I want so. 

 

10:58 – Kayla (None)

I need them to. That mind of yours is a very strange place. So I worry, I just don’t. 

 

11:02 – Brian (None)

So I worry. I just don’t express the worry. I like being around people who have a grasp of like reality. 

 

11:09 – Kayla (None)

Well, that’s a given. These are people who they have seen the track record of God and they’re willing to trust that, just as he has the today, he has the tomorrow, and those are the people that I wish I could be more like Now. The people that drive me crazy are the ones who can find something wrong in every good situation. 

 

11:36 – Brian (None)

Oh, my word. 

 

11:37 – Kayla (None)

And those are the ones that. 

 

11:39 – Brian (None)

Those are the ones I want a horse with. 

 

11:41 – Kayla (None)

But then I still have to ask myself why is that getting next to me? And maybe it is just as simple as emulate the good stuff and be mindful of the things that don’t glorify God or make me more like him. And that sounds very easy, but it’s not. 

 

12:06 – Brian (None)

You are blowing my mind this afternoon. This is incredible. 

 

12:10 – Kayla (None)

It’s tough stuff. I mean, you’ve had us thinking about it all week. 

 

12:14 – Brian (None)

I mean you’re dropping truth bomb after just I don’t know Truth bomb here. 

 

12:19 – Kayla (None)

But there was another point that you shared with me, though, and this one’s this one’s pretty much a truth bomb in itself. 

 

12:26 – Brian (None)

The irritation from others reveals oftentimes my own selfishness. In other words, I’m revealing that my world has to be set up in just a certain way so I have complete peace and no aggravation at all in my life. Oh, how selfish I am. Why are you looking? She won’t even look at me right now. Why won’t you even look at me? Because this is true, isn’t it? 

 

12:54 – Kayla (None)

It’s all of us. 

 

12:56 – Brian (None)

I think I’m a little bit more extra. 

 

12:59 – Kayla (None)

I don’t think so. I’m a little extra. Unless you’re just one of those people who chases drama for sport. 

 

13:06 – Brian (None)

Oh, is that me? This is all of us. Is that me? No? 

 

13:11 – Kayla (None)

You hit it with a bat. 

 

13:14 – Brian (None)

The drama, not the person. 

 

13:16 – Kayla (None)

Well, yeah, definitely worth clarifying. 

 

13:19 – Brian (None)

I like peace, I like happiness, I like there to be no aggravation. Now, if it’s fun, I’m in for it, but if it’s somebody just looking for drama, yeah, let me ask this what happens when we refuse to see ourselves rightly? You treat other people wrongly. Yep and you treat other people wrongly and you live in such a way that you cannot be as effective as you need to be. And let me say this you will never see yourself 100% objectively. Nope, I don’t care how it works. 

 

13:58 – Kayla (None)

That’s why you need a Bible study group, a home fellowship group, a church, a Sunday school class, yes, a best friend who is brave enough to look at you and say this version of you is not your best self. I find that when I become overly critical, there is something in me that I’m running away from. 

 

14:18 – Brian (None)

Ice cream. 

 

14:20 – Kayla (None)

What. 

 

14:22 – Brian (None)

You should run toward ice cream, is what I’m saying. Go ahead, but I’m just, I’m just trying to okay, go ahead what are you running away from? 

 

14:30 – Kayla (None)

yes, if I’m being overly critical, it’s running away from something I don’t want to have to deal with in myself. So for all of us, there’s that moment where we have to be willing to hit pause and ask ourself why am I acting like this? And perhaps it’s that I don’t want to have to see myself rightly To her point. What’s that sandpaper that you referred to? What’s causing the friction? Is that something’s being illuminated that we want to keep in the dark? Yes, that I don’t want to keep in the dark. 

 

15:04 – Brian (None)

Yes, that I don’t want to have to deal with. I just want all happy and just all kumbaya. 

 

15:12 – Kayla (None)

So the solution for all of this, we just said it Surround yourself with people who are willing to speak truth into you, the right people.

 

15:20 – Brian (None)

And when something aggravates, you take a pause, investigate your own heart and make sure it’s not something that the Lord’s trying to work on your heart about. I mean, there’s a million things in my heart he’s trying to work on, but I just kind of put a padlock and eat ice cream is how I try. 

 

15:37 – Kayla (None)

You really need some ice cream today, don’t you? No, I don’t know. 

 

15:39 – Announcer (None)

That’s the third time. 

 

15:40 – Kayla (None)

I think you’ve said ice cream. 

 

15:41 – Brian (None)

Is it Maybe, I think that’s inspired of Jesus, right there, that we do that. 

 

15:46 – Kayla (None)

Here’s the truth All of us are on equal footing when it comes to the things that need to be illuminated, and that’s why we have Christ, because none of us is going to get it perfectly right anytime we try. And as he’s revealing to us the things that we need to be irritated about with ourselves, may we take it to them and ask him for the strength to help us overcome. 

 

16:17 – Brian (None)

Wow, I got nothing to add. 

 

16:21 – Kayla (None)

That’s powerful. A little game of high and low. 

 

16:26 – Brian (None)

Is this how to reveal my weight at its highest? If it is, I’m out. This is going to be the shortest podcast we’ve ever done. I am not. No, you know, at the county fair, when you’re walking up and there’s that guy barking, hey, step up here. You know, I will guess your weight and if I’m wrong you get a stuffed animal. 

 

16:43 – Kayla (None)

No, that’s not this kind of high low. Okay, wrong, you get a. No, that’s not this kind of high low. Okay, you’ve either had too much caffeine today? 

 

16:49 – Brian (None)

no, but yeah, I tried that, I actually tried that, and that guy said no, no, no, no, don’t you walk up here, but that’s a whole, stop it. So anyway, highs and lows highs and lows. 

 

16:57 – Kayla (None)

I will start okay a high our first date through our wedding. I have some amazing core memories of dating and getting to know you and our whole time together, of learning about each other, sharing our life in the early days. 

 

17:19 – Brian (None)

You’ve thrown away my pink blanket. 

 

17:20 – Kayla (None)

We’ve already had this conversation. I should write that down. That’s not a high. 

 

17:24 – Brian (None)

That’s a low pink blanket. Go ahead. 

 

17:27 – Kayla (None)

I’m’m gonna have a low for you here in a minute. Let’s go ahead are you done? 

 

17:33 – Brian (None)

I’m done. 

 

17:34 – Kayla (None)

I apologize a low the day we found out that we couldn’t have children. What was a high for you, oh? 

 

17:43 – Brian (None)

you’re getting me emotional. Uh, the first time I saw you walking in the office and you’re sitting behind that desk and I’ve told this story a million times I just I was smitten, I was gone. I actually walked back to my friend’s office One of my best friends stand and went in his office, shut the door, said I have to kiss that girl or else I will die. I was smitten, done. 

 

18:07 – Kayla (None)

I mean, I had it was a while before we got there, but we got there, yeah. 

 

18:11 – Brian (None)

Well, I didn’t want to get sued. Um hello for me was waiting on your cancer results. When you had that breast cancer scare, I was uh it was a hard season. Oh, because I couldn’t imagine life without you, yeah, and having and you hurting, because I want to do everything I can to keep you from pain. That was a low. 

 

18:34 – Kayla (None)

Yeah, it was tough. A high Mm-hmm Our very first trip to Disney. We fell in love with Disney World. You looked at me. 

 

18:43 – Brian (None)

I’ll never forget this. We’re at that castle. You looked at me, baby, thank you for bringing me to the castle. I’ll never, as long as you were such a little girl. And the second, let me say this. And then seeing you meet Winnie the Pooh, oh my gosh, yeah, you squealed like a little eight-year-old. You were just it’s Winnie the Pooh, it’s Winnie the Pooh. 

 

19:06 – Kayla (None)

Hello, the year the pandemic hit, disney closed the week we were due to visit and then we were not able to get back to Disney World for four years. It was about four years, yeah. 

 

19:23 – Brian (None)

Well, we’re back now, baby. We are back, hi, taking you to see the Kingsman for the first time. 

 

19:30 – Kayla (None)

That was an experience. 

 

19:31 – Brian (None)

That was an experience. 

 

19:32 – Kayla (None)

One of my favorite. I did not grow up with gospel music. You had no idea. 

 

19:37 – Brian (None)

And then along that same train, there was a singer in the Kingsman for years, his name was Jim Hamill and going to his funeral. 

 

19:47 – Kayla (None)

Was a low. That was a low for years, his name was Jim Hamill, and going to his funeral Was a low. That was a low for me. A high for me was the day we bought our first home in Virginia. I thought the same thing we had lived here for a year and a low was leaving the friends who were family to us in New. Orleans, that was tough we left a church and a friend network that honestly, I don’t think we realized how good we had it until we left. 

 

20:12 – Brian (None)

It was incredible. 

 

20:14 – Kayla (None)

And that’s true of all of us. You don’t realize, we didn’t know a soul. Yeah, but we did not realize how close-knit our life was until we got here. 

 

20:25 – Brian (None)

I was buying our home. Yeah, I remember sitting in that that I guess as a lawyer’s office and I bet you I signed 85 I had no idea what I signed I know we could have signed away for all we know that said here, sir, you can sign this. Here, sir, you can. A low is when something breaks and I can’t fix it. That’s a low for me, because I it, and yet god always brings the right person. 

 

20:47 – Kayla (None)

I know it. 

 

20:48 – Brian (None)

But I should be able to do that. But I’d rather read a book than learn how to use a tool. 

 

20:53 – Kayla (None)

Well, that’s fine. There are people who love tools. 

 

20:56 – Brian (None)

So there we go. 

 

20:57 – Kayla (None)

A high for me was your first book launch. I was so proud of you. The very month that your book launched they set up a book tour and the week of your first book tour event we lost Sprocket. I remember that, and we had to walk into this season of going around talking about your book meeting people Smiling, shaking hands. And on the inside, we were just crumbling crushed because we had just said goodbye to sprocket yeah that was our baby he was our pup so a high is disney with you and a low is just anywhere without you. 

 

21:41 – Brian (None)

no, it’s true. I mean I I don’t enjoy being away from you, I don’t like it. But a high for me is going to Disney, even if it’s the 100th time Watching you walk through that English village. At Epcot, you’re just on cloud nine, you’re just good, and that’s me watching you in Star Wars. 

 

22:01 – Kayla (None)

Yeah, oh, I’m so excited it’s going to be a little while it’s going to be a little while before we get to go back. So there are some highs and lows as we embark on our I guess our 32nd year. 

 

22:13 – Brian (None)

Wow, they said we’d never make it. They did not. There’s some of them. Well, here we are, here we are. We showed them, didn’t? 

 

22:20 – Kayla (None)

we, who are they? 

 

22:22 – Brian (None)

Well, I’ll tell you some names after the podcast is over. Okay, so? 

 

22:26 – Kayla (None)

So we have a question, oh, and this one’s going to. It’s going to require a little thought, okay, but if you go to our website and if you answer this question correctly, you will win a Peas and Carrots coffee mug and some stickers. 

 

22:40 – Brian (None)

Just like Karen from Christiansburg won this past week. Oh, she sure did. She sure did. Karen from Christiansburg picked herself up a coffee mug, a pen, a notepad and some Cute little stickers that Miss Kayla loves. 

 

22:55 – Kayla (None)

So this week’s question if you go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom, look for the trivia button and you click that and you answer this question. What is a high low for you? Share with us a high low. 

 

23:11 – Brian (None)

And we can share some of those on the podcast. 

 

23:13 – Kayla (None)

We could. It would be really great to do that. 

 

23:15 – Brian (None)

So hey, go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Click on the trivia button to answer this question. 

 

23:21 – Kayla (None)

What is a high low for you? 

 

23:23 – Brian (None)

And when you answer that you’ll get yourself a coffee mug, a pen, a notepad and some cute little stickers. 

 

23:30 – Kayla (None)

And we would ask you to do one other thing Please go to our Peas and Carrots Facebook or Instagram page and tag a picture of yourself drinking coffee or tea, or whatever. We’d love for you to do that and share it with us. 

 

23:50 – Brian (None)

You can find us on Instagram and Facebook. You sure can Just look up Peas and Carrots Podcast. Hey, thanks for listening, and you can search the Peas and Carrots Podcast wherever you get your podcasts or visit our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. 

 

24:03 – Kayla (None)

When you do, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast. 

 

24:06 – Brian (None)

And hey, just like we said, please go follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Just search for the Peas and Carrots Podcast. 

