Season 3, Episode 27: Not Home Yet
Not Home Yet - Episode Description
What if living your faith authentically could transform the world around you? Join us on the Peas and Carrots Podcast as we kick off with a light-hearted confession about our love for Chick-fil-A ice cream and share our collective excitement for the Olympics, celebrating the incredible triumphs of athletes like Simone Biles. We sprinkle in some humor with a funny story about our new programmable AC unit and share a heartfelt visit to our friend Donna, who is on the mend from a recent accident. Our conversation takes a thoughtful twist as we unpack the controversial moments from the Olympic opening ceremonies and discuss the concept of living in the world but not being of it. We dive deep into the idea that non-believers should not be expected to adhere to Christian values and the importance of not imposing our beliefs on others.
This episode also tackles the nuanced topic of boycotting events and products from a faith-based perspective. We emphasize personal conviction and maintaining a Christ-like attitude, making a clear distinction between persecution and mockery. You’ll hear us reflect on how the gospel should be the only offensive element in our lives, not our behaviors or words. To bring it all home, we highlight the temporary nature of this world and the eternal hope of heaven, encouraging our listeners to glorify Christ in their daily lives. And don’t miss our exciting trivia contest! Participate for a chance to win some fantastic Peas and Carrots Podcast prizes. Tune in, and let’s navigate living out our faith in an ever-changing world together.
Not Home Yet - Transcript
00:00 – Announcer (None)
We go together like peas and carrots the peas and carrots podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders.
00:11 – Brian (Host)
Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian, and welcome to this week’s edition of the vegetable patch.
00:18
What is up in the world of peas and carrots?
00:21
Okay, first of all, we just had a Chick-fil-a ice cream cone. So if you hear us, it’s, we just had a Chick-fil-A ice cream cone. So if you hear us, it’s because we just had ice cream.
00:28
Confession is not good for the soul in this moment.
00:31
Oh, okay.
00:33 – Kayla (Host)
Just kidding. Well, I’m just getting it out there on the table.
00:36 – Brian (Host)
You just got a little drainage after all the ice cream Got a little bit of drainage.
00:40 – Kayla (Host)
We have been watching the Olympics and loving it, yeah. So in all seriousness, I don’t want to spoil anything, but if you have been watching, some people are actually watching it later they are. I learned there are people who have Peacock the app and they are watching it of Peacock the app and they are watching it. But to see two athletes conquer their physical and mental health issues and win gold is amazing.
01:14 – Brian (Host)
Simone Biles is just an inspiration. She really is, that’s the truth and you’ve been watching it every night.
01:20 – Kayla (Host)
Except last night I fell out because, yeah, this whole, well, there wasn’t a lot.
01:25 – Brian (Host)
I’m not going to say that.
01:26 – Kayla (Host)
There was a lot, I just I was tired so I took a break last night. But tonight is some more women’s gymnastics, so I will be watching that, if the Sanders were involved in Olympics, who would win the gold medal?
01:39 – Brian (Host)
Oh, our new AC unit would win the gold medal. Oh, gotcha, okay, yes our new ac unit would win the oh gotcha. Okay, yes, you like. You’re in love with our new ac. Yeah, it’s programmable. It has a programmable thermostat.
01:53 – Kayla (Host)
I have an app on my phone you can set it to like turn down and cool the house before we get home.
01:58 – Brian (Host)
It’s on a schedule, I never have to go the thermostat.
02:01 – Kayla (Host)
It’s weird yeah, I’m still getting used to that so because, y’all, we had an old timey one where you had to slide the thermostat up and down.
02:10 – Brian (Host)
I don’t know if that’s old timey, they still make that maybe it was 20 years old.
02:14 – Kayla (Host)
well, I mean okay. So yesterday was everything. We got to visit our friend slash co-worker, donna, in Winston-Salem, north Carolina. She is recovering from a recent accident and it was just seeing her smile, getting to laugh with her, seeing how well she’s doing with her healing, so yeah, she looked good.
02:41 – Brian (Host)
She did, she laughed joked, yeah, she looked good.
02:43 – Kayla (Host)
She did, yeah, she laughed, yeah, joked. She’s got a ways to go, so please keep praying for her, but it was a great visit.
