Season 3, Episode 18: Oh, Bless

Can We Talk?
Oh, Bless - Episode Description

Join us, Brian and Kayla, as we recount our latest adventures, starting with our commitment to a three-day gym routine and Kayla’s intense day of gardening that led to some minor injuries and spider bites. We share a delightful dinner experience with new friends at the River Company, which brought a nostalgic sense of pre-pandemic normalcy. Listen in as we discuss the trap of self-sufficiency and the importance of recognizing and accepting the blessings, goodness, and grace of God as a gift, not something that can be earned.

In this episode, we also explore the everyday challenges of middle age, including sleep patterns, managing heat waves, and frequent bathroom breaks. We touch on the humorous aspects of forgetfulness and the diminishing effectiveness of multitasking, along with our differing tolerances for air conditioning and the concept of a “napitizer.”

It's A Trap - Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Brian

Welcome to the Peas and Carrots Podcast. Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian. 

 

0:00:16 – Kayla

How are we? 

 

0:00:17 – Brian

We’re good, we are good, we are good. We went to the gym every day this week. We did. Well hang on. 

 

0:00:27 – Kayla

We went to the gym for the three days we’re supposed to go? 

 

0:00:29 – Brian

yes, we did so, and it didn’t kill us it didn’t. 

 

0:00:32 – Kayla

I’m feeling it, but we’re here, yeah y’all. 

 

0:00:37 – Brian

We’ll be sitting downstairs about 8 30 at night. She’ll get up and she’ll walk like very gingerly. Y’all remember Tim Conway? I used to play that old man on the Carol Burnett show. She looks like she’s walking by sometimes. So, what’s up in our world besides that? 

 

0:00:55 – Kayla

Well, speaking of walking like that, Saturday I got this wild hair that I wanted to trim some of our shrubs. Seven hours later, mission accomplished. I was very sore for a couple of days Y’all she cut rose, bushes, shrubs, flowers. Planted some flowers. It was time, it’s spring. 

 

0:01:18 – Brian

And during the process she cut herself on all this stuff. How many nicks and cuts and bump bites oh, that’s not important. 

 

0:01:24 – Kayla

Actually, I really only ended up with two scratches, which is miraculous for me, but I think I got into a nest of spiders and I had about eight bites on me, so yeah, why are you telling me this publicly on this podcast? 

 

0:01:41 – Brian

and you’ve been sleeping next to me for a week since the biters. 

 

0:01:46 – Kayla

I think that’s what it was. I looked up the bites, kind of yeah, so I’m good, I’m still here I’m not really worried about you, I’m worried about them. 

 

0:01:54 – Brian

Things crawling off of you, onto me. 

 

0:01:55 – Kayla

They’re not on me, they were in the leaves and yeah, so calm down I’m a little whatever, we had an amazing dinner with some new friends. We did we did, it was yeah. 

 

0:02:13 – Brian

We went to one of our favorite places called the River Company. 

 

0:02:16 – Kayla

Some of you will understand this. It was reminiscent of pre-pandemic life and it felt like we finally got back to that. 

 

0:02:25 – Brian

Laughter stories. It was a grand time. Yeah, it was wonderful, it was. 

 

0:02:32 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:02:33 – Brian

And we’ve committed to make it a monthly gig. We have so yeah that’s going to be fun. It was great. 

 

0:02:39 – Kayla

Speaking of restaurants, though, we talked about this, I think, maybe on our last, last podcast. But, B, how many times have we now been to Cabo after today? Because you have declared we’re going there for lunch today? Four, uh-huh. 

 

0:02:54 – Brian

In the span of two or three weeks. 

 

0:02:59 – Kayla

You now have a new favorite restaurant. I do, oh, I’ve got big news. Okay. 

 

0:03:05 – Brian

I just learned it this morning oh big news. Okay, the new Godzilla movie to be the minus one. Is that your way of saying you will not be watching this movie? 

 

0:03:33 – Kayla

with me. 

 

0:03:33 – Brian

I have some flowers that need tending, so and it is in Japanese, so you have to use subtitles, but it’s incredible. 

 

0:03:42 – Kayla

Oh, I’m outside. You enjoy that is, it’s Zilla. Uh-huh, carry on, you’re going to be the minus one. I’m the minus one. 

 

0:03:52 – Brian

That’s great. 

 

0:03:56 – Kayla

You and I were talking the other day about this trend towards people seeing themselves as very self-sufficient, and it led to several conversations. But another thing that I shared with you it was one of those evenings where we were just kind of bouncing around from topic to topic and I shared with you that I see how God has us in a season of plenty, and let me unpack that just a little bit. We are both seeing all the ways that God is blessing us in our lives and I admitted that in these seasons I wait for the other shoe to drop. It’s like I’m constantly watching for something bad to happen and that’s just my I think it’s my self-protection of let me not get comfortable here. But it led us to start talking about what it looks like when God is blessing all of us, and it was a great conversation that kind of had many aspects to it. 

 

So we’re just going to share some of that here, some of the things that you and I were discussing. 