 

24:12 – Announcer (None)

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Season 3, Episode 27: Not Home Yet

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Not Home Yet - Episode Description

What if living your faith authentically could transform the world around you? Join us on the Peas and Carrots Podcast as we kick off with a light-hearted confession about our love for Chick-fil-A ice cream and share our collective excitement for the Olympics, celebrating the incredible triumphs of athletes like Simone Biles. We sprinkle in some humor with a funny story about our new programmable AC unit and share a heartfelt visit to our friend Donna, who is on the mend from a recent accident. Our conversation takes a thoughtful twist as we unpack the controversial moments from the Olympic opening ceremonies and discuss the concept of living in the world but not being of it. We dive deep into the idea that non-believers should not be expected to adhere to Christian values and the importance of not imposing our beliefs on others.

This episode also tackles the nuanced topic of boycotting events and products from a faith-based perspective. We emphasize personal conviction and maintaining a Christ-like attitude, making a clear distinction between persecution and mockery. You’ll hear us reflect on how the gospel should be the only offensive element in our lives, not our behaviors or words. To bring it all home, we highlight the temporary nature of this world and the eternal hope of heaven, encouraging our listeners to glorify Christ in their daily lives. And don’t miss our exciting trivia contest! Participate for a chance to win some fantastic Peas and Carrots Podcast prizes. Tune in, and let’s navigate living out our faith in an ever-changing world together.

Not Home Yet - Transcript

00:00 – Announcer (None)

We go together like peas and carrots the peas and carrots podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

00:11 – Brian (Host)

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian, and welcome to this week’s edition of the vegetable patch. 

 

00:18

What is up in the world of peas and carrots? 

 

00:21

Okay, first of all, we just had a Chick-fil-a ice cream cone. So if you hear us, it’s, we just had a Chick-fil-A ice cream cone. So if you hear us, it’s because we just had ice cream. 

 

00:28

Confession is not good for the soul in this moment. 

 

00:31

Oh, okay. 

 

00:33 – Kayla (Host)

Just kidding. Well, I’m just getting it out there on the table. 

 

00:36 – Brian (Host)

You just got a little drainage after all the ice cream Got a little bit of drainage. 

 

00:40 – Kayla (Host)

We have been watching the Olympics and loving it, yeah. So in all seriousness, I don’t want to spoil anything, but if you have been watching, some people are actually watching it later they are. I learned there are people who have Peacock the app and they are watching it of Peacock the app and they are watching it. But to see two athletes conquer their physical and mental health issues and win gold is amazing. 

 

01:14 – Brian (Host)

Simone Biles is just an inspiration. She really is, that’s the truth and you’ve been watching it every night. 

 

01:20 – Kayla (Host)

Except last night I fell out because, yeah, this whole, well, there wasn’t a lot. 

 

01:25 – Brian (Host)

I’m not going to say that. 

 

01:26 – Kayla (Host)

There was a lot, I just I was tired so I took a break last night. But tonight is some more women’s gymnastics, so I will be watching that, if the Sanders were involved in Olympics, who would win the gold medal? 

 

01:39 – Brian (Host)

Oh, our new AC unit would win the gold medal. Oh, gotcha, okay, yes our new ac unit would win the oh gotcha. Okay, yes, you like. You’re in love with our new ac. Yeah, it’s programmable. It has a programmable thermostat. 

 

01:53 – Kayla (Host)

I have an app on my phone you can set it to like turn down and cool the house before we get home. 

 

01:58 – Brian (Host)

It’s on a schedule, I never have to go the thermostat. 

 

02:01 – Kayla (Host)

It’s weird yeah, I’m still getting used to that so because, y’all, we had an old timey one where you had to slide the thermostat up and down. 

 

02:10 – Brian (Host)

I don’t know if that’s old timey, they still make that maybe it was 20 years old. 

 

02:14 – Kayla (Host)

well, I mean okay. So yesterday was everything. We got to visit our friend slash co-worker, donna, in Winston-Salem, north Carolina. She is recovering from a recent accident and it was just seeing her smile, getting to laugh with her, seeing how well she’s doing with her healing, so yeah, she looked good. 

 

02:41 – Brian (Host)

She did, she laughed joked, yeah, she looked good. 

 

02:43 – Kayla (Host)

She did, yeah, she laughed, yeah, joked. She’s got a ways to go, so please keep praying for her, but it was a great visit. 

 

02:50 – Brian (Host)

She’s doing her own Olympics. I just saw where she had to play the drummys today Uh-huh, for part of her physical therapy. 

 

02:58 – Kayla (Host)

Yep. 

 

03:00 – Brian (Host)

So that’s, I mean, I don’t know, that’s just a whole new way of therapy for me. I guess the opening ceremonies of the Olympics we have some thoughts. The social medias have been on fire. 

 

03:17 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, just on fire, I do not miss Facebook. So yeah, I want to give a disclaimer, not miss Facebook. So yeah, I want to give a disclaimer before we go here. This is not one of those moments where we’re going to get on our soapbox and we are not coming at anyone. This is just some thoughts that in light of the opening ceremony, and some people may be like I have no idea what you’re talking about, so I will share very briefly. 

 

03:46

There were two incidences during the opening ceremony. Apparently, there was a scene where the performers we will put it that way were making a mockery of the Lord’s Supper, and then there was another. I actually watched this one, so’m just I’m gonna confess I think I kind of dozed off before the the lord’s supper thing. I came back for a little while. Later on I woke back up, but yeah, that thing goes. I forgot how long the opening ceremony is, but anyway, earlier in the evening you and I were both speechless. At a, there was an artistic interpretation. There were three people dancing through the streets of Paris and it was very risque, and yes, I’m trying to choose my words carefully here, but at the end of the scene it was very suggestive and they were the three of them going into a room and closing the door, and you and I both were absolutely shocked. 

 

04:49 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, I couldn’t believe it was like in family primetime. 

 

04:52 – Kayla (Host)

And this is happening. So the question that I’ve been sitting with and you and I talked about this after watching the opening ceremony and then, like the dumpster fire, that is the interwebs what does it look like to be in this world, but not of this world? And it led to this ongoing conversation that we just want to have with all of you today. 

 

05:19 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, Let me start off with this basic principle. Okay, and we’re taking that particular principle as to living in the world, but you’re not of it, and so let me say this how do you respond to the world as well? How do you live in it, not be of it, but also respond to it? I’m going to lay down this particular foundational truth. This particular foundational truth Never expect unbelievers to love, act like or honor what believers love, act like and honor. Don’t do it, because you will set yourself up for failure. So that is the basic principle there that I want to start with, because they don’t know your God and you cannot legislate or force people to live like a Christian. 

 

06:18 – Kayla (Host)

There’s a couple of other disclaimers that we want to give. If you feel a strong conviction to boycott something, I say that’s between you and God and that is where it should stay. Here’s just. This is just my take. If doing so requires you to incite anger and project hate on everyone around you, maybe it’s worth taking a pause first, and this is not going to be a political discussion. That’s not where our heads are as we broach just our thoughts on this. 

 

06:57

Yes, there were moments in the opening ceremony that gave me a lot to think about. Even yet, I did not decide well, I’m not watching one minute of the Olympics because of that. These athletes worked really hard to get where they are. I want them to know that I’m sitting on my couch cheering for them, rooting for them, posting about them, because I can’t go that far personally. I can’t say well, this was just evil and not of God, so I refuse to have anything to do with the Olympics. And if that is where you, as a listener, have landed, that’s between you and God. So that’s just a disclaimer we want to give Exactly so. 

 

07:45 – Brian (Host)

Again, we want to say this it is our stance that, like, if you want to boycott something, do it quietly, because you never see I don’t want to say this. You never see Jesus and the apostles holding up picket signs or anything like that. Their goal is to not be offended by the world. Their goal is to change the world. 

 

08:13 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

08:13 – Brian (Host)

And to change it you usually have to be friendly with people. So let me say this also the church has faced persecution since the beginning of time. What happened at the Olympics is not persecution. Okay, that is just. You could call it mockery, you could call it misunderstanding, all that other kind of stuff, but it isn’t persecution. Now, when you’re being persecuted, you’re being put in jail for your faith. You’re being killed for your faith. Yeah, so let’s get that straight. ‘re being killed for your faith? Yeah, so let’s get that straight. Is that that wasn’t persecution? 

 

08:49 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

08:50 – Brian (Host)

That was something else, and what we’re talking about is how to react to it. How would Jesus respond? 

 

08:58 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, here’s a truth that you and I both live by, because we have friends with varying backgrounds, with varying lifestyles, and yet we have chosen to lean in and love. Well, our lives should make some uncomfortable, so this is where I’m kind of going to go there a little bit. We have guidelines for how we should live, and those are presented to us through his word and the Spirit’s nudging. As a believer, there are things that I know I’m going to feel a conviction for is more about who they see in us than what we say from our megaphones, our social media platforms and felt judgment. Should they brave attending our churches? I want to be a person that I’m living out my faith, but I’m not shoving it down someone’s throat. 

 

10:05 – Brian (Host)

Here’s what Ms Miss Kayla is saying your life and the gospel should make people uncomfortable. Yeah, the way that you talk to people should not. 

 

10:16 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

10:17 – Brian (Host)

In other words, the gospel is offensive. You don’t have to be, yeah, don’t be a jerk. 

 

10:23 – Kayla (Host)

Well, jesus dined with sinners and he walked with broken people. 

 

10:27 – Brian (Host)

Yes, One of the apostles was a zealot, was a terrorist I can’t. I’m trying to grab his name here and it escapes me. Also, that woman at the well yeah, she had how many husbands, yeah. Woman at the well, she had how many husbands, yeah. Then apparently, mary Magdalene was a very. She was a woman of the world according to church tradition. 

 

10:52 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

10:53 – Brian (Host)

And none of these people were like perfect. Matthew was a tax collector. And look at Paul he murdered. There’s a great quote about Paul that says Paul entered heaven to the cheers of the people he martyred. That’s how the gospel works, that we want society to live like we do, that we forget that it takes the gospel to change a heart and so you can’t legislate that. So back to what you said, Ms Kayla, because it was powerful. You said our lives should make some uncomfortable. 

 

11:41 – Kayla (Host)

They should. That’s how I should be in the world, but not of it so powerful. They should see something in me that they yearn for, but not my hate or not my vitriol about everything and not your Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or whatever. 

 

12:01 – Brian (Host)

it’s called X rants or whatever. 

 

12:03 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, I know all that stuff. 

 

12:05 – Brian (Host)

It’s possible to love the person and also hate the sin From Facebook posts and like social media. We’re hating the people and that will never win anybody to Christ. That will never bring them, because think about this Jesus said that if you gain the whole world and yet lose your soul, what is a prophet? Hmm, what if you won the moral high ground all over the world? What if you forced everybody to live the way you do, but they never believe the gospel? 

 

12:47 – Kayla (Host)

It’s all for naught what is the profit in that. I want to say this it is just and it is good to have conversations with others about living a gospel-centered life. It is on me to talk about my walk with Christ, but I can do that without always putting others on defense or making them doubt that the Jesus that we love could ever love them. May the gospel be offensive. May we not be offensive. 

 

13:20 – Brian (Host)

Amen, you ought to preach sometime. No, no, no. 

 

13:28 – Kayla (Host)

This world is not our home. 

 

13:29 – Brian (Host)

Amen. This is a temporary place, yeah, and we long for the hope of heaven, but we may not. But help us not to squander the privilege we have of glorifying christ in our time here. So here’s the thing sometimes it’s like we fight as though this is our eternal home, as though this is where and we should take care of this place. But y’all, we’re just passing through. Yeah, our hope is not built here. No, and it’s like we’re just all ramped up about you know, we got to. Anyway, before I go off, on. 

 

14:02 – Kayla (Host)

I was going to say you’re, you’re you got one foot on the soapbox. 

 

14:05 – Brian (Host)

I know, I know. 

 

14:07 – Kayla (Host)

Bottom line. 

 

14:08 – Brian (Host)

A few things I want to say. 

 

14:10 – Kayla (Host)

I know. So I’m reining you in because we promised this was not going to go there. I know. 

 

14:14 – Brian (Host)

I got kind of close. 

 

14:28 – Kayla (Host)

The challenge to me when situations like this arise, where I think back to and we will not dwell here, but I think back to the Starbucks Red Cup and how Christians lost their ever-loving mind over a Starbucks Red Cup. Yes, may we not be remembered for those types of moments where, as a believer, it even still sits with me and I chuckle on the inside. May we bring people to tears because they long for a faith that we have that makes them want to draw closer to him, because that’s the whole end game. Is the way I act, the way I react and y’all, I do not get this perfectly right. Not even once a day do I necessarily. 

 

15:13 – Brian (Host)

Well, you do pretty good. 

 

15:15 – Kayla (Host)

But I think I just I told you the other night after watching the opening ceremony yes, I was heart sick, I was some of what I saw. But we live in a broken world. We are broken people. May we chase so hard after Jesus that in doing that, our lives somehow inspire others to pursue him as well. 