02:50 – Brian (Host)
She’s doing her own Olympics. I just saw where she had to play the drummys today Uh-huh, for part of her physical therapy.
02:58 – Kayla (Host)
Yep.
03:00 – Brian (Host)
So that’s, I mean, I don’t know, that’s just a whole new way of therapy for me. I guess the opening ceremonies of the Olympics we have some thoughts. The social medias have been on fire.
03:17 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, just on fire, I do not miss Facebook. So yeah, I want to give a disclaimer, not miss Facebook. So yeah, I want to give a disclaimer before we go here. This is not one of those moments where we’re going to get on our soapbox and we are not coming at anyone. This is just some thoughts that in light of the opening ceremony, and some people may be like I have no idea what you’re talking about, so I will share very briefly.
03:46
There were two incidences during the opening ceremony. Apparently, there was a scene where the performers we will put it that way were making a mockery of the Lord’s Supper, and then there was another. I actually watched this one, so’m just I’m gonna confess I think I kind of dozed off before the the lord’s supper thing. I came back for a little while. Later on I woke back up, but yeah, that thing goes. I forgot how long the opening ceremony is, but anyway, earlier in the evening you and I were both speechless. At a, there was an artistic interpretation. There were three people dancing through the streets of Paris and it was very risque, and yes, I’m trying to choose my words carefully here, but at the end of the scene it was very suggestive and they were the three of them going into a room and closing the door, and you and I both were absolutely shocked.
04:49 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, I couldn’t believe it was like in family primetime.
04:52 – Kayla (Host)
And this is happening. So the question that I’ve been sitting with and you and I talked about this after watching the opening ceremony and then, like the dumpster fire, that is the interwebs what does it look like to be in this world, but not of this world? And it led to this ongoing conversation that we just want to have with all of you today.
05:19 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, Let me start off with this basic principle. Okay, and we’re taking that particular principle as to living in the world, but you’re not of it, and so let me say this how do you respond to the world as well? How do you live in it, not be of it, but also respond to it? I’m going to lay down this particular foundational truth. This particular foundational truth Never expect unbelievers to love, act like or honor what believers love, act like and honor. Don’t do it, because you will set yourself up for failure. So that is the basic principle there that I want to start with, because they don’t know your God and you cannot legislate or force people to live like a Christian.
06:18 – Kayla (Host)
There’s a couple of other disclaimers that we want to give. If you feel a strong conviction to boycott something, I say that’s between you and God and that is where it should stay. Here’s just. This is just my take. If doing so requires you to incite anger and project hate on everyone around you, maybe it’s worth taking a pause first, and this is not going to be a political discussion. That’s not where our heads are as we broach just our thoughts on this.
06:57
Yes, there were moments in the opening ceremony that gave me a lot to think about. Even yet, I did not decide well, I’m not watching one minute of the Olympics because of that. These athletes worked really hard to get where they are. I want them to know that I’m sitting on my couch cheering for them, rooting for them, posting about them, because I can’t go that far personally. I can’t say well, this was just evil and not of God, so I refuse to have anything to do with the Olympics. And if that is where you, as a listener, have landed, that’s between you and God. So that’s just a disclaimer we want to give Exactly so.
07:45 – Brian (Host)
Again, we want to say this it is our stance that, like, if you want to boycott something, do it quietly, because you never see I don’t want to say this. You never see Jesus and the apostles holding up picket signs or anything like that. Their goal is to not be offended by the world. Their goal is to change the world.
08:13 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah.
08:13 – Brian (Host)
And to change it you usually have to be friendly with people. So let me say this also the church has faced persecution since the beginning of time. What happened at the Olympics is not persecution. Okay, that is just. You could call it mockery, you could call it misunderstanding, all that other kind of stuff, but it isn’t persecution. Now, when you’re being persecuted, you’re being put in jail for your faith. You’re being killed for your faith. Yeah, so let’s get that straight. ‘re being killed for your faith? Yeah, so let’s get that straight. Is that that wasn’t persecution?
08:49 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah.
08:50 – Brian (Host)
That was something else, and what we’re talking about is how to react to it. How would Jesus respond?