 

0:05:06 – Brian

So I want to start here. Why do you think that in this season of plenty in other words, we have friends, we’ve been going out, the organization’s thriving, we’re going to the gym all these different things happening? Why do you dread yeah? 

 

0:05:24 – Kayla

So we’re in a season where all those things, life has been very peaceful. It’s been very calm for the most part. Don’t get me wrong. We’ve had some hard things. We even referenced that recently on a podcast. But for us personally, things have been very even keeled, as far as there’s not been a lot of drama and there has been, unless I’ve created it. 

 

0:05:47 – Brian

Let’s just be honest, okay. 

 

0:05:50 – Kayla

We’re in a state of contentment, would it be fair to say, with everything. I think for me it’s just when I was younger, a lot of times in my life when things felt good, something bad would happen, I would get bad news or there would be a bad situation, and so, yes, it’s probably not to use this term like it’s probably a trauma response that I can’t allow myself to really enjoy the good thing. 

 

0:06:18 – Brian

But, you’re scared Because. 

 

0:06:19 – Kayla

I’m scared of you know what’s coming next. What’s going to happen that’s going to take all of this away or make it not as pleasant as it has been. 

 

0:06:28 – Brian

There is a truth there, and I hate to share this truth, but life does come with pain. In other words, it rains oh I know that well. 

 

0:06:35 – Kayla

There’s a verse in Matthew the rain falls on the righteous and the unrighteous and either yeah you can view rain as a flood, or is it helping crops? 

 

0:06:44 – Brian

so you know, it’s the bad and the good happen to both the righteous and the unrighteous. 

 

0:06:49 – Kayla

Sure, I get that what you and I started talking about. So this is where we’re kind of dip our toe in here. We started talking about people who tend to believe that their blessings are something they did, or perhaps they have sown a seed and so therefore they are I’ve? 

 

earned this, I’m worthy of this, which led to this truth being good people does not merit us reward, it tells us in Romans 3, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, we did nothing to save ourselves. But there is this movement that I can name it, claim it, I can sow a seed and then God will do this good thing, or I am worthy of that. I’m a good person. I’ve given to charity, I’ve done this, I’ve done that. 

 

0:07:45 – Brian

Scripture actually says that the entire world, that the universe, groans under the curse. So everything here, because of what Adam, and Eve, eve did, we’ve all been placed under this curse and everything groans yeah there’s this brokenness to it. So here’s what I want to say the only thing that isn’t under the curse would be god himself. Yeah, okay, so everything else would be under this curse, here on earth and in the universe. So here’s the thing. If that’s the case, we can’t earn anything. 

 

0:08:22 – Kayla

No, it’s all a gift from him. Yes, yeah. 

 

0:08:26 – Brian

I’ve been telling you the last few weeks who deserves a life like this. 

 

0:08:31 – Kayla

Yeah, we’ve just been both sitting with that feeling like who are we to have so much of God’s goodness? And again, this is not a well look at us and it’s certainly not a life is just all rainbows and roses. There have been. We even shared that recently on a podcast. There have been a lot of difficult things for our PAR team that we have felt they are our family and we have walked through a lot of that with them. What we are referring to here is this mindset that we deserve the credit and we don’t I mean I’m going to go there. We don’t I mean I’m going to go there. Prosperity gospel tells us that we can improve our lives through devotion and a positive confession towards God. God doesn’t work that way. 

 

0:09:26 – Brian

He is not a genie’s lamp. No, you can’t go over and rub it and speak it and proclaim it. No, scripture says that he’s declared the end from the beginning. Yeah, so we can’t change that. For that I want to be cautious here, but I also want to speak some truth. There’s a great effort along this exact same topic, this exact same thing we’re talking about, yeah, to where everyone is saying you’re worthy. Yeah, or you deserve it or I’m worthy. 

 

0:10:00 – Kayla

You’re not, or God wants this for you. Or God, you’re worthy yeah or you deserve it, or I’m worthy, you’re not, or god wants this for you or god? 

 

0:10:03 – Brian

you’re not. How do we know the mind of god? Well, there’s that, but that’s a very good point, because we seem to shout a lot wherever god whispers. But I want to say this we’re not worthy of the goodness, the kindness, the blessings and the grace. You see, the song Amazing Grace. The reason why he wrote it is because grace is amazing, because we don’t deserve it. Yeah, and the moment we start saying we’re worthy or we deserve it, grace is no longer amazing, grace is then. 

 

0:10:32 – Kayla

And we minimize what he’s done. Yes, and that is not. That’s not the gospel. 

 

0:10:38 – Brian

And it’s amazing grace, it’s not earned grace. 

 

0:10:41 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:10:42 – Brian

Who wants to sing earned grace. How sweet the sound. Who can earn it? Yeah? 

 

0:10:48 – Kayla

There’s another truth the goodness that God shows us should drive us to our knees in gratitude. It should should drive us to our knees in gratitude. It should not thanking us for ourselves, not thanking us for all the things we did or all the praise that we deserve, but it’s all about him. 