 

15:43 – Brian (Host)

I have nothing to add to that Beautiful. 

 

15:46 – Kayla (Host)

Shall, we play some trivia. I thought you would like this. I like trivia. 

 

15:50 – Brian (Host)

You like these little games, I like these little games. Yeah, and you came up with the questions. 

 

15:56 – Kayla (Host)

I always do. 

 

15:59 – Brian (Host)

I had some in here every now and then. Well, you do? 

 

16:02 – Kayla (Host)

I left room for you to add some but you didn’t. You’ve had a little busy week, so I get it. What’s the first question? 

 

16:09 – Brian (Host)

If you had to participate in one Olympic sport, which would you choose? 

 

16:14 – Announcer (None)

I would choose gymnastics Because I was in gymnastics as a child and I hope it would come back to me. 

 

16:23 – Kayla (Host)

I want to talk about this a second. 

 

16:26 – Brian (Host)

When you dance, one leg moves and one finger goes up and down, how are you going to do gymnastics? 

 

16:34 – Kayla (Host)

Gymnastics is flipping and turning. It’s not If you can’t flip and turn. 

 

16:38 – Brian (Host)

if you can’t dance and you fell down the stairs a year ago. 

 

16:43 – Kayla (Host)

I’m feeling a little attacked. 

 

16:46 – Brian (Host)

What would yours be Swimming, I could float. Oh my gosh, I can’t run, flip, jump, nothing. I can’t pummel that horse or whatever it’s called. I can’t do any of that stuff. I’d float, but then every now and then I hope I wouldn’t get harpooned, though as I’m floating across the pool. 

 

17:10 – Kayla (Host)

Look Mom mom, it’s moby dick. You know it’s a whale. You you didn’t. Are you done? You didn’t find that? 

 

17:13 – Brian (Host)

no, okay, next name one item on your bucket list to be married to you for 50 years no you’re gonna say something like eat ice cream and all the disney cards well, that one’s a given. 

 

17:29 – Kayla (Host)

Um well, I’ll say another one do please, okay, I don’t know um, I will start then. Okay, I look forward to the day that we will do a cruise of europe oh, wow, well see, I got. 

 

17:45 – Brian (Host)

I’d like okay, I’d like to write a book about abraham a cruise of Europe. Oh, wow, well see, I’d like to write a book about Abraham Lincoln. 

 

17:51 – Kayla (Host)

Okay, nobody’s shocked by that. 

 

17:56 – Brian (Host)

I’d like to go back to Greece. I’d like to go back. Oh, greece was amazing. I’d like to go back to Switzerland, although we’ve been checking the temperatures in Greece and Rome, right now 98. 

 

18:07 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, they’re dying in Paris. It’s hot. 

 

18:09 – Brian (Host)

If you could eat only one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be For me? Fried chicken Every day, Every single day. 

 

18:20 – Kayla (Host)

See, I would say steak, mashed potatoes and rolls. 

 

18:23 – Brian (Host)

Oh, I get to like I thought it was just one food. I said meal, oh oh, fried chicken, rice and gravy. 

 

18:33 – Kayla (Host)

Okay. 

 

18:34 – Brian (Host)

I could eat rice every day of my life. 

 

18:36 – Kayla (Host)

Okay. 

 

18:36 – Brian (Host)

Okay. 

 

18:39 – Kayla (Host)

What scares you more? Failure or never trying? 

 

18:43 – Brian (Host)

Failure? Yeah, because I’m too dumb not to try. To try, I mean I’ll try, I mean I’ll. 

 

18:50 – Kayla (Host)

I could live with failure. I could not live with never trying I can’t. 

 

18:54 – Brian (Host)

Uh. Well, now I’m making me think this differently. I will try anything that doesn’t make me afraid. Failure scares me, so I will pivot. 

 

19:07 – Kayla (Host)

See, I’m more scared of having a wasted life. 

 

19:10 – Brian (Host)

Well, I guess that’s where. Okay, let me say this I don’t think I am wasting it, so I’m willing to try anything. 

 

19:19 – Kayla (Host)

This question’s really tripping you up. 

 

19:20 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, because here’s the thing I’ll do something twice, because I figured I did it wrong first time. 

 

19:26 – Kayla (Host)

Well then you’re not scared of failure. 

 

19:29 – Announcer (None)

Oh. 

 

19:30 – Kayla (Host)

You’d be more scared of never taking the risk. 

 

19:33 – Announcer (None)

True. 

 

19:33 – Brian (Host)

Yeah. 

 

19:34 – Kayla (Host)

Okay, what’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done? 

 

19:38 – Brian (Host)

Going to that gym the very first time. 

 

19:41 – Kayla (Host)

Mm-hmm, I can see that. 

 

19:44 – Brian (Host)

Was I supposed to say something else? 

 

19:45 – Kayla (Host)

no, I’m just that’s um yours marrying me. No, I would out for you. I would say I taught a cpr instructor’s class to 15 firemen one time and it was the most terrifying. When was this? Back in new orleans, when I was certified in cpr and first aid, I actually had to teach to become an instructor and I actually had to teach a class of firemen and it was terrifying, but second only to the first time I ever walked in your gym. That was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. 

 

20:30 – Brian (Host)

Our gym. If you had to learn another language, which would you choose? 

 

20:36 – Kayla (Host)

I would choose French because I think it’s such a beautiful language. 

 

20:41 – Brian (Host)

I would sound terrible, but I’ve had four years of training in german, so I would naturally lean toward no, no, you already know that you have to learn a language. No cheating I guess spanish okay, I don’t know any spanish, oh, I see I like spanish, any Spanish. 

 

21:01 – Kayla (Host)

Oh, I see I like Spanish. What is one character flaw you struggle to overlook? Don’t give any names, but I don’t want to say it’s the unforgivable, but what is one character flaw? That it’s just really. This is like confession time. 

 

21:18 – Brian (Host)

And myself or other people. 

 

21:19 – Kayla (Host)

Either no names. 

 

21:22 – Brian (Host)

And other people, people who never shut up. It’s like they don’t even stop and take a breath. It’s just, it’s like they’re circular, it’s like they got gills and they never have to stop. And they just keep going, and going, and going, ok, ok. 

 

21:42 – Kayla (Host)

For me, it’s people who lie. I really struggle with dishonest people, but one of my core values is integrity, so I just have to feel that what you’re saying is something that I can get behind, that it’s truthful, so yeah, so those are just some random trivia items. 

 

22:03 – Brian (Host)

That’s interesting, but what is one character flaw you struggle to overlook in yourself, in? 

 

22:09 – Kayla (Host)

myself. 

 

22:10 – Brian (Host)

I’ll start with me. Okay, flaw that I have is I can listen for a short amount of time and I struggle to listen for a really long amount of time and that aggravates me. You zone out, I zone out. 

 

22:26 – Kayla (Host)

A character flaw in myself is that and you have none. Oh, I have plenty. Okay, I’m actually going to give two no, because it’s something that I often struggle with Through this podcast. I never want to come across as self-righteous you don’t. But second of all, this is me answering the question.

 

22:48

I apologize the second one is I am my own worst critic yes, you are and I am constantly the person that’s telling myself that I got it all wrong and so learn. I’m learning to give myself credit. What was the good in that situation? Because my brain trends toward the kayla. You should have done this. You should have said that, you should have thought this out. Um, you’re the reason this happened. Blah, blah, blah. So yeah, that’s, that’s a character flaw in me I don’t’t think so. 

 

23:22 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, well, I can see where you struggle with that and it breaks my heart. Yeah. 

 

23:26 – Kayla (Host)

So, anyway, that’s enough confession for today. If you go to our website, which is peasandcarrotspodcastcom. And you answer the question correctly, you can win a whole like plethora of things. A mug and stickers and a notepad and a pen and all kind of stuff. A little post-it note. 

 

23:45 – Brian (Host)

Really. 

 

23:46 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, it’s a little notepad of post-its. 

 

23:48 – Brian (Host)

So you go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. When you get there, you click the trivia button. And what is this week’s trivia question? 

 

23:56 – Kayla (Host)

Which Olympic sport would you choose? So which Olympic sport would? 

 

24:02 – Brian (Host)

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24:21 – Brian (Host)

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Season 3, Episode 26: When Silence Is Deafening

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When Silence is Deafening - Episode Description

Join us for a whirlwind week as we share the highs and lows of returning home from an uplifting summer camp with our PAR family. From the unexpected demise of our AC unit and a stuck doorbell causing an electrical scare to a malfunctioning water heater and an ant invasion in our kitchen, it seemed like everything that could go wrong did. Despite the chaos, we reflect on the incredible experience of summer camp and the importance of community and support during trying times.

Then we explore the struggle of feeling, or not, God’s presence. We discuss the importance of reading scripture, praying, and recognizing daily mercies as evidence of God’s ongoing work, even when His presence isn’t felt. Reflecting on past experiences where God has been present fuels our current faith, even during difficult and confusing times, and we highlight the significance of accepting God’s sovereignty and trusting His decisions.

Lastly, we take you through our fun and eventful camp experience, starting with a barbecue by the lake, an engaging scavenger hunt, and a humorous noise complaint incident during our ladies’ pajama party.

When Silence is Deafening - Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Kayla

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. 

 

0:00:13 – Brian

I’m Brian, I’m Kayla. Welcome to this week’s edition, mercy where do we begin? Y’all, it has been a week. It has. It has been a week If you’ve ever seen a meme of this gopher that just sits on a fence and screams. 

 

0:00:30 – Kayla

That’s what we feel like doing. 

 

0:00:31 – Brian

That’s exactly where we’ve been. 

 

0:00:33 – Kayla

But let’s start here so we’ll start with the reason that we kind of went AWOL. Last week Our PAR family came together for summer camp. Our PAR family came together for summer camp and what this is is it’s an opportunity to come together to do some mid-year training and culture building. We’ll share some stories about that in a few minutes, but the entire PAR team traveled to Tennessee Our WCQR team, who is in Johnson City, Tennessee. 

 

They hosted it, hosted us, planned it, planned it, hosted it Knocked it, hosted it, knocked it out of the park. Incredible, it was amazing. So that’s where we were last week. And then we came home on Thursday evening and what did we discover? 

 

0:01:16 – Brian

That our AC unit had died. 

 

0:01:18 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:01:19 – Brian

So we called the company that we normally work with. They come out Friday and they tell us it’s not an easy fix. The whole system has to be replaced. Yeah, when it went south is when we asked well, could you? When? And they said August 14th, which would be like three or four weeks of us living in a house with no air conditioning. 

 

0:01:41 – Kayla

And 90 degrees outside Now listen. 

 

0:01:43 – Brian

I understand that for some of y’all that’s not a big deal, but yet for Fat Boy here that’s a big deal. I’m just saying. 

 

0:01:49 – Kayla

It was a big deal for me too. We ended up, long story short, we ended up doing five nights with no air conditioning. God smiled on us even in the fact that the temperatures were weirdly low for July. We had some stormy evenings and then it went down to the 60s, but y’all our house got up to 81 degrees. 

 

0:02:12 – Brian

And yeah, and let me just say this I want to thank James Kramer with Radford Mechanical. We’ve known him and his family for. 

 

0:02:21 – Kayla

He fit us in during a very busy season for himself, spent an entire day and a morning to assure that we would have air conditioning before next week goes back to the 90s. 

 

0:02:35 – Brian

So, thank you, he fit us in. We would highly recommend him. I highly recommend him. 

 

0:02:41 – Kayla

And we are not getting any kind of discount for that. 

 

0:02:44 – Brian

So I just need to say that there is no, we did not of discount for that. So I just need to say that there is no. 

 

0:02:46 – Kayla

We did not get prompted to say that. 

 

0:02:48 – Brian

We wanted to say that when the original company came out to investigate what was going on, they rang the front doorbell and that doorbell is 20 years old. 

 

0:02:57 – Kayla

That doorbell got stuck, uh-huh well, he said there was a short in the wire between the doorbell and when you walk upstairs, you, when you walk upstairs, you could hear it. 

 

0:03:07 – Brian

And then you started smelling electrical burning, went back downstairs and we unstuck the doorbell, got it stopped and whatever. That electrical burning stopped and so we had to call another company to come out Replace our unit and replace the doorbell. And one of us was always home I think that happened on a Friday, so one of us was always home on Friday, Saturday, Sunday, because we didn’t want somebody coming up ringing the doorbell and having a fire, having a fire, yeah, and so that got changed out Monday morning. So there’s that. That got fixed, that’s done. And our water heater didn’t give us hot water, but that was a simple fix. 