08:58 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, here’s a truth that you and I both live by, because we have friends with varying backgrounds, with varying lifestyles, and yet we have chosen to lean in and love. Well, our lives should make some uncomfortable, so this is where I’m kind of going to go there a little bit. We have guidelines for how we should live, and those are presented to us through his word and the Spirit’s nudging. As a believer, there are things that I know I’m going to feel a conviction for is more about who they see in us than what we say from our megaphones, our social media platforms and felt judgment. Should they brave attending our churches? I want to be a person that I’m living out my faith, but I’m not shoving it down someone’s throat.
10:05 – Brian (Host)
Here’s what Ms Miss Kayla is saying your life and the gospel should make people uncomfortable. Yeah, the way that you talk to people should not.
10:16 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah.
10:17 – Brian (Host)
In other words, the gospel is offensive. You don’t have to be, yeah, don’t be a jerk.
10:23 – Kayla (Host)
Well, jesus dined with sinners and he walked with broken people.
10:27 – Brian (Host)
Yes, One of the apostles was a zealot, was a terrorist I can’t. I’m trying to grab his name here and it escapes me. Also, that woman at the well yeah, she had how many husbands, yeah. Woman at the well, she had how many husbands, yeah. Then apparently, mary Magdalene was a very. She was a woman of the world according to church tradition.
10:52 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah.
10:53 – Brian (Host)
And none of these people were like perfect. Matthew was a tax collector. And look at Paul he murdered. There’s a great quote about Paul that says Paul entered heaven to the cheers of the people he martyred. That’s how the gospel works, that we want society to live like we do, that we forget that it takes the gospel to change a heart and so you can’t legislate that. So back to what you said, Ms Kayla, because it was powerful. You said our lives should make some uncomfortable.
11:41 – Kayla (Host)
They should. That’s how I should be in the world, but not of it so powerful. They should see something in me that they yearn for, but not my hate or not my vitriol about everything and not your Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or whatever.
12:01 – Brian (Host)
it’s called X rants or whatever.
12:03 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, I know all that stuff.
12:05 – Brian (Host)
It’s possible to love the person and also hate the sin From Facebook posts and like social media. We’re hating the people and that will never win anybody to Christ. That will never bring them, because think about this Jesus said that if you gain the whole world and yet lose your soul, what is a prophet? Hmm, what if you won the moral high ground all over the world? What if you forced everybody to live the way you do, but they never believe the gospel?
12:47 – Kayla (Host)
It’s all for naught what is the profit in that. I want to say this it is just and it is good to have conversations with others about living a gospel-centered life. It is on me to talk about my walk with Christ, but I can do that without always putting others on defense or making them doubt that the Jesus that we love could ever love them. May the gospel be offensive. May we not be offensive.
13:20 – Brian (Host)
Amen, you ought to preach sometime. No, no, no.
13:28 – Kayla (Host)
This world is not our home.
13:29 – Brian (Host)
Amen. This is a temporary place, yeah, and we long for the hope of heaven, but we may not. But help us not to squander the privilege we have of glorifying christ in our time here. So here’s the thing sometimes it’s like we fight as though this is our eternal home, as though this is where and we should take care of this place. But y’all, we’re just passing through. Yeah, our hope is not built here. No, and it’s like we’re just all ramped up about you know, we got to. Anyway, before I go off, on.
14:02 – Kayla (Host)
I was going to say you’re, you’re you got one foot on the soapbox.
14:05 – Brian (Host)
I know, I know.
14:07 – Kayla (Host)
Bottom line.
14:08 – Brian (Host)
A few things I want to say.
14:10 – Kayla (Host)
I know. So I’m reining you in because we promised this was not going to go there. I know.
14:14 – Brian (Host)
I got kind of close.
14:28 – Kayla (Host)
The challenge to me when situations like this arise, where I think back to and we will not dwell here, but I think back to the Starbucks Red Cup and how Christians lost their ever-loving mind over a Starbucks Red Cup. Yes, may we not be remembered for those types of moments where, as a believer, it even still sits with me and I chuckle on the inside. May we bring people to tears because they long for a faith that we have that makes them want to draw closer to him, because that’s the whole end game. Is the way I act, the way I react and y’all, I do not get this perfectly right. Not even once a day do I necessarily.