 

0:11:09 – Brian

I agree 100% with what you just said. My fault is I fall into a trap of thinking that if I keep doing X, y, z, oh, we all do that. If I keep reading, if I keep praying, if I keep going to church, if I keep, if I work harder, if I yeah. And that, if I don’t say as many curse words, you know that this blessing will continue to flow. 

 

0:11:34 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:11:34 – Brian

That’s not how he works. No, it’s according to his will, whatever he wants to do and on his time frame. 

 

0:11:41 – Kayla

Yeah, may I admit that I’m one of these who has said well, they are such good people, I can’t believe that they’re going through this, or they would be such good parents, or they deserve so much better in life. We don’t get to decide that God’s the one that is sovereign over all, and no matter how good we think we are, no matter how worthy we think we should be, he is the one that holds all things. 

 

0:12:12 – Brian

You’re going to upset a few people because you started preaching, I’m just saying. But I’m going to say amen, preach louder. I am 100%. All in Well, miss Kayla, yeah, I’m 56. We won’t reveal your age, okay. 

 

0:12:31 – Kayla

I mean I’ve made it this far. I’ll be 52 in October. 

 

0:12:39 – Brian

You remember, at one time you lost track of a birthday I. 

 

0:12:41 – Kayla

You thought you were a year younger. I was 32 and I thought I was turning 31 and y’all, I had an absolute meltdown. You looked at me and would you like to share what you said. I don’t remember. Well, babe, it was a great year. I was here for it. 

 

0:12:56 – Brian

You actually sat down and cried, I bawled, I’m like I lost the whole year. 

 

0:13:08 – Kayla

You didn’t lose it. 

 

0:13:11 – Brian

It was right there. Here’s my thing you handle the finances in our house. 

 

0:13:16 – Kayla

You’re welcome. Middle age, it hits a little different. It does, doesn’t it? So I now have to take my glasses off to read labels. Or I’ve learned a trick, y’all If you’ll take your iPhone and take a picture of the label, you can then zoom in on it, you can blow it up so you can see what’s on the label. But I cannot read labels anymore. You walked into the kitchen the other day and I had my glasses in one hand and I was reading a label with the other here we are. 

 

0:13:46 – Brian

Sometimes, when you take something out of the fridge and you want to see the expiration date, does anybody have to go turn on an extra light? 

 

0:13:52 – Kayla

oh yes, I have to go stand by the window. 

 

0:13:55 – Brian

I just I turn on the. This is where we are I turn on? Flashlight on my phone and I highlight the date. So gone are the days of sleeping through the night. 

 

0:14:09 – Kayla

Oh yes, mercy, I wake up, at least once if not twice. 

 

0:14:15 – Brian

For me. I sleep two, sleep two, three, four hours. Uh-huh, I’ll wake up, go do my business, come back to bed and I’ll lay there for an hour. 

 

0:14:27 – Kayla

Oh no, I don’t do that, thank goodness, unless there’s a lot going on or I know I have a big project coming up at work. I go right back to sleep, but yeah, I have to get up and yeah, I’ll lay there for work. I go right back to sleep, but yeah, I have to get up. 

 

0:14:38 – Brian

And yeah, I’ll lay there for an hour if I go back to sleep. I’ve talked to some buddies of mine. This is normal. 

 

0:14:44 – Kayla

Now, I do wake up some nights with a heat wave, but we’ll just leave it there. So y’all it’s the funniest thing. 

 

0:14:50 – Brian

Let me just paint a picture. We’ll be downstairs watching one of our shows and in one of our shows and she loves for the house to be cool and cold and she likes to be all bundled up under my blanket, under a blanket. All of a sudden there is no announcement all of a sudden that blanket will come tearing off of her and one leg will stick out and I will just say baby, it’s my cooling mechanism. 

 

Yeah, and I said, baby you, you say I got a little heat wave happening, yep, but those aren’t happening as much anymore, are they every now?

 

0:15:20 – Kayla

and then, thank God, no Change your diet, it works. Just saying 9 pm is the new midnight for us. 

 

0:15:29 – Brian

And usually 8.15 to 8.45, is usually a napitizer. 

 

0:15:34 – Kayla

A napitizer? What in the world? You know we fall asleep. 

 

0:15:43 – Brian

Oh, we have done that lately. 

 

0:15:43 – Kayla

Yeah well, I’m usually taking a bath, but so you’re taking a napitizer while I’m taking a bath, did we not? We both fell asleep the other night yeah, and so we fall asleep. 

 

0:15:52 – Brian

Yeah, for about 30 minutes downstairs. We’ll wake up and you’ll say b, let you ready to go to bed, let’s go to bed. That 30 minutes is an appetizer. Yeah, before you get to the main sleep. 

 

0:16:04 – Kayla

Yeah, what is something you found with bathrooms B? 

 

0:16:11 – Brian

can we clarify that question a little bit? 

 

0:16:14 – Kayla

I cannot walk past one without stopping it’s like something in your brain says I gotta go you also don’t know at my age when you’re gonna see another one. 