 

0:03:44 – Kayla

we got that done but we thought we were looking at a new water heater. And then the thing that broke me all of that ac unit, okay, that stinks, but roll on um water heater, man, that’s a cold bath. Roll on doorbell. Thank god the house didn’t burn down while we were gone. Ant-palooza. We wake up yesterday morning and it’s as if ants have stormed the gates. The kitchen is covered in ants. 

 

0:04:14 – Brian

And I just need to say this is that my wife keeps a very clean house. 

 

0:04:17 – Kayla

Okay, they apparently came in with the change in weather. I read and learned that ants will they like air conditioning too? Well. 

 

0:04:29 – Brian

Can you blame them? 

 

0:04:30 – Kayla

It went from being very, very hot to very, very wet. We started getting rain every day, and so I read that they were trying to find somewhere outside of the rain and they were getting in and they found your kitchen. And I just I looked at you and I said I’m done, I just I can’t handle it anymore. But you went and bought this stuff called stem there was this stuff at Target and, knock on wood, we’ve not had any ants today. They were all gone as of this morning. 

 

0:05:00 – Brian

And then I bought some stuff for outside. You sprayed outside. 

 

0:05:04 – Kayla

So it has been a first world problem kind of week. Let us say that Even in the midst of all of it, we are both okay. Our home is nice and cool. There were no health effects of being in a very hot house, which I was worried about for you, so I was not sleeping at night because I was afraid you were going to have a sugar crash or something. I had Hampton Inn in the back of my mind that you know. We had a place we could go if we had to. It was just a lot in a very short amount of time and the reality is we can see how the things that took place at summer camp the worship, the community, the culture that was built, the love that was poured out between team members the enemy didn’t like that and he came out and he came out, and it wasn’t just us. 

 

A lot of our team members are walking through some hardcore stuff coming out of camp, so we would welcome your prayers. We are fine. Our house no longer smells like it’s burning and it’s cool. 

 

0:06:12 – Brian

And the team will be fine. 

 

0:06:13 – Kayla

They will be. It’s just a lot. So we will share some fun stories about camp in just a few minutes. 

 

0:06:23 – Brian

Silence. I do not enjoy silence and if we’re having a conversation with somebody and there’s like that awkward silence, I can’t. That’s a recipe that like we’re not going to be friends. I don’t sit here and just look at somebody for 10 minutes. Somebody needs to talk, but what happens? How do you deal with, how do you move forward when you feel that God is silent or you can’t feel him? 

 

0:06:55 – Kayla

And this is very honest and kind of scary to admit because, first of all, what I do in my work, I’m there and I admitted that to you the other night I feel and there’s a key word in there I feel God is silent and I’m really struggling with not feeling his voice or his presence in my life. 

 

0:07:21 – Brian

There’s some Kleenex. 

 

0:07:22 – Kayla

So we’ve talked about this. No, I’m hoping not to cry. 

 

0:07:25 – Brian

Well, you’ve already started. I can see life. 

 

0:07:26 – Kayla

So we’ve talked about this. No, I’m hoping not to cry, but I am stuck in a place of believing that God is for everyone else and this is not a therapy session. 

 

0:07:39 – Brian

So don’t charge each of you $125. 

 

0:07:42 – Kayla

You’re not going to get a bill. 

 

0:07:44 – Brian

Oh, I’d like to, I mean help out the ministry. 

 

0:07:48 – Kayla

What did you remind me? So, for those who perhaps have either been there yourself or you are there, that you also are struggling with feeling that God is just not active, you’re not seeing or believing or feeling his strength in your life, what are some key things that you’ve reminded me this week, and I’m clinging to them, but I’m still struggling. 

 

0:08:13 – Brian

First thing I would say is listen. Now, this is for me because I’m a fixer. I mean, as soon as you start talking to me, I had six or seven solutions in my head and I started talking and the first thing would be would you just listen? 

 

0:08:28 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:08:29 – Brian

Okay. So whoever’s going through this, talk to somebody, but make sure that they’re a listener. So here’s some things that I tried to nudge you on. First of all, RC Sproul said this who God is doesn’t depend on how I feel about him. 

 

0:08:48 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:08:49 – Brian

He’s still God. That should give me hope and confidence, because my feelings can be all over the map. Let me give you an example. You ever read the Psalms? Yeah, in this first Psalm, David’s like oh, you’re the greatest God, oh, you’re great, I’m worshiping you. In the next Psalm, he’s in the pit. Yeah, somebody just throw dirt on me and bury me because God hates me. So my first encouragement to you was read the Psalms, because it will tell you that you’re not the only human who has ever dealt with this. 

 

0:09:22 – Kayla

Which lends to keep praying, keep reading His Word and something that you have said to me many times remember in the dark what you learned in the light, and that’s tough when you are in a season that, if you’ve never been here, I actually do pray, that you never have to. It is a terrible feeling that God is just void and I’m reminding myself every single day of his word. I’m reminding myself of how he has shown up in the past, of the things you encouraged me and I do. I journal every day, but you have reminded me to specifically journal. What are the things that today prove to me? 

 

the tiny mercies that, and I think we all kind of get on autopilot. We’re living our life. Maybe we take a little too much credit for it. Maybe we believe that we can somehow earn it. 

 

You wake up in the morning, or if I’m good enough if I do, enough if I, and none of that changes. And maybe that’s some of the things he’s trying to remind me. But I keep picking up my Bible and I keep talking to him. Sometimes it feels like it’s bouncing off the ceiling, but I can’t just stop doing that, as hard as the outcome may feel. 

 

0:11:05 – Brian

The Puritans actually taught that God will sometimes remove his ability for you to actually feel him, and so that, as a result, you become more dependent on him. So that’s what they taught, and it comes from the Psalms, actually, that you see that. And so here’s what’s amazing is that you want to sense his presence, you want to feel again that he cares, and so what are you doing? You’re reading his word, you’re praying, and so I guess, in a sense and this is where you get into like, in other words, why is God doing this? I don’t know the answer to that. 

 

0:11:38 – Kayla

And I don’t either, but not yet, but yet. 

 

0:11:41 – Brian

I can say this I see you pursuing him, I see you reading, I see you praying, so I can see evidence of what he’s doing. I don’t know his actual motive. 

 

0:11:56 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:11:57 – Brian

But let me say this his love for you hasn’t changed. His grace and mercy is still there and I encourage you and everybody else who’s going through this I do this all the time because I have more doubt than like I do. Faith Write down every day tiny mercies like I woke up, I have health, I have a job, I have the most amazing wife in the world. I mean I could just keep going with all this. Our home, I’m saved, I’m not going to hell, I will never have to face the wrath of God. You just keep going and you’re going to realize he is there, but I may not be able to necessarily feel him. 

 

0:12:41 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

So, another thing that you reminded me and again, obviously you are my safe space is we don’t live in a vacuum. We aren’t meant to carry things solely on our own, and you could tell that I was really in a hard struggle and I shared my doubts with you because you are a trusted confidant. Find someone in your life that you can just lay your soul bare, because you can’t always pick yourself back up and you’re being very patient. I can tell you just want to fix this, you want it to just be a thing in the past and I know in time that it will work out. I’m believing for that. But also keep leaning in to someone else. Don’t try to handle all of it by yourself, because that’s just going to lend to more feeling oriented thinking, and that’s another thing that you keep reminding me. Don’t trust your feelings. 

 

0:13:55 – Brian

I think that there’s a lesson here is that when you are struggling, don’t be Job’s friends. Don’t show up and tell that person well, here’s what God’s doing. You just need to sit in the dirt with the person and let them cry and let them get to about Job 41 or like Job 42. And that’s where God shows up and says all right, you ready to talk, put your big boy pants on. And that’s literally what shows up and says all right, you’re ready to talk, but you’re big boy pants on. And that’s literally what God says to Job. And so my job is to sit in the dirt with you, walk with you every day, listen, pray for you and just keep looking forward. I will say this as the last thing for you and anybody else who’s walking through this Look in the rearview mirror, because what he’s done in the past can be fuel for your faith in the present. 

 

0:14:50 – Kayla

Hmm. 

 

0:14:52 – Brian

Think about this Moses and the Israelites are at the Red Sea. They can’t go forward because you have an Egyptian army who’s coming up behind them and they can’t go backwards. I would have been flipping out, I would have just been losing my mind. But there’s one thing they had just come from Egypt, where they saw plagues and miracles and where God had delivered them. So by looking at the past, they had fuel for faith there in the present, and that’s I’m just saying. I mean that this isn’t easy. 

 

0:15:27 – Kayla

And another truth that’s hard to swallow is don’t look at what he hasn’t done. That’s hard to sit here and confess my disappointment, my frustration, my, but God, I did this, and do you care? Or my, but I have been faithful in this, and do you care? It takes nothing away from who he is, and that’s a head knowledge that I’ve grasped. It’s something that my heart is still wrestling with is but why haven’t you done X, Y, Z? And he may never do that, because that’s not who he is, never do that because that’s not who he is.

 

0:16:16 – Brian

I’ll just sprinkle in a little scripture. It says that he shows mercy on whom he shows mercy and he doesn’t on whom he doesn’t. And that’s his prerogative to be God. We want to actually control him when he’s the one who’s actually sovereign. So, baby, I just want to tell you this I love you, I’ll walk with you every step of the way, and I love seeing God at work in your heart, even though I know it’s painful. 

 

0:16:40 – Kayla

Right back at you. Okay, so before we all need to like go drown our sorrows, let’s go back to camp. That was. Thank you all for listening to that. I know that was a lot of a lot. 

 

0:16:56 – Brian

No, it wasn’t, it was beautiful. 

 

0:16:57 – Kayla

Camp was fun. 

 

0:17:00 – Brian

The entire team comes together under one roof twice a year. 

 

0:17:04 – Kayla

It’s for like a day and a half. 

 

0:17:06 – Brian

This camp and then at the first of the year we do what’s called Vision Week. So this was camp and people arrive Tuesday evening for dinner and a barbecue out at a lake and then we leave Thursday around noon. 

 

0:17:19 – Kayla

Noon yeah. 

 

0:17:21 – Brian

And we stayed at a beautiful place down in Johnson City. 

 

0:17:24 – Kayla

Oh, my word, If you are ever there, there is a hotel. Now, listen, I’m going to go ahead and tell you we got a discount because we had such a large group and we have a Ronda Lacey. We stayed at the Carnegie Hotel. In Johnson City, Tennessee, which every single one of us, our jaws dropped when we walked in it was gorgeous Y’all. I had a clawfoot tub. Why is that a big deal? Because I’m a girl and I like baths. 

 

0:17:51 – Brian

Okay, but anyway, Tuesday evening, If I got in that thing, you have to put butter on the side. It but anyway, Tuesday evening, if I got in that thing, you have to put butter on the side. Just get me out of it. 

 

0:17:58 – Kayla

Go ahead. You made a new friend. We had our kickoff with a barbecue and a concert led by Ben Fuller. 

 

0:18:07 – Brian

He’s a CCM artist and he’s had who I Am was number one song and I mean he’s got other great songs out. But I learned we’re sitting there chatting and he loves Abraham Lincoln and I said shut up. He pulls out his phone and starts showing me all this. He’s got pictures of Lincoln. He’s got memorabilia. Well, we sat there and chatted. I bet you 45. We exchanged phone numbers. We text every single day about Lincoln. 

 

0:18:37 – Kayla

Thank you, Jesus if you have the opportunity to say thank you Jesus, because you’re you’re able to talk Lincoln with someone else and it’s wonderful now. 

 

0:18:48 – Brian

Now you’re about to have this, now you’re about to hit Kayla’s passion point, because we went to a restaurant called Cootie Brown’s. And what was dessert? Let’s just go ahead and skip. 

 

0:18:58 – Kayla

Y’all do not skip the key lime pie If you are in Johnson City and you go to Cootie Brown’s, which it is a legit restaurant. Everything is made on site, it’s fresh, it’s incredible. 

 

0:19:11 – Brian

I could not have the key lime pie. 

 

0:19:13 – Kayla

He could not have it, but I cheated on my diet. 

 

0:19:15 – Brian

But it was the size of your head. 

 

0:19:17 – Kayla

It was massive, I couldn’t finish it. 

 

0:19:19 – Brian

I could only eat half of it. On a scale of one to ten. How good was it?

 

0:19:22 – Kayla

A twelve. Wow. It had a layer of very tart key lime and then it had a layer that was more mousse-like, smooth and creamy. 

 

0:19:30 – Brian

Hairy mousse. 

 

0:19:32 – Kayla

Oh yuck. 

 

0:19:33 – Brian

Did it have horns? Oh, you meant moose is in like a little ice, yeah not that, oh, okay. 

 

0:19:38 – Kayla

So Okay, we had a game night, oh, and a PJ. Hang on, I’m confessing, the guys had a game night, the girls had a PJ party. It was not the guys that got a noise complaint. 