15:13 – Brian (Host)
Well, you do pretty good.
15:15 – Kayla (Host)
But I think I just I told you the other night after watching the opening ceremony yes, I was heart sick, I was some of what I saw. But we live in a broken world. We are broken people. May we chase so hard after Jesus that in doing that, our lives somehow inspire others to pursue him as well.
15:43 – Brian (Host)
I have nothing to add to that Beautiful.
15:46 – Kayla (Host)
Shall, we play some trivia. I thought you would like this. I like trivia.
15:50 – Brian (Host)
You like these little games, I like these little games. Yeah, and you came up with the questions.
15:56 – Kayla (Host)
I always do.
15:59 – Brian (Host)
I had some in here every now and then. Well, you do?
16:02 – Kayla (Host)
I left room for you to add some but you didn’t. You’ve had a little busy week, so I get it. What’s the first question?
16:09 – Brian (Host)
If you had to participate in one Olympic sport, which would you choose?
16:14 – Announcer (None)
I would choose gymnastics Because I was in gymnastics as a child and I hope it would come back to me.
16:23 – Kayla (Host)
I want to talk about this a second.
16:26 – Brian (Host)
When you dance, one leg moves and one finger goes up and down, how are you going to do gymnastics?
16:34 – Kayla (Host)
Gymnastics is flipping and turning. It’s not If you can’t flip and turn.
16:38 – Brian (Host)
if you can’t dance and you fell down the stairs a year ago.
16:43 – Kayla (Host)
I’m feeling a little attacked.
16:46 – Brian (Host)
What would yours be Swimming, I could float. Oh my gosh, I can’t run, flip, jump, nothing. I can’t pummel that horse or whatever it’s called. I can’t do any of that stuff. I’d float, but then every now and then I hope I wouldn’t get harpooned, though as I’m floating across the pool.
17:10 – Kayla (Host)
Look Mom mom, it’s moby dick. You know it’s a whale. You you didn’t. Are you done? You didn’t find that?
17:13 – Brian (Host)
no, okay, next name one item on your bucket list to be married to you for 50 years no you’re gonna say something like eat ice cream and all the disney cards well, that one’s a given.
17:29 – Kayla (Host)
Um well, I’ll say another one do please, okay, I don’t know um, I will start then. Okay, I look forward to the day that we will do a cruise of europe oh, wow, well see, I got.
17:45 – Brian (Host)
I’d like okay, I’d like to write a book about abraham a cruise of Europe. Oh, wow, well see, I’d like to write a book about Abraham Lincoln.
17:51 – Kayla (Host)
Okay, nobody’s shocked by that.
17:56 – Brian (Host)
I’d like to go back to Greece. I’d like to go back. Oh, greece was amazing. I’d like to go back to Switzerland, although we’ve been checking the temperatures in Greece and Rome, right now 98.
18:07 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, they’re dying in Paris. It’s hot.
18:09 – Brian (Host)
If you could eat only one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be For me? Fried chicken Every day, Every single day.
18:20 – Kayla (Host)
See, I would say steak, mashed potatoes and rolls.
18:23 – Brian (Host)
Oh, I get to like I thought it was just one food. I said meal, oh oh, fried chicken, rice and gravy.
18:33 – Kayla (Host)
Okay.
18:34 – Brian (Host)
I could eat rice every day of my life.
18:36 – Kayla (Host)
Okay.
18:36 – Brian (Host)
Okay.
18:39 – Kayla (Host)
What scares you more? Failure or never trying?
18:43 – Brian (Host)
Failure? Yeah, because I’m too dumb not to try. To try, I mean I’ll try, I mean I’ll.
18:50 – Kayla (Host)
I could live with failure. I could not live with never trying I can’t.
18:54 – Brian (Host)
Uh. Well, now I’m making me think this differently. I will try anything that doesn’t make me afraid. Failure scares me, so I will pivot.
19:07 – Kayla (Host)
See, I’m more scared of having a wasted life.
19:10 – Brian (Host)
Well, I guess that’s where. Okay, let me say this I don’t think I am wasting it, so I’m willing to try anything.
19:19 – Kayla (Host)
This question’s really tripping you up.