 

0:16:22 – Brian

Yeah, so I’m always true. 

 

0:16:25 – Kayla

I used to joke with people who stopped at every bathroom and now I’m like well, that just makes common sense, we should probably do that. So yeah, I mean, I don’t Anyone else struggle with the forgetfulness. It’s like you can’t remember things that were just so easy. Come back or recall, and now it’s like, hmm, if I have to stay very attentive in conversations. 

 

0:16:51 – Brian

I used to be able to do two or three things at once and I could retain everything. 

 

0:16:55 – Kayla

Well, I think you’d be surprised to find out that’s most of us, because multitasking is not as brilliant as everybody thought it would be. 

 

0:17:03 – Brian

But I have to really zero in, listen attentively in order to retain the information. But the forgetfulness is a real thing. I’ll do a devotion in the morning at 5 am. By like 12 noon I have forgotten exactly. I don’t even know what I read. I have no idea. So I started doing an evening one too, just so I can. 

 

0:17:26 – Kayla

My thing is names. I’ll be sitting there, I can see someone and I think I honestly cannot remember their name. You know what I’d love? 

 

0:17:35 – Brian

is to have a pair of glasses. I’d like to have my glasses where they are, but I wish that Apple would invent a thing where my glasses could connect to my phone. When you walk up to somebody you could like tap them twice and it gives you their name. It would do facial recognition on them and would give you their name. 

 

0:17:53 – Kayla

Wow. Well, there you go. 

 

0:17:55 – Brian

Wouldn’t that be nice? 

 

0:17:56 – Kayla

The next big invention. 

 

0:17:58 – Brian

Maybe I just, Maybe you came up with it. I’m sure somebody’s already invented this, but yeah, these are things we’re finding at middle age. I can’t tolerate air conditioning as much anymore. 

 

0:18:09 – Kayla

Oh, bring it on. 

 

0:18:10 – Brian

You’re all about it. 

 

0:18:11 – Kayla

I am. 

 

0:18:15 – Brian

We bring it on. You’re all about it, I am. We have completely reversed. I mean, I’m downstairs under two blankets. You’re over there, you know. I mean you’re over doing a little dance, so it’s a fun. I mean I’m enjoying this stage of life with you. Oh, absolutely. I don’t always enjoy how my body feels. 

 

0:18:31 – Kayla

Yeah, yeah, it’s an adjustment. I remember your dad said something one time. He said I never thought I would get old and by far we’re not there. But I mean, but we’re on the yellow brick road. 

 

0:18:46 – Brian

I mean we’re going to see the wizard. You know what I’m saying? 

 

0:18:50 – Kayla

But I feel like a lot of people can relate to some of this. So there we go. This is us. 

 

0:18:55 – Brian

This is us, so I’m here for it. Hey, thanks for listening to this week’s episode of the Peas and Carrots podcast, and we would like to send you. 

 

0:19:05 – Kayla

We’d love to send you a mug and some stickers the first two people to go to our website and thank you to all those who have shared with us.

 

0:19:13 – Brian

I want to do a special shout out to a friend of ours. Okay, her first name is Hope. 

 

0:19:18 – Kayla

Yes. 

 

0:19:18 – Brian

And she’s been emailing us every week. Hope we actually see those messages. Thank you for communicating. 

 

0:19:23 – Kayla

There is a package headed your way. Yes, and we have been praying for your recovery, so we hope you are doing well. We’re excited for all of your plans for the summer. We pray that God blesses you with healing so that you can enjoy those. But yes, if, like Hope, you would like to get a mug and some stickers, go to our website. Look for the trivia button. 

 

0:19:45 – Brian

Our website is peasandcarrotspodcast.com. 

 

0:19:49 – Kayla

Yes. 

 

0:19:49 – Brian

Peasandcarrotspodcast.com. When you get there, click on the trivia button. What is this week’s question? 

 

0:19:55 – Kayla

What movie, minus one, is Brian excited about? 

 

0:20:00 – Brian

Oh, it’s going to be. It comes out tomorrow. Yeah, I’m so excited. So go to peasandcarrotspodcast.com. 

 

0:20:08 – Kayla

Click that trivia button. 

 

0:20:09 – Brian

Answer that question level of enthusiasm is not impressive. Okay, and this is the question what movie am I excited about? 

 

0:20:16 – Kayla

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0:20:30 – Brian

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Season 3, Episode 8: Hello, Mate!

Hello, Mate! - Episode Description

Join us on this week’s Peas and Carrots Podcast as we kick things off with a light-hearted utensil tussle – are you Team Spoon or Team Knife when it comes to spreading mayonnaise? But it’s not all fun and games; we also share our personal takeaways from a month-long habit tracker. Discover the highs and lows of maintaining good habits, the quest to include more greens in our diet, and our heartfelt encounter with a newborn member of our church community. Plus, we debate the pros and cons of daylight saving time and share a few laughs over nocturnal phone screen shenanigans.