 

0:19:54 – Brian

Yeah, so the phone rings. This is Jordan, from the front desk. 

 

0:19:58 – Kayla

We’ve had a complaint about your room and all the noise coming from it, so yeah, he did tell us, though, that quiet hours did not begin until 11, and it was only 930. So if we were planning to go past 11, we were going to need to move, and I said, oh, we’ll be done by then. And we were going to need to move and I said, oh, we’ll be done by then. In case you think that all we did was goof off, we spent an entire morning with Dr Natalie Pickering, wasn’t it? 

 

0:20:26 – Brian

Lauren Pickering. 

 

0:20:28 – Kayla

Oh, I thought her name was Natalie. 

 

0:20:30 – Brian

Her name is Dr Pickering. There we go, okay. Pickering. There we go, okay. And she taught us all about the Enneagram and what it reveals about us and how it helps us work together as a team, and different personalities, and what we like and don’t like and how to approach people. 

 

0:20:45 – Kayla

It was quite eye-opening to learn how we all mesh. 

 

0:20:49 – Brian

Yes. 

 

0:20:50 – Kayla

And I know that the Enneagram is controversial with some people. Enneagram is controversial with some people, but using it as a tool to be able to communicate and to be able to respect each other’s boundaries and the team that works well together accomplishes more and she helped us to see something. I mean, she nailed me to the wall and if any of you are huge Enneagram people, I’m a one wing two. 

 

0:21:16 – Brian

I’m an eight with a seven wing. 

 

0:21:19 – Kayla

But what I learned, and this is what was just mind boggling for me, even as a one wing two, when I’m at my healthiest, I trend towards a seven. You have a seven, and both of my dearest, closest work confidants have a seven, and so I am surrounded by sevens. If I’m at my best, that’s where I trend towards. 

 

0:21:45 – Brian

So that was comforting and kind of wild. I’m an eight with a seven wing, which means I want to change the world. I have big dreams, I have big pictures. Yeah, okay, I don’t do details, so this is what cracked me up my wife, who is my number one confidant, is an Enneagram one with a two wing. All about the details, all about them. Adam McCain, who is the VP of operations, who is my number one here in the organization, he’s a one with a two wing. 

 

So when, I start presenting him plans, he’ll say Bina, what about this? How will we do this? How are we going to scale this? 

 

0:22:24 – Kayla

And then, what is your executive assistant? 

 

0:22:27 – Brian

Adam Reed is a two with a one wing. It takes three people to wrestle me to the ground to keep me alive? Yes, it does. 

 

0:22:37 – Kayla

It was fascinating. It really was. We did an actual scavenger hunt where we had an hour and a half and we had to visit. So I will just admit to some of the things that I did. We got points. We could choose from an entire list of things. 

 

0:22:53 – Brian

I’m sitting in my Kia and I see you piggybacking on the back of a team member going into a store in. 

 

0:23:01 – Kayla

Johnson City, but I got points for doing it. You had to go in one door and out the other, piggybacking. You had to ask a stranger, I had to ride through the parking lot in a shopping cart and shout to infinity and beyond. 

 

I had to sing with a stranger. One of our team members had to pretend that she was a dog and be led along. So this was, and again, we got points for each of these crazy things that we did. It was a whole lot of fun, but we will end with this. Not to end on a serious note, but it is. One of our team members actually got hurt. She fell and she is actually in the hospital and recovering from a broken leg and a broken hand and even in that we have seen how God has worked and God has brought his family together to take care of her. 

 

But if you would pray for her, her name is Donna. She’s one of my favorite humans in the entire world. 

 

0:24:04 – Brian

She’s amazing. 

 

0:24:05 – Kayla

And she’s hopefully moving to a rehab center any day now. We just need a bed to come available. But, as you are listening, if you would just keep her in your prayers. This was scary and she’s a rock star. 

 

0:24:22 – Brian

She has the sweetest spirit. 

 

0:24:25 – Kayla

I’m not going to say that I would be as content as she has been. So, yeah, that was hard, but it was a wonderful time with all of our team until then. But it was a wonderful time with all of our team until then and we have some pretty funny core memories that we’re carrying away. 

 

0:24:46 – Brian

So, hey, we’d like to share a little bit of peas and carrots with you. We’d like to send you a coffee mug, a notepad, a pen and some Cute little stickers, Cute little stickers and a sticky note. 

 

0:24:55 – Kayla

There’s a sticky note too. Really, Do we send them out a sticky note? 

 

0:24:56 – Brian

There’s a sticky note too. Really, Do we send them out a sticky note? There’s a notepad with sticky notes on it. Oh yeah, a notepad. 

 

0:25:01 – Kayla

So the first two people that go to our website. We say this every week. There’s a trivia button there. If you will click that trivia button and to find that you go to peasandcarrotspodcast.com. If you will click that trivia button, there is a question. 

 

0:25:18 – Brian

And this week’s question is when did we go for summer camp? What’s the name of the town? 

 

0:25:21 – Kayla

What town were we in? Yeah, so again go to peasandcarrotspodcast.com. 

 

0:25:26 – Brian

Click on the trivia button and answer this question. 

 

0:25:28 – Kayla

Where did B and K go for summer camp? What town were we in? 

 

0:25:32 – Brian

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0:25:36 – Kayla

Wherever you get your podcasts, visit our website, which is peasandcarrotspodcast.com, and when you do, please don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast. 

 

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You can follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Just search for the Peas and Carrots Podcast. And please don’t forget to pray for Donna. 

 

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Season 3, Episode 25: The More We Know

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The More We Know - Episode Description

Join us for a delightful episode of the Peas and Carrots Podcast, where we kick things off with some light-hearted banter about Minnie Mouse keys and Brian’s new Godzilla collectible. Listen in as we share our excitement for the upcoming Olympics and the return of our Sunday night tradition of watching Disney movies. Kayla humorously recounts her new fitness challenge with burpees, while we also take a moment to reflect on the importance of front porches and the lost art of community engagement.

In another segment, we take you on a heartfelt journey through some of the lessons learned from our grandparents and our favorite memories, including a touching mix-up involving Kayla and my dad’s friends, our dream of having two labs in our bed, and the quirky logic behind bringing home leftovers just to throw them away. We also discuss our newfound obsession with earning rewards through our health plan’s app and share the joy of receiving a case of original sweet tarts from friends. Tune in for a blend of love, laughter, and everyday adventures!

The More We Know - Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Kayla

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. I’m Brian and I’m Kayla before we started recording. Okay, yes, I needed to take a drink of water and I was fidgeting. 

 

0:00:21 – Brian

It’s not that uh-huh. She has her keys that have Minnie Mouse on it sitting on the console here where we record, so would you move them one time? They are so loud. 

 

0:00:33 – Kayla

Cranky party of one. 

 

0:00:36 – Brian

Your table’s ready Cranky party of one. I don’t know if it’s Cranky, I just found them to be loud. 

 

0:00:42 – Kayla

Listen if I put up with Godzilla staring at me while we record. You can deal with keys. 

 

0:00:49 – Brian

I got a new Godzilla collectible for the studio. 

 

0:00:53 – Kayla

What’s up in the world of Peas and Carrots? 

 

0:00:55 – Brian

We got a new Godzilla collectible for the studio. That’s what’s up. 

 

0:00:58 – Kayla

Yay, Suko is his name. 

 

0:01:01 – Brian

He’s the little ape from the new movie. 

 

0:01:03 – Kayla

I’m not sure if I’m comforted or bothered that you know this. 

 

0:01:07 – Brian

Well, his name is right there on the box. See it down there. Oh, that’s. 

 

0:01:11 – Kayla

Okay, okay, that makes me feel better. 

 

0:01:14 – Brian

Okay, the countdown. Oh, this is yours. 

 

0:01:22 – Kayla

The countdown is on. We are less than two weeks from the Olympics. We are nothing. Oh, yes, we are. We are going to cheer, we are going to shout, we are going to celebrate. I love the Olympics. We all know that. 

 

0:01:38 – Brian

Some of the little outfits bother me. 

 

0:01:40 – Kayla

Well, you can step over that. You’ve just you got to take pride in your country and well, and all the. I’m just keeping it real. One of my favorite parts is the ceremony at the beginning, where all the countries come in. You fall asleep every time, so why do you care? 

 

0:01:57 – Brian

You got to watch every nation walk in I love it, and some of these places have two people. 

 

0:02:03 – Kayla

Okay, and if they’ve worked hard to get to the Olympics, they should be celebrated. So yeah, you’re welcome, it’s coming. 

 

0:02:12 – Brian

She is smiling from ear to ear. I am Well. We have resumed a Sunday night tradition. What? 

 

0:02:20 – Kayla

is that. 

 

0:02:21 – Brian

We’re now watching. Do any of you remember growing up where it was every Sunday night on TV? It was the magical world of Disney and they showed a movie. We’re doing that because we have the Disney Plus app on our TV, so we’ve watched the Lion King, Inside Out, which was fantastic. 

 

0:02:43 – Kayla

How did we never see that? 

 

0:02:45 – Brian

We finally watched it, and we want to go see the new little movie Inside Out 2. That would be fun to see. 

 

0:02:51 – Kayla

I read where it’s Pixar’s highest performing movie, wow, which is pretty good for them. What else have we watched? We said we also want to watch Encanto. We have not seen that one yet. 

 

0:03:06 – Brian

I don’t know what that’s about. 

 

0:03:07 – Kayla

I don’t either. I have no idea. 

 

0:03:09 – Brian

I’ve never seen Beauty and the Beast. I’ve never seen Cinderella. 

 

0:03:13 – Kayla

You have seen Beauty and the Beast. 

 

0:03:15 – Brian

I’m like what? I’ve not seen Cinderella. I have not seen Pinocchio. I’ve never seen Dumbo. Okay, we’re fixing it. I’ve never seen any of the classics, the classics. I’ve never watched Peter Pan. Is that a Disney movie? That’s a Disney movie? Uh-huh, there’s a Peter Pan. 

 

0:03:30 – Kayla

You can fly, you can fly, you can fly. Yeah, okay, we’re going to have to fix this. 

 

0:03:35 – Brian

Wait a minute. What was that? 

 

0:03:36 – Kayla

Part of Peter Pan. You had a very deprived childhood. 

 

0:03:45 – Brian

I’m sorry. Well, I would be read the books, like I’d read the books about Pinocchio and Peter Pan. I never have seen them. 

 

0:03:48 – Kayla

Well, we’re going to have to work on that. 

 

0:03:49 – Brian

Because books are better. 

 

0:03:51 – Kayla

I’ve learned how to do something new. Well, let me rephrase that I’m learning how to do something new. 

 

0:03:57 – Brian

I want to go on record that the story and the laughter that I may share here in just a moment, that it will not lead to my premature demise. Okay. 

 

0:04:09 – Kayla

My trainer has added burpees to my workout routine. 

 

0:04:14 – Brian

That doesn’t mean you drink a Coke and go. It’s not that. 

 

0:04:17 – Kayla

Okay, they’re horrible. 

 

0:04:20 – Brian

Burpees are an exercise. 

 

0:04:22 – Kayla

Where I kind of have to get into a plank almost and then come back up. 

 

0:04:29 – Brian

So let me give you an image. It’s almost like she’s in push-up mode. 

 

0:04:33 – Kayla

Yes, and then I draw my knees up towards myself and jump up, and the first time I tried it my behind was a little too high in the air. 

 

0:04:43 – Brian

She finds this video that shows her. She says, b, would you watch this video? Watch me and help me do this? And I said well, baby, yeah, y’all, you’re supposed to be flat. She’s a triangle with her hiney sticking up in the air. I said, baby, you got to flatten this out. And then when she gets flat, I can’t get out. I got stuck help. 

 

So I had to help get her up, but it’s a whole thing. But Thursday at the gym you did seven burpees and I am proud of you and I’m so sore today. But here we are. I did two miles on the bike this morning and then I walked a mile. 

 

0:05:32 – Kayla

Somebody shared a video with me that said the only good thing about burpees is they take away your desire to live. 

 

0:05:36 – Brian

We are positive and very encouraging right now. 

 

0:05:42 – Kayla

I’m encouraged that burpees are not of God. 

 

0:05:44 – Brian

I saw a video that said when your trainer comes by and you’re trying to be positive and it’s this dog going, I don’t know. Dear Grandma and Grandpa, you were right. 

 

0:06:02 – Kayla

A few reflections on life Days gone by, one that I have. We need more front porches. We have built our lives around sitting on our back decks. 

 

0:06:15 – Brian

So we don’t have to deal. 