19:20 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, because here’s the thing I’ll do something twice, because I figured I did it wrong first time.
19:26 – Kayla (Host)
Well then you’re not scared of failure.
19:29 – Announcer (None)
Oh.
19:30 – Kayla (Host)
You’d be more scared of never taking the risk.
19:33 – Announcer (None)
True.
19:33 – Brian (Host)
Yeah.
19:34 – Kayla (Host)
Okay, what’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
19:38 – Brian (Host)
Going to that gym the very first time.
19:41 – Kayla (Host)
Mm-hmm, I can see that.
19:44 – Brian (Host)
Was I supposed to say something else?
19:45 – Kayla (Host)
no, I’m just that’s um yours marrying me. No, I would out for you. I would say I taught a cpr instructor’s class to 15 firemen one time and it was the most terrifying. When was this? Back in new orleans, when I was certified in cpr and first aid, I actually had to teach to become an instructor and I actually had to teach a class of firemen and it was terrifying, but second only to the first time I ever walked in your gym. That was the scariest thing I’ve ever done.
20:30 – Brian (Host)
Our gym. If you had to learn another language, which would you choose?
20:36 – Kayla (Host)
I would choose French because I think it’s such a beautiful language.
20:41 – Brian (Host)
I would sound terrible, but I’ve had four years of training in german, so I would naturally lean toward no, no, you already know that you have to learn a language. No cheating I guess spanish okay, I don’t know any spanish, oh, I see I like spanish, any Spanish.
21:01 – Kayla (Host)
Oh, I see I like Spanish. What is one character flaw you struggle to overlook? Don’t give any names, but I don’t want to say it’s the unforgivable, but what is one character flaw? That it’s just really. This is like confession time.
21:18 – Brian (Host)
And myself or other people.
21:19 – Kayla (Host)
Either no names.
21:22 – Brian (Host)
And other people, people who never shut up. It’s like they don’t even stop and take a breath. It’s just, it’s like they’re circular, it’s like they got gills and they never have to stop. And they just keep going, and going, and going, ok, ok.
21:42 – Kayla (Host)
For me, it’s people who lie. I really struggle with dishonest people, but one of my core values is integrity, so I just have to feel that what you’re saying is something that I can get behind, that it’s truthful, so yeah, so those are just some random trivia items.
22:03 – Brian (Host)
That’s interesting, but what is one character flaw you struggle to overlook in yourself, in?
22:09 – Kayla (Host)
myself.
22:10 – Brian (Host)
I’ll start with me. Okay, flaw that I have is I can listen for a short amount of time and I struggle to listen for a really long amount of time and that aggravates me. You zone out, I zone out.
22:26 – Kayla (Host)
A character flaw in myself is that and you have none. Oh, I have plenty. Okay, I’m actually going to give two no, because it’s something that I often struggle with Through this podcast. I never want to come across as self-righteous you don’t. But second of all, this is me answering the question.
22:48
I apologize the second one is I am my own worst critic yes, you are and I am constantly the person that’s telling myself that I got it all wrong and so learn. I’m learning to give myself credit. What was the good in that situation? Because my brain trends toward the kayla. You should have done this. You should have said that, you should have thought this out. Um, you’re the reason this happened. Blah, blah, blah. So yeah, that’s, that’s a character flaw in me I don’t’t think so.
23:22 – Brian (Host)
Yeah, well, I can see where you struggle with that and it breaks my heart. Yeah.
23:26 – Kayla (Host)
So, anyway, that’s enough confession for today. If you go to our website, which is peasandcarrotspodcastcom. And you answer the question correctly, you can win a whole like plethora of things. A mug and stickers and a notepad and a pen and all kind of stuff. A little post-it note.
23:45 – Brian (Host)
Really.
23:46 – Kayla (Host)
Yeah, it’s a little notepad of post-its.
23:48 – Brian (Host)
So you go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. When you get there, you click the trivia button. And what is this week’s trivia question?
23:56 – Kayla (Host)
Which Olympic sport would you choose? So which Olympic sport would?
24:02 – Brian (Host)
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24:10 – Kayla (Host)
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24:21 – Brian (Host)
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24:28 – Announcer (None)
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