Listen in as we explore the complexities of faith in the professional realm. We open up about our own spiritual journey and how it’s shaped our approach to ministry work. The conversation takes a turn towards the profound as we discuss the necessity of grace in both ministry and relationships, focusing on the essential beliefs that unite Christians while extending a circle of grace to the varied interpretations of non-essential doctrines. And let’s not forget to touch upon the role of Old Testament laws and the true path to salvation through Jesus’s sacrifice – it’s a reminder to avoid judgment and embrace compassion.

Finally, ready your ears for a delightful linguistic jaunt as we compare the quirks of British and American English. From attempting (and failing) to nail British accents to deciphering terms like ‘trolley’ and ‘dummy’, this episode is a linguistic treat. Wrap up with us as we chuckle over classic British phrases and their American counterparts, all while paying homage to the cultural staples that make each version of English uniquely charming. So grab your headphones and a cuppa, and prepare for an episode that’s as cozy as mismatched socks on a chilly day.

Hello, Mate! - Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Brian

Welcome the peas and carrots podcast. Hello, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian, and good to have you along for this week’s edition, which will be a lot of British stuff here in a little while. 

 

0:00:21 – Kayla

Well, don’t sound so excited. Well I’m, it’s gonna be fun. ‘Merica. This can be fun, I promise. Okay, all right, so I have an update. Can I have a little breaking? I need a breaking news. There we go a friend emailed the following oh this is verbatim. Okay, okay, you ready for this? 

 

0:00:43 – Brian

I’m ready. 

 

0:00:44 – Kayla

I have never in my life heard of spreading mayo with a spoon. 

 

0:00:51 – Brian

Well, your friend is not cultured. 

 

0:00:53 – Kayla

Oh. 

 

0:00:54 – Brian

Do I know who this friend is? 

 

0:00:56 – Kayla

You do. We’re not gonna give any names. That was very unkind. 

 

0:00:59 – Brian

Um well, this friend is team knife, so Okay if this is your first time ever listening to the piece, we had a debate about spreading mayonnaise with a spoon or a knife, and. I’m team spoon, I’m team knife. I’ve always been team spoon because you can put the In the jar and get a nice glob of Of not. 

 

0:01:24 – Kayla

We’re not doing this today. 

 

0:01:25 – Brian

All I’m saying is, and then spread normal people use a knife. You see, that’s a little bit. Of fencing is less spicy. 

 

0:01:34 – Kayla

It’s a little fancy. 

 

0:01:36 – Brian

Normal people. I Want to know who got what committee got together and voted that? What was normal? On how to spread mayonnaise? 

 

0:01:45 – Kayla

the knife people. 

 

0:01:49 – Brian

Being in room of serial killers. All right, we need the gun people over here and the knife people over here. That’s what we know. 

 

0:01:55 – Kayla

No no. 

 

0:01:56 – Brian

I’m just saying, I’m just saying no, that’s pretty. 

 

0:01:59 – Kayla

no, okay, okay, all right, well, all right. Praise. 

 

0:02:02 – Brian

God, you feel better now? No, not really, but I have Godzilla with me, so I’m good, okay. 

 

0:02:09 – Kayla

All right. 

 

0:02:11 – Brian

What we have learned. Okay, now we’ve been doing this whole habit tracker for the month of February. For the month of February. 

 

0:02:16 – Kayla

We have our trainer asked us to start admitting some things. For example, are we sleeping seven plus hours a night? Are we Adding protein to our meals? Are we Cleaning the fridge? 

 

0:02:35 – Brian

Yeah, well, I’m gonna say clean the fridge. We don’t like cleaning out, yes, like Purging foods that we should all be walking that kind of stuff yeah so what did we learn this last month? Well one. I need a calendar to reminder to even go in there and do this thing, because it does not cross my mind. That’s the first thing. 

 

0:02:56 – Kayla

It reminded me that habits are good but they are hard, and that it’s easy to talk ourselves out of things. Yeah that are good for us, because we like our comfort and our routine. Oh, so it’s been very interesting, what I guess. I apparently do not like to go outside if it’s below 50 degrees, because that’s the one category that if I got dinged for this month, it’s the number of days that I could not check the box that I went outside for 15 minutes or more. 

 

0:03:26 – Brian

If it’s below 80 degrees. What do you carry with you? 

 

0:03:29 – Kayla

a sweater. Okay, yes, that’s it. It’s been interesting. 

 

0:03:33 – Brian

Um, did you notice that she didn’t say sweater? How’d you say it? 

 

0:03:37 – Kayla

Pretty little sweater. 

 

0:03:38 – Brian

Okay, there you go. 

 

0:03:40 – Kayla

Is that what I said? I’m really not sure what I said the first time Sweater, sweater she loves sweaters, but anyway. 

 

0:03:46 – Brian

So I learned that like I Need to eat more salad Cuz I just do. I mean I just, but they get boring. I mean, yeah, 10 days in I had a salad for lunch today. 