 

0:06:16 – Kayla

So we don’t have to see people and we don’t have to engage, and I miss the days where you would sit out on your front porch and neighbors would walk by or just drop by because they knew they could come hang out with you on the porch. 

 

0:06:30 – Brian

I have vivid memories of my grandpa Sanders. He had a front porch and we’d sit out there and people would just drop by. Also, I would ride with him and if we drove by his friend Ralph Nix’s house and if Ralph was outside we’d stop. Yeah, We’d have coffee. Then we would drive by my Uncle Amos and my Aunt Gladys. Now they weren’t really my aunt and uncle, they were like cousins. 

 

0:06:55 – Kayla

We all had them yeah. 

 

0:06:57 – Brian

And then, if they were outside, we’d pull in there, have a cup of coffee, yep, that kind of stuff. That was wonderful, but we don’t do that anymore. 

 

0:07:06 – Kayla

We don’t. We hide in our backyards, we put up fences, literal fences that give us walls to not have to see each other, and I think it’s a lost art of being able to build community, have time together. Yeah, we grew up in neighborhoods where we were constantly catching up. Now there was this little old man he would, I kid you not, his name was was Buddy, and he would hit golf balls into people’s yards so that he would have to go get the golf ball so he could spy on them and see what was going on, what he was hilarious and everybody knew that’s what he was doing, was he? 

 

a creeper, or was he? No, he was just he was just doing it to get to come hang out with people and have community, because he was lonely and so he would pretend he was playing golf. 

 

0:07:59 – Brian

He would be a dateline special on him. 

 

0:08:00 – Kayla

Well, I imagine he’s probably not alive anymore because he was in his like 70s. Oh, and that was 40 years ago, so you probably yeah. But, anyway, good old buddy. 

 

0:08:12 – Brian

Oh, early mornings are the best. 

 

0:08:15 – Kayla

They are. I have just come to realize that my grandparents would get up early. 

 

0:08:20 – Brian

None of them ever slept in. Yeah, they’d get up early. It’s peaceful. Yeah, it’s restful, it’s quiet. 

 

0:08:28 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:08:28 – Brian

And it’s a good way, in my opinion, to like. 

 

0:08:30 – Kayla

There’s something amazing about watching the sun come up. It’s almost a visual to me of god’s new morning mercies. It’s as if you get a clean slate from the day before. Okay, we’ve said this before. Evening plans for us used to begin around seven. Nope, seven thirty. Listen now, people, it’s 5 o’clock and for sure we’re done by 9-ish. So if we’re making plans, let’s plan to meet at 5. Dinner might be 6.30, but we got to be done by 9. 

 

0:09:06 – Brian

So I’m down Because. 

 

We can’t do these 11 and 12 o’clock nights anymore. Let me just give you a perfect example About 12 o’clock. Let me just give you a perfect example About 830. Last night. Kay said I’m going to go wash my hair. I said, well, I’m going to go ahead and go up. She goes B. It’s 830. I said, well, it’s closer to nine than it is day. This is who we are. Laugh more. Life is short. I hear my grandpa Sanders laughing. I can hear yeah, I still to this day. I can hear him laughing. I can hear my grandma Sanders laughing I can hear, yeah, I still to this day. 

 

I can hear him laughing. I can hear my Grandma Sanders laughing. I hear my Grandma Fitch laughing. Yeah, I hear those voices still and they’re laughing because life is short. There’s no sense to take it so serious all the time. Laugh your way through it. 

 

0:09:51 – Kayla

Yeah, I find myself saying this and you get tickled at me. I can get another use out of that. Whatever that is, I’m repurposing things more than I’m replacing them I’ll wear a pair of jeans two or three days that’s not what I’m referring to oh, now I don’t wear underwear two or three days, I just but jeans. I will what is wrong with you? That’s not the kind of repurposing I’m talking about. 

 

0:10:16 – Brian

Oh, what are you talking about? 

 

0:10:16 – Kayla

But I find myself like you know, if a Ziploc bag didn’t have something in it, that moldy or. 

 

Well, if it wasn’t food or something I can repurpose, that I can reuse it, whereas I probably was that person who threw it away and got a new one. I’m finding creative ways to reuse items in our home that, yeah, I might have previously said, oh, I need to go buy this specific thing, but I get tickled because I realize that was my grandma. She always found purposes for things that others would say, well, that has no use. So, yeah, it’s my new. This is who I am now. 

 

0:10:59 – Brian

Another lesson from them. My grandparents were right pray and pray some more. I can hear my Grandpa Sanders praying. 

 

0:11:07 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:11:08 – Brian

I could hear him. We spent a summer with him and Mom and dad. He had a little two bedroom house and so he and I slept in one room there were. He had a queen size bed, I had a twin, and then my parents were in a different room and I could every night I could hear him praying. I’ve never that left such an impact on me. So yeah, they were right. Pray then, and then pray some more. 

 

0:11:35 – Kayla

I have a confession, yeah, so yeah, they were right. Pray then, and then pray some more. 

 

0:11:37 – Brian

I have a confession, okay. 

 

0:11:38 – Kayla

I have a favorite coffee mug. Now she does. 

 

0:11:41 – Brian

And it has Winnie the Pooh on it. 

 

0:11:42 – Kayla

It does. I remember my grandma telling me, girl, you need a whole lot less than you think you do. And she’s right. We have cabinets full of things, that we have a cabinet full of coffee mugs. We never use them. But I get this that you know, if we have friends over, they’re going to need a mug too. Why Just give them something disposable? Oh my gosh, no. 

 

0:12:06 – Brian

Oh, okay. 

 

0:12:07 – Kayla

But it’s true, we tend to gravitate towards the same things over, and those become our favorites, and so I have a favorite coffee mug I have one mine. 

 

0:12:20 – Brian

Yours has me the Pooh. Mine says New Orleans it does. Yeah, and this one we both share tell the stories and tell them over and over. 

 

0:12:31 – Kayla

Every family has favorite stories, everybody says yeah favorite memories and here’s the thing there’s no greater way to honor your people than to keep their memory alive by telling the stories. Dad loved to be a storyteller, and now we get to be the ones that tell stories about him, but he loved nothing more than having a room full of people where he could have a grand old time. He could share stories from times past and share memories, and so that’s something we cherish. 

 

0:13:09 – Brian

Speaking of stories. We have a few, we have a few and we just segmented out of talking about dad and I want to tell a quick story to honor you. We’d been married maybe three or four years and y’all, my dad, loved Kayla. He never had a daughter. I’m an only child. He loved you and I loved him and we were meeting some friends somewhere I mean they had friends. We were going out to eat or something. As they walked up, my dad said y’all, this is my daughter and her husband. 

 

0:13:47 – Kayla

I said, Daddy, All the color drained from your face from your face, Daddy. 

 

0:14:00 – Brian

oh, I’m sorry, this is my son and his wife Kayla. 

 

0:14:02 – Kayla

I have never he adored you. I have never forgotten that or forgiven him. So, yeah, okay. So we were sitting there the other night and we were thinking about the future, so we started talking about. We have a dream. We’ve shared some of this. We may have even shared this part. 

 

0:14:16 – Brian

I cannot believe this. 

 

0:14:17 – Kayla

We want to have two labs. 

 

0:14:19 – Brian

A chocolate and a black lab. 

 

0:14:21 – Kayla

Uh-huh, and that’s a done deal. We’re going to have two labs and we were thinking about Sprocket. 

 

0:14:28 – Brian

Our plan is one is for her and one is for me. I got news for you all they’re both going to be hers, but go ahead. 

 

0:14:33 – Kayla

No, okay. We’ll share, we’ll share we were talking about the reality that Sprocket used to sleep in our bed. He was 55 pounds, but he slept at the foot of the bed and you made the declaration the other night. You said listen, let’s just go ahead and get this straight. These two labs are not fitting in the bed with us. 

 

0:14:53 – Brian

To which. Miss Sanders replied to me we’ll just get a king bed. And I looked at you. You have this planned out, don’t you? Problem solved, baby. They’re like 85 pounds each. 

 

0:15:10 – Kayla

Well, we’ll have half the bed and they’ll have half the bed. No, I’m Baby, baby. 

 

0:15:14 – Brian

Oh, stay tuned, y’all so this is more of a confession. More of a confession. As you know, we go to the gym and that kind of stuff. We’ve already talked about that, but we totally counted. Going to grocery shopping of the day is walking a mile. 

 

0:15:33 – Kayla

We’re adding walking to our daily routine, and we’re both supposed to walk at least one mile after dinner. Well, we had finished dinner and then we decided you know what, we should really hit the grocery store tonight. So what did we decide? 

 

0:15:47 – Brian

Well, that’s going to be our walk for the day, right? 

 

0:15:50 – Kayla

Yes, it was. 

 

0:15:51 – Brian

A few weeks back we went out to dinner with our friends Shane and Christy, and at that dinner, somehow or another, we got off on the topic of like candy. 

 

0:16:00 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:16:01 – Brian

And I mentioned how I can’t find the original sweet tarts anymore. Okay, I mean, I look for them, but I can’t find them. I mean-. 

 

0:16:10 – Kayla

It’s all this gummy candy. 

 

0:16:11 – Brian

Yeah, I really shouldn’t eat them, but I love a good sweet. I love a good Sweet Tart. 

 

0:16:17 – Kayla

But you like the OG. 

 

0:16:18 – Brian

I like. I like the OG, the original. That’s what that means. Right, the OG? Or does that mean original again? I don’t know what it means anyway. Well, growing up I would get sweet tarts and I’d put them in water and I’d make myself a flavored drink. Well, Shane and Christy never heard that before. They thought that was the greatest thing ever. Well, this past week at our house we get this mystery Amazon package. We did. It’s a rather large Amazon package, uh-huh, and it is a note from Shane and Christy they sent me not a box of sweet tarts, a case Y’all. This is a case of original sweet. I will have sweet tarts until y’all will serve them at my funeral. Oh, there are that many sweet tarts in. And their notes said you were so excited. Their notes said you will have sweet tart flavored water for the rest of your life. 

 

0:17:15 – Kayla

Yes. 

 

0:17:16 – Brian

That was a great gift. 

 

0:17:18 – Kayla

It made your week. It was great. A great gift. It made your week it was great. It was awesome. Very, very sweet, no pun intended. So we went to dinner the other night and I couldn’t eat half of my entree. 

 

0:17:30 – Brian

Went to the Mexican place. 

 

0:17:31 – Kayla

It was so much food and I was trying to be good and eat healthy, so I got this chicken dish that had zucchini and squash and they loaded me down. So this is where I’m just weird. I asked for a to-go box because I did not want the waiter to judge me for wasting food. 

 

0:17:48 – Brian

But what’d you do when you got home? 

 

0:17:50 – Kayla

But when I got home I threw it away and you said, wait, what just happened? And I said, well, I didn’t want him to know that I was going to waste it. Why am? 

 

0:18:01 – Brian

I the way I am. No, this is who I married. I love you, but baby. 

 

0:18:06 – Kayla

The logic in that was so broken. 

 

0:18:09 – Brian

You’ve got to go to a therapist about that. That’s just crazy. 

 

0:18:11 – Kayla

Well, there’s more important things first, but yeah, okay. 

 

0:18:14 – Brian

Wait a minute, am I one of those more important? 

 

0:18:17 – Kayla

things no, we good. 

 

0:18:23 – Brian

We discovered something this week. We have a health plan at where we work and it comes with an app and that health plan gives you free money for doing certain things walking so far a day and I’ve got like $50 built up, you’ve got. 

 

0:18:37 – Kayla

If you let them track your sleep, if you will take a health survey, Do your. Get an annual physical, get your flu shot. They will literally give us money that can then be converted to a digital visa gift card. 

 

0:18:52 – Brian

We’re sitting there and I’m watching TV and she says B, go on your health care app. I said why you can get $15 for answering that survey. It took three minutes and they asked me a lot more questions. Oh well, it took like 15 for me. 

 

0:19:07 – Kayla

Seriously, yeah, wow, you had to work hard for years. 

 

0:19:10 – Brian

So let me just say so now. Ms. Sanders is obsessed with getting, because she’s converting. Listen, if you’re going to give me money for, and they put it on like a Visa gift card that you can use anywhere. 

 

0:19:20 – Kayla

Yeah, I transferred it to my Amazon account. 

 

0:19:23 – Brian

Have you spent any of it yet? No, okay. 

 

0:19:26 – Kayla

So heads up. If you have a health plan, you might want to check and see if there’s an app and it could be that you could earn some rewards. 

 

0:19:36 – Brian

Ours is called United United. Yeah, it’s called Care Cash. 

 

0:19:40 – Kayla

It fascinates me that apparently I’m willing to take care of my health as long as I’m being rewarded for it. So here we are Again. Why am I the way that I am? 

 

0:19:51 – Brian

You are beautiful. 

 

0:19:52 – Kayla

So I have one more dad story. 

 

0:19:54 – Brian

Oh. 

 

0:19:55 – Kayla

And I actually just shared this with someone the other day because they were talking about going fishing. We had not been married long and I can still see the old Dodge truck that we were riding in. It was a one-seater, it was a bench seat. Dad was driving, I was squished up next to him, mom was sitting next to me. I don’t know why we got in the car like this and then you were on the other side, at the other door. Well, dad had gone and picked up crickets and they were in two. 

 

0:20:27 – Brian

We were doing brim fishing. 

 

0:20:28 – Kayla

Bait baskets, but they were in the floorboard of the truck. Well, somehow one of those got tipped sideways. 

 

0:20:39 – Brian

And I’m saying we had 500 crickets. 

 

0:20:40 – Kayla

There were, yes, there were 250 crickets in each bait bucket. 

 

0:20:45 – Brian

One of those turned over and 250. 

 

0:20:47 – Kayla

Crickets start going everywhere. Well, dad pulls over. And he jokes that I was climbing over him. You did, you climbed over him to get out of that truck and he says that to the end of days there was an imprint of my foot in his back where I was trying to get out of that truck Because you were not going to let them. They were crawling everywhere and I got freaked out. 

 

0:21:12 – Brian

So the best thing to do is sit there and let them crawl on you so that you can capture them again. Put it back in the bag. 

 

0:21:23 – Kayla

No, no, you weren’t gonna do that worry. But yeah, dad said I got a permanent footprint. He said you’re a size eight aren’t you? 

 

0:21:26 – Brian

so, hey, thanks for listening to this week’s episode, thanks for joining us, and we’d like to give you a coffee mug, a pen we’re basically your stationary store. 

 

0:21:36 – Kayla

Yeah, a notepad, notepad. 

 

0:21:38 – Brian

Notepad Some stickers and some stickers no. 

 

0:21:40 – Kayla

Cute little stickers. Cute little stickers they are, so yeah. 

 

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Season 3, Episode 24: Enjoy this Best of Peas and Carrots! I Can’t Believe You Said That

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I Can't Believe You Said That - Episode Description

Join the conversation of this episode to see where you fall in a few of our unpopular opinions. A “Best of Peas and Carrots Podcast”! 

I Can't Believe You Said That - Transcript

00:00 – Introduction
We go together like peas and carrots! The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

00:10 – Kayla (Host)
Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. 

00:13 – Brian (Host)
I’m Brian

00:13 – Kayla (Host)
I’m Kayla. How you doing? 

00:16 – Brian (Host)
Well, I have a confession to make oh, are you gonna be a Netflix documentary? Do I need to get well? Well, I hope not, okay. 

00:23 – Kayla (Host)
But the plant assassin is back. Y’all I need to clarify. No, you don’t need to. 

00:30 – Brian (Host)
You kill plants. 

00:31 – Kayla (Host)
The house plants that I bought are doing very well. Okay, yes, so we have referenced an ant problem. 

00:40 – Brian (Host)
No, no, no, no, no. Here’s what you’re saying. It’s okay if you kill outside plants, but you’re doing great with those that live in the house. 

00:46 – Kayla (Host)
I would like a moment to defend myself, your honor. Okay, I love hibiscus and you do too. They’re beautiful flowers, they’re great plants, but we have discovered what is attracting ants. It was the hibiscus plants. So I Googled, which was my first mistake, and it said to do a mixture of vinegar and water. Why do you trust Google? Well, I don’t. Now, Okay. But I used vinegar and water on the plant, which supposedly would kill the ants. Good news it did. 

01:24 – Brian (Host)
But it also. 

01:25 – Kayla (Host)
But it killed the plants. 

01:27 – Brian (Host)
Now if this was a court setting here’s what. I’d hear your Honor. We recommend that, ms Sanders, only have children in the house, that they never go outside. Okay, that’s a little harsh, but justified Do you ever hear, like when you go to Lowe’s and buy plants? Do you ever hear them screaming? As you walk out, they whimper a little bit yeah. 

01:46 – Kayla (Host)
But here we are. So lesson we will enjoy hibiscus at other people’s homes and in other people’s yards. The ants are back for some reason. I think it’s the heat, I don’t know. I was so proud because we haven’t had ants for two weeks. 

02:02 – Brian (Host)
You keep a very clean home. 

02:03 – Kayla (Host)
I do, but this is really frustrating me. 

02:06 – Brian (Host)
Here we are, and when we talk about ants, we’re talking like three or four. 

02:09 – Kayla (Host)
We’re not talking like hundreds. No, it’s not like a colony or anything. 

02:13 – Brian (Host)
There’s one somewhere. 

02:15 – Introduction (Host)
So we went to the Biltmore. 

02:17 – Brian (Host)
We took a few days off and went down to Asheville, North Carolina. Now, this is a way that folks down there talk ashville, north carolina. Okay, it was really nice, it was beautiful, we stayed on the property. 

02:29 – Kayla (Host)
I do not recommend it to families with small children. Oh, it’s a. It’s a wonderful house, it’s an amazing experience but it’s very adult but it is. It is and I mean for us, four hours in the gardens was incredible. Okay For one of us, but I think after an hour or so. 

02:51 – Brian (Host)
How many flowers can you look at? 

02:53 – Kayla (Host)
A lot. I proved that. 

02:56 – Brian (Host)
I wish I’d flown your friend Wanda in to go with you through the gardens. 

02:59 – Kayla (Host)
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So it was lovely. 

03:03 – Brian (Host)
They have great meals there. I will say this I was very impressed because I have all these food allergies. Yeah, now, and for those of you who are new to the podcast had to get tested and out of the 50 things that they tested me for, I was allergic to 49 49, so I have to be very careful and we had these little business cards printed up that have my allergies on them, and the staff was very helpful. Yeah, nobody shamed me, which was very concerned. 

03:33 – Kayla (Host)
Yes, our friend Deborah told you she also has tons of allergies and she told you to have some cards made that list all of your allergies and what we learned to do, which was amazing anytime we went to a sit-down restaurant and we could not control the food that was being served, you would hand them your card and then say this is the menu item that I’m leaning toward. Is this something the chef can make that, say, and there was not one situation where they could not accommodate you? It’s great. 

04:10 – Brian (Host)
It’s great At the same time. Let me just. Let me just say this Raspberry sorbet has become my bestie. I really can’t do ice cream anymore because of the ingredients that are in it I’m allergic to, but raspberry sorbet by this company that’s called Talenti. 

04:26 – Kayla (Host)
And you even found bars. Yeah, they have sorbet bars. 

04:30 – Brian (Host)
Sorbet bars now and wonderful so those of our, yeah, so, yeah. So we had a great time we. 

04:36 – Kayla (Host)
I’d highly recommend uh it’s a great couples getaway yeah. 

04:41 – Brian (Host)
Beautiful way. 

04:46 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, beautiful, I did get tickled at you. I have to tell on you what. So we’re in the house and god smiled on us because, keep in mind, it’s the weekend of july 4th oh, there’s no air condition and there’s no ac in the home because as rich as these people were and they had electricity. Back then somebody could have sprung for for a windy unit it was nicely overcast the day we went, so it was cooler. 

05:04 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, I measure trying to figure out what you’re about to tell on me. 

05:08 – Kayla (Host)
well, there were lots of stairs and we had to go up to the third floor and then down to the basement and then back up to the main floor and we get back to the hotel. And you looked at me and you disgustedly looked at your watch and said it only gave me credit for two sets of stairs. I was so angry, you were so upset, oh I was so upset man, I mean, I hauled my hiney in all over yes. 

05:37 – Brian (Host)
How does that thing only say you only walked two flights of stairs. I have walked 937 steps. I counted them. I counted them, I counted them. 

05:48 – Kayla (Host)
Not still bitter, are you? 

05:49 – Brian (Host)
Bitter party of one. Your table’s ready. Bitter party of one. Yeah, my table’s ready. But yeah, we would highly recommend going and the restaurants on property are excellent. 

06:00 – Kayla (Host)
Five star. 

06:01 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, really, really good. So, yeah, check it out. Well, we have talked about this topic before. We’re going to talk about grief, but we thought it might be good to revisit it, because one it’s something that’s always with you if you’ve lost somebody. 

06:22 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah. 

06:23 – Brian (Host)
And it’s something that we still struggle with. So Miss Kayla has lost her dad. He’s been gone. 

06:31 – Kayla (Host)
Nine years, nine years. Kayla has lost her dad. He’s been gone nine years, as of November. 

06:35 – Brian (Host)
And then we lost my dad in August 2018, I believe so five years next month and this might seem odd for some of y’all, but we lost our most precious pup. His name was Sprocket almost a year to the day that we lost my dad. 

06:52 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah. 

06:53 – Brian (Host)
So grief is something that we still deal with. 

06:58 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, the calendar I’ve said this before the calendar can be very loud sometimes and I’ve noticed something about us and several other dear people to us when an anniversary of sorts is coming up, there’s a change in our temperament, there’s a change in how we are handling things, or how they’re gonna even be a cloud over the house. 

07:24
Yeah, it’s like we we may just become very quiet or kind of not as jovial as normal and things will irritate us that normally don’t. I’ve noticed that in both of us and I’ve noticed it in some dear friends and family members who’ve also sat with grief. It’s as if the leading up to you’re dreading. 

07:47 – Brian (Host)
It’s the dread you’re dreading. 

07:48 – Kayla (Host)
It’s the dread You’re dreading this anniversary, the day of ends up kind of being oh okay, that happened, but it’s the weeks coming up to. So we talked about coming back to this topic, because what we’re realizing is grief doesn’t go away, it evolves, but it’s kind of like a marathon, not a sprint. You’re not done with it after a short amount of time or a season. 

08:19 – Brian (Host)
And let me say this too regarding grief is you don’t get over it, but you kind of build a new life around it. 

08:28 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, the shock of it hopefully starts to wear off and it doesn’t stop hurting. The ache is always there, but what I have found is that in time you can be air quote okay, but the simplest moments can bring back that soul crushing reality that your loved one is gone, y’all. I stalked someone in the grocery store because his cologne smelled like my dad. It’s a little awkward. He didn’t know it, thank God. He probably was like why is this woman going down every aisle that I’m going down? But there’ll be just triggers that remind you of that person. Or I know for you, when you’re watching golf or watching football, what do you want to do? I? 

09:16 – Brian (Host)
want to text dad. Yeah, and dad was a huge bass fisherman. He would fish almost every single day and we will be like checking out at Kroger and there’s a section of gift cards and you’ll see a gift card for sale that says Bass. 

09:32 – Kayla (Host)
Pro Shop. 

09:32 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, and I will just get this way because we went there with him all the time. Or sometimes, on Saturday morning they’ll be airing a fishing tournament and I’ll watch that for a few minutes. 

09:44 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah. Just to feel close to it. 

09:47 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, it’s stupid, but it’s like there’s a connection there. I want to say this too Don’t shy away from talking about the person that’s passed. It actually helps because you can’t ignore the pain. So just talk about the person. We still talk about Sprocket, our dog. We have some friends who had a painting done of him and it just helps us. 

10:10 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, he was crazy and he gave us many, many stories. So, yeah, and I think in doing that, you kind of help the person who’s grieving to feel seen and their loved one to still be seen, even though they’re gone. You haven’t forgotten that person. So it’s a good way of honoring both and take some of it really does. The first time I tried to do this I felt very, very awkward, but I saw the look of recognition on my friend’s face and it was as if, wow, you really do, you do remember her. 

10:49 – Brian (Host)
I’ll also tell you this choose to find hope. Now, this is odd to say Grief is something that you can’t control. Their death is something that you can’t control, but you can choose to find hope, and here’s what I mean by that. Make a choice to read the promises of Jesus. Make a choice to like read them over and over again. Make a choice to read the promises of Jesus. Make a choice to read them over and over again. Make a choice to read the Psalms. Why? Because you need to be reminded that God’s hand is still at work. You need to be reminded that he still loves you, he cares, and that one day you will see Jesus and you will see those who have passed. 

11:33 – Kayla (Host)
And as hard as it is and I say this nine years later and five years later you can see God in all things and that may look like he saved your loved one from suffering. As with your dad, it was cancer. I would not have wanted him to suffer another day, but his cancer did draw him to Christ. It could look like you get to continue the legacy of that person With my dad. A lot of who I am was shaped by him because he was my buddy growing up, was shaped by him because he was my buddy growing up, and a lot of the things that I love come directly from my dad. So see God in those things, See how that person may be living on through you or is it possible that it was God’s mercy at play? But also there’s the promise that one day you will hopefully be reunited with them. So that’s the ultimate hope. 