 

0:04:01 – Kayla

I think I’m good for the next seven days. So if you’ve seen that meme, with Winnie the Pooh. He’s patting his belly. He’s like is it working yet? Yeah, so we got to meet an adorable baby girl this week. Some friends from our church. They’re in our home group. They welcomed Joanna Esther last week. 

 

0:04:25 – Brian

She was adorable. She is so cute. Got to take them dinner last night. It was just really sweet. She’s what? Six days old and she wanted to hand the baby to us. 

 

0:04:34 – Kayla

I think, oh, I was a little scared. No, no, no, maybe next week, when you know. 

 

0:04:38 – Brian

When, whenever they’re like old enough to bounce off the floor. 

 

0:04:41 – Kayla

That’s when I’ll hold oh Okay, why, note to self, you’re not holding Joanna? Well, she was beautiful, she is. She’s precious. 

 

0:04:50 – Brian

I loved how proud mom and dad were of her. 

 

0:04:52 – Kayla

Oh, they should be. 

 

0:04:54 – Brian

Yeah, I was, but I was nervous that one of them was gonna drop her and that kind of stuff. I said total grandpa mode. Yes, you were so, yes, all right, it’s daylight-saving time. It is what I Felt atone. There was like Cold front moves to this studio just now. Anybody else feel that? 

 

0:05:18 – Kayla

I love the extra daylight, but I don’t like losing my hour of sleep. 

 

0:05:23 – Brian

At our age. We wake up at two o’clock in the morning in the end way and lay there on our phones for an hour. 

 

0:05:29 – Kayla

No, no, no, no, you do. 

 

0:05:32 – Brian

Oh Well, just last night you turned on the TV and because your phone was glowing in the room. That’s not true. We’re not gonna have this argument, it’s good. 

 

0:05:42 – Kayla

Everybody loves each other, but I’m digging a hole in the backyard for your phone. We did okay, but you have gotten into this pattern that you wake up around two and you have to go to the bathroom. You come back and you scroll your phone for a while and you have the brightest phone? I don’t. It’s on dark mode. I think it signals aliens and outer space. It’s that bright and so last night I couldn’t go back to sleep. So, yes, I turned on Frasier. 

 

0:06:15 – Brian

That’s what it was Frasier. So yeah, I heard raws. I was like I think that then I was gone. I was back asleep. So yeah did you say I pull out? No, I dozed back off oh yeah, all right, that’s good Pharisees and we’ve titled this segment Pharisee that. 

 

0:06:35 – Kayla

Mmm. 

 

0:06:35 – Brian

I’m gonna let you start off this segment. There’s a lot of things I want to say, but you’re a lot more gracious than I am. 

 

0:06:44 – Kayla

This has been an ongoing conversation between you and I and for those of you who are new to our podcast, I feel like we need to give a little background here. We work for a ministry that is Five radio stations, and they are spread throughout the east coast of the United States. 

 

0:07:05 – Brian

We are not owned by any denomination. We are not and we employ people. 

 

0:07:09 – Kayla

But we are a Christian ministry. We are a faith-based ministry. There is a side to ministry and this will make sense to some and sorry if not to others that being in ministry, like what we do, it has two sides to it. It has the church aspect, but it also has the business aspect and every once in a while someone will join us and think that this is just a glorified VBS. And then, if you add to it, we are all very complex beings with our own backgrounds that we bring into a workplace. 

 

0:07:49 – Brian

And some of us are more relaxed than others. 

 

0:07:53 – Kayla

And our like beliefs and but if you it’s kind of a potpourri of again it could mirror any other workplace that we have people who are of various faith, various stages yeah, but sorry, various denominations, what I was trying to say, various stages in their faith. Correct, they could be a new Christian. They could have been walking with Christ for 40 years. You’ve got the whole gamut. 

 

0:08:20 – Brian

Somebody’s old as dirt, like me. 

 

0:08:22 – Kayla

And we all have kind of our own journey that we bring with us, yep, and so you and I have a front row seat to this. You are the executive vice president for our organization. I work with our donor care division. 

 

0:08:36 – Brian

I’m the vice president of partner services. 

 

0:08:39 – Kayla

And it’s interesting to watch people as they assimilate into our organization and watch the way that we all kind of get to know each other. So that’s the background for what started this conversation, and then we’ve watched various other things outside of our ministry playing out. 

 

0:09:00 – Brian

And our church is big on grace. 

 

0:09:02 – Kayla

It is. 

 

0:09:03 – Brian

And so as we’ve mentored people and as we’ve watched people come into the organization and as our church and we’ve been part of it, so there are things that we’ve seen, things that we’ve experienced in our own journey and as we’ve walked through. 

 

0:09:21 – Kayla

Admittedly, our background was Southern Baptist. We were both raised in the Southern Baptist Church. We are now Presbyterian, so we will. Pca be fully transparent about that. 

 

0:09:37 – Brian

PCA all the way. 

 

0:09:38 – Kayla

It seems like an ongoing conversation. For you and I, this year has been about this one statement, and then we’ll build off this. It is so easy for all of us, as humans, to fall into the trap that to be in good standing with Christ, it’s Jesus plus our striving. 