12:38 – Brian (Host)
And you need to be reminded of this People find pain to be repelling. In other words, be careful with who you share your grief with. 

12:49 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah. 

12:50 – Brian (Host)
Because not everybody is going to welcome that conversation. They find pain uncomfortable, they they find it odd. Folks don’t know what to say to it. So have a very small circle of Of people that you trust, yeah, that you can share with. 

13:07 – Kayla (Host)
Hey, I’m hurting today because this person we all know who the people that you can be real with, and there are going to be different people in different situations. I am embarrassed to admit that grief was not something I understood until I experienced it. One of my dearest friends in high school lost her mom to breast cancer. One of my dearest friends in high school lost her mom to breast cancer. 

13:34
I still did not understand fully what she was walking through until I faced the loss of a parent myself. So I’m not saying that people who’ve never been touched by death are not helpful. They just may not have the same level of compassion or empathy that someone who’s walked this road or is walking it can show. And yeah, some people just they pull back. I’ve seen this, you’ve seen this. It’s hard to lean into sadness. It’s not something that, like you said, it’s not something that, like you said, it’s not something we’re comfortable with. And the whole sitting in the dirt it’s hard, it’s hard. 

14:17 – Brian (Host)
So and we don’t like to be there. But I do think it’s a way that you can, that you can show christ to somebody, and in a very viable way Also don’t set a timeline. 

14:31 – Kayla (Host)
This one is so important to me. There’s no magic switch that you flip that okay? 

14:37 – Brian (Host)
well, you’re going to be happy now. You’ve grieved long enough. It’s been a year, so cheer up. 

14:42 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, because we all handle loss in different ways. I whisper a couple of other things to all of us. Avoid judging the person who they may not take. Two weeks off after losing their loved one, their way of coping may be to stay so busy until they are ready to deal with this. Or if someone goes dark and they need a season of not being responsible for certain things, we do well when we let people have the freedom to grieve how and for as long as they need to. Obviously, I’m not talking about people going off radar and to a place where they need someone to be checking in on them. I’m talking about giving people the freedom to sit with their feelings, to embrace perhaps a new routine for a season. I’m not saying they become a hermit and they stay under the blankets and they never come out. 

15:45 – Brian (Host)
Let me give you two different extremes on this, two different stories. Abraham Lincoln and his wife, mary Todd, lost a son, willie, to typhoid. Whenever he died, she did not leave her bedroom for two weeks. Okay, that is one extreme. The other extreme, teddy Roosevelt, who became president on the same day that his daughter was born. He lost his wife in childbirth, but his mother also died 12 hours later. Yeah, okay, how did he respond? He packed his bags and he went, and he started traveling, he started doing all these things and his goal was to just outrun his grief. 

16:30 – Introduction (Host)
Yeah. 

16:31 – Brian (Host)
So there are two extremes there. You have Mary Todd, who never left her bedroom for two weeks, and Teddy Roosevelt, who went on this journey trying to outrun it. You’re eventually going to have to face it. 

16:44 – Kayla (Host)
I was going to say as one who has done the outrunning and you were very patient with me. You gave me the freedom to outrun my grief. Be prepared If you are grieving or if you are walking alongside someone who’s grieving, you’re going to have to face it at some point. You can’t outrun it forever. So if you’re one of those people who’s walking alongside someone that you love who’s grieving, be ready to catch them, because they’re going to stumble from their running at some point. 

17:15 – Brian (Host)
Whatever my dad passed away he passed away on a Thursday, service was on Saturday. I was back in the office on that next Monday. I needed that routine. 

17:26 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah. 

17:27 – Brian (Host)
I needed those people back in my life. So, as Ms Kayla said, don’t let people tell you how to like navigate it, you’ve got to find your own way. Yeah, so good stuff, ms Kayla. 

17:38 – Kayla (Host)
Very and listen. 

17:39 – Brian (Host)
life is hard. 

17:41 – Kayla (Host)
It is, and our wish for all of our listeners is that you would never be touched by grief, but that’s not reality. 

17:48 – Brian (Host)
But you have the hope of Jesus and then the resurrection. 

17:51 – Kayla (Host)
Yes, we do. Let’s shift gears. That was a very heavy topic. Let’s have a little fun with some unpopular opinions. 

18:03 – Brian (Host)
A lot of you about to get upset. Well, maybe not, we’re going to get a lot of email on this. 

18:07 – Kayla (Host)
I’m sure this will invoke some conversation, but they might agree with us on some of these. 

18:12 – Brian (Host)
Okay, you ready? I’m going to go first. Okay, cold is better than hot, temperature wise. I agree on this premise here we go I actually agree with you. 

18:24 – Kayla (Host)
You can put on more clothes if you’re cold. You can. You can only take off so much. 

18:29 – Brian (Host)
Well. 

18:30 – Kayla (Host)
And be socially appropriate. Just saying, just saying Appropriate. There you go. Okay, here’s one. Okay, the book is always better than the movie. 

18:41 – Brian (Host)
Disagree. 

18:42 – Kayla (Host)
Of course you do, because there’s Star Wars there you go. 

18:46 – Brian (Host)
I knew it Well, because sometimes that what I want to say. 

18:50 – Kayla (Host)
Uh-huh, okay, this next one, harry. 

18:52 – Brian (Host)
Potter for me is better as a movie. 

18:55 – Kayla (Host)
Oh, okay. 

18:58 – Brian (Host)
Because stuff comes to life. 

19:00 – Kayla (Host)
But the books, okay, never mind, all right. 

19:02 – Brian (Host)
Here we go. 

19:03 – Kayla (Host)
This one. You’re really going to age yourself, but go ahead. 

19:06 – Brian (Host)
Songs are better with lyrics that I can hear and understand. I am that old, crotchety white man. I need to hear the lyrics. I need to hear what’s being sung. I don’t need the music to be so loud that I can’t hear it. 

19:20 – Kayla (Host)
I do find myself Googling song lyrics now Really so yeah. 

19:24 – Brian (Host)
We know we’ve also reached that age where when you go in a grocery store you know they’re playing you jam, yeah, and it’s like I’m humming along. 

19:31 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, I caught myself doing that the other day. I was yeah, okay, here we go. 

19:36 – Brian (Host)
Okay. 

19:38 – Kayla (Host)
Dogs are superior to cats. 

19:40 – Brian (Host)
Amen. Dogs go to heaven, cats go to hell. 

19:43 – Kayla (Host)
Oh, well, that escalates. 

19:45 – Brian (Host)
That’s in the Bible. I’m all about a good puppy dog. Cats have this superiority complex. It’s like they rule the world. 

19:52 – Kayla (Host)
They also have claws. 

19:53 – Brian (Host)
Well, they do, yeah, but it’s just. It’s like they’re moody and they walk around like they own the joint. 

20:01 – Kayla (Host)
Our dog always met me at the door. Our cat hissed at me. So there you go, just saying Moving on. 

20:11 – Brian (Host)
There’s some moms listening that says I have teenagers like that. All right, Fish is better fried than grilled or baked. 

20:22 – Kayla (Host)
Oh, I would agree, unless you have some really good grilled salmon, okay, or even some grilled shrimp. See, now I want seafood Anyway. 

20:34 – Brian (Host)
Shrimp is not a fish, is it Really? Is a crustacean a fish? Huh Are you kidding. Shrimp isn’t a fish, is it? 

20:43 – Kayla (Host)
What would you call it? It’s in the sea. It’s a crustacean. 

20:46 – Brian (Host)
Well, not everything in the sea is a fish. Well, that’s true. Okay, I don’t know, it probably is going. We’ll have to research this and get back on. 

20:55 – Kayla (Host)
I don’t think it’s a fish. Oh my God, moving on, french fries are better than tater tots or onion rings. 

21:04 – Introduction (Host)
Okay. 

21:06 – Brian (Host)
Y’all. Onion rings are manna from heaven? Yes, they are, but I do love a good fry. A they are, but I do love a good fry, a good French fry, but I also love a good onion ring, but I really can’t have them. 

21:18 – Kayla (Host)
All right, you’re about to go nuclear with this next one iPhones are better than Androids and Macs are better than PCs. You would die on that hill, wouldn’t you I? 

21:30 – Brian (Host)
would die on that hill. Yep, I believe that that’s. 

21:32 – Kayla (Host)
You judge new team members when they ask for a PC instead of a. 

21:35 – Brian (Host)
Mac, I’m not going to say I judge them A little bit. 

21:37 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, you do, but I’m like and you raz them if they don’t have iFile. 

21:40 – Brian (Host)
Your potential might be stilted if you own an Android or a PC instead of a Mac. 

21:46 – Kayla (Host)
Okay, so this one. I have to give the disclaimer that I usually am a bedmaker, so this isn’t coming from a place of I don’t do this. But after years of rebelling against this, I actually like a made bed. But I have to say, people who make their bed every day aren’t more structured, nor do they have a leg up on other people. 

22:10 – Brian (Host)
I don’t care. Let me just say this I’d rather have it unmade. It’s easier to get back. 

22:16 – Kayla (Host)
I’m getting back into it, you know, and some say it’s better not to make it because of like germs and things like that, that it airs out during the day. 

22:25 – Introduction (Host)
That’s a gross thought, if you think about, it. 

22:27 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, seriously some camps I didn’t know there’s germs on the bed. There’s bugs, I don’t sleep. What, yeah? I mean there’s all kind of microbes. 

22:41 – Brian (Host)
And anyway, what was that stat? We read that the average person, while you’re sleeping, swallows like six spiders a year. 

22:48 – Kayla (Host)
A year, yes, or in their lifetime. 

22:51 – Brian (Host)
No, in a year you usually swallow six spiders. 

22:53 – Kayla (Host)
No stop, I’ll have nightmares, okay. 

22:57 – Brian (Host)
Your final one. Thank God for my CPAP mask. God, they can’t get in there. I’ll sleep again in two weeks I’m going to upset a few people. 

23:05 – Kayla (Host)
Here we go. 

23:06 – Brian (Host)
Star Wars is better than Star Trek. Now, I like Star Trek, it’s fine, but Star Wars is superior to it. 

23:14 – Kayla (Host)
There is no more shocking statement that you ever could have given, so I would have been really disappointed in you if that was not on your list, america is better than England. 

23:24 – Brian (Host)
How’s that? My final one she’s not going to touch that. She’s going to let it lay there. We’re going to stay married today, so I’m leaving that alone. Is this how it’s going to be? 

23:35 – Kayla (Host)
Hashtag rude you can’t buy happiness. 

23:40 – Brian (Host)
But you can buy tacos and that’s pretty much the same thing. 

23:43 – Kayla (Host)
Oh word, here we go. 

23:44 – Brian (Host)
But I agree, you can’t buy happiness. 

23:49 – Kayla (Host)
And some people spend their entire life trying. 

23:58 – Brian (Host)
And it’s interesting because we often say in this vernacular like well, I’m going to go to the store and I’m going to buy me a happy. 

24:06 – Kayla (Host)
No, you’re really just buying something to fill a hole that needs something else, but that’s a whole other issue. But speaking of something that will make you happy, oh, you could win a coffee mug. Yes, you could, yeah, and we’ve had some really fun winners lately. So thank you to those who have answered our trivia question. You can go to our website and you’ll see that there is a trivia button. Click that. What is our website b? 

24:29 – Brian (Host)
peas andcastcom. You go there and you click the button that says trivia. 

24:35 – Kayla (Host)
What is the question this week? 

24:36 – Brian (Host)
Which camp do I fall in, iphone or Android? It’s the same question as good or evil. Okay, whoa. So which camp do I fall in, iphone or Android? You go to our website, peasandcarrotspodcastcom and you click the trivia button. 

24:51 – Kayla (Host)
There you go, there you go. Answer that question. You can search the peas and carrots podcast wherever you get your podcasts. Visit our website again. That’s peasandcarrotspodcastcom. When you do, please don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast you can also follow us on facebook and instagram. 

25:07 – Brian (Host)
Just search for the peas and carrots podcastcom. Listen carefully, we’re about to say you’re ready. 

25:12 – Kayla (Host)
Oh dear. 

25:13 – Brian (Host)
May the force be with you. 

25:15 – Kayla (Host)
And with you. 

25:16 – Introduction (Host)
Thank you For more about the Peas and Carrots Podcast and to reach out to Brian and Kayla, visit Peas and Carrots Podcast dot com. 

25:27 – Conclusion (Host)
Looking for another great podcast. Jesus Fix it with Seth and Jess is about finding your way through the clutter, perhaps having some laughs along the way. The Christian walk doesn’t always come wrapped in nice, pretty packaging, so count on Seth and Jess to keep it real. Search for Jesus Fix it podcast today. 

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