 

0:10:00 – Brian

And it’s not. It’s Jesus plus nothing. 

 

0:10:02 – Kayla

Nothing. 

 

0:10:03 – Brian

Tullian Tchividjian, who, if you can spell that name correctly, we’ll send you a fifty dollars. He actually wrote a book called Jesus plus nothing, excellent. But we think that like we can stay in his good grace or that we earn his favor by doing and marking things off, or you know, I’m saying if we can check all the boxes. 

 

0:10:27 – Kayla

Yeah, I did my diva, I read my Bible, I tithed, I prayed. I watched nothing or read nothing that would cause me to stray. I gave to someone in need. I had more faith. I didn’t mess up as much as them air quotes. 

 

0:10:45 – Brian

And that’s a danger, because when you say them like now, it’s not us in this race together, it’s me versus them or us versus. 

 

0:10:56 – Kayla

Well, it’s because we want to view ourselves more rightly and even more righteously. 

 

0:11:03 – Brian

Yeah, that’s a danger. 

 

0:11:04 – Kayla

And so it’s something that you and I have. We’ve been talking about it a lot. We’ve been kind of holding the mirror up to ourselves, asking ourselves some questions. 

 

0:11:16 – Brian

And this is the first thing I want to say to this Give grace on the non-essentials. 

 

0:11:21 – Kayla

And what does that mean? 

 

0:11:23 – Brian

The essentials to me would be like the gospel it would be the divinity of Jesus, it would be the. Trinity. It would be that the word of God’s inspired all these. Yeah, you know, for me it’s the Westminster Confession of Faith, it’s the scripture, but non-essentials. Where do you send your kid to school? 

 

0:11:43 – Kayla

Right. 

 

0:11:44 – Brian

That kind of stuff. That’s a non-essential but we make it part of sometimes our righteousness. In other words, that person isn’t really a Christian because they send their kids to a school, or public school, or or they don’t send them to, like this particular Christian school. 

 

Yeah Well, that’s not in the scriptures and so don’t draw that circle so tightly. Yeah, all Christians believe Christ will return. There are some Christians who believe in what’s called a rapture and some not, and as a result, people start to draw circles, rear really tight that say, yeah, that, like that, you have to believe that if you’re going to be a Christian and you’ve got to give a little bit of grace there, because the Bible, it doesn’t lay out the full picture. So here’s where I am Give grace on the non-essentials.

 

0:12:43 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:12:44 – Brian

That circle should include what is necessary. Everything else should be grace. 

 

0:12:49 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:12:50 – Brian

And when we don’t do that, it starts to put conditions on people and we start to say that what Jesus accomplished wasn’t really enough. 

 

0:13:03 – Kayla

Yep, there it is. 

 

0:13:05 – Brian

That Jesus only accomplished so much, and now I have to make up the deficit. 

 

0:13:12 – Kayla

But here’s the most amazing part in the Old Testament there were laws. See, I’m gonna show you. I’m learning things. 

 

She’s going to this great women’s Bible study these laws were designed for the people of that time to show obedience and loyalty to serving God, and some of these laws are still applicable to us today. I mean they just are. But even then God knew the human condition. He knew we would fail. Jesus was the perfect Atonement for all the things we would need forgiveness. I mean there’s nothing else that needs to be added to that preach. There is no checklist that we need to complete every week preach. So to that, what would you say? 

 

0:14:01 – Brian

I’m gonna say don’t judge others who sin differently than you. 

 

0:14:05 – Kayla

Hmm. 

 

0:14:06 – Brian

Because he died for for those sins as well. Yeah, I sinned with food a lot. I’m really fighting that. I mean, I’m really in the fight with that. I can sin with, like my mouth. I get angry and I pop off stuff. And then I get angry at people who, like sinned differently than me. There are people who are like addicted to like different Substances. I get angry at them. Why it’s so stupid? I’m addicted to food. Why should I get angry at these people? It’s the dumbest thing. But it’s our own hearts that are bent away. 

 

0:14:40 – Kayla

Mm-hmm, because again, we all want to believe that we’re just a little bit more righteous than the person. But Struggling with that, back to your point. 

 

0:14:50 – Brian

but if we measure ourselves against the law, we all fail, yeah, and we’re all in need of grace and we all need Jesus. 

 

0:14:59 – Kayla

We do. We have shared Many, many podcasts with you and we’ll continue to share the ways that God is growing us, exposing what needs to be dug up or out of our hearts and minds. When we share an opinion with you, it is likely based on some kind of pruning that God is doing in us. We’re not attempting we’re just not, we’re not wanting to give you a list of must-dos To be in a good standing with Christ. Sure, there are things that we’re all challenged to do through his word, but the conviction needs to come from the Holy Spirit. 

 

0:15:41 – Brian

Amen it’s not any one of us that gets to guilt or judge another Into meeting my standard or my expectation, the only standard is the one that Jesus gives us preach, and and that’s the danger, because even the book of James teaches us that we shouldn’t judge the law. So here’s what she just said is that I want to put my standard on you. When that happens, that’s me saying I’m greater than the law of Christ. 

 

0:16:13 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:16:13 – Brian

I am better than that and therefore I’m gonna write new laws. I’m gonna write new guidelines. Not at all. We should not shout where the Bible whispers, and we need to give the grace that we have been shown. Y’all, let’s be more like Jesus and yet less like ourselves. Yeah because he didn’t put conditions on us. Come to me, you who are weary and laden, and I will give you rest. 

 

0:16:41 – Kayla

Yep. 

 

0:16:42 – Brian

And what that means. Rest from what? Rest from trying to keep the law. Rest from trying to keep it perfectly. You’re not. Because we can, you can’t, yeah. 

 

0:16:51 – Kayla

Now we’re not giving a pass to live like a heathen or I love how you say that. It’s just what we are communicating. Is that anything that you’re hearing us talk about? It either is or was something that God Put before us that either needed some kind of examination by us, or we’re still thinking through it or working through it, but we sure have not arrived, and we are not saying that a person Can just walk away from the faith and just deny everything and that’s okay. 

 

0:17:24 – Brian

That’s not at all what we’re saying. No but what we are saying is don’t put limits where Christ has not Receive that mercy. 

 

0:17:34 – Kayla

Rest in that mercy and receive that grace and live in it and I will end with this the people that God has put you in a workplace with, in a home, with, in a church, with all of those people are going to let you down, they’re going to disappoint you, they are going to not measure up, they’re not going to meet your expectations at times. They’re gonna fail and you’re gonna have kind of your world rocked because maybe you, like me, have made the mistake of putting them on a pedestal that they never asked to be put on. So maybe all be mindful, when any of that happens, to see them not as the disappointment but as the beloved that Jesus gave his life for, just like each one of us. 

 

0:18:33 – Brian

And you made a good point. The other night we were talking about this. How many times have I missed Jesus’s standard? 

 

0:18:39 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:18:39 – Brian

He’s forgiven me and he’s loved me. 

 

0:18:42 – Kayla

Good point, a lot to think about. 

 

0:18:43 – Brian

There’s a lot to think about. I see we have a list here of words. 

 

0:18:49 – Kayla

So we’re going to shift gears? No, I gotta take a picture. We’re going to shift gears. 

 

0:18:53 – Brian

You have the cutest little socks on in the whole world, you like my socks. Today I’m going to share this, that picture, when this episode comes out. Oh, okay. Okay, they’re like pink, maroon, gray, they’re like stripes. 

 

0:19:08 – Kayla

They’re my pretty little socks to go in my pretty little sweater. Oh, here, baby don’t. 

 

0:19:12 – Brian

Don’t? She loves sweater. Anyway. Okay, there was a meme. 

 

0:19:17 – Kayla

About a week ago you shared a meme that was a fish with crooked teeth and it had a British saying that if you are British, you could hear it as you read it. 

 

0:19:33 – Brian

Why did it say? 

 

0:19:34 – Kayla

You try. I want you to try. It’s Chews-dee, isn’t it? No, you were so close, we had y’all. We have been practicing this for a solid week.

 

0:19:43 – Brian

This is how y’all, this is how boring our lives are. Go ahead. 

 

0:19:46 – Kayla

So I want you to say it For the English to say it. Okay, it’s Tuesday in it, okay. So, there’s not a day in it. 

 

0:19:54 – Brian

For those who are Americans listening to this, it’s what we would say is it’s Tuesday, isn’t it? But a British person would say it’s Chews-dee, innit. 

 

0:20:05 – Kayla

Okay, so y’all we have, I bet you we’ve she’s trying to get me to say it right, and he still can’t. Y’all, it’s Tuesday, isn’t it? 

 

0:20:18 – Brian

I’m from the southern part of England. Okay, I’m from the south. Okay, let me try one more time. It’s Chews-dee. Well, I’m trying Read it. It’s Chews-dee, isn’t it? No? 

 

0:20:34 – Kayla

You’re close, let’s try this again Choose, choose D D In it, in it. There you go. Now put it together. It’s Chews-dee, innit? Got it. Very good. So now we’re going to have a little fun.

 

0:20:45 – Brian

How do y’all understand each other? 

 

0:20:48 – Kayla

Well, I’m about to teach you some British words. 

 

0:20:52 – Brian

Okay, how’s this work? 

 

0:20:54 – Kayla

So we’re going to play a game and I’ve got the answers, but I’m going to hold them up Now, wait a minute I’m going to. 

 

0:21:00 – Brian

I’m from America. I can tell you what these words might mean in America, really. 

 

0:21:04 – Kayla

Okay, well, let’s see. 

 

0:21:05 – Brian

Here we go. Okay. 

 

0:21:07 – Kayla

If I say trolley, what am I referring to? 

 

0:21:10 – Brian

Street car. 

 

0:21:12 – Kayla

Grocery cart. 

 

0:21:14 – Brian

No, that is not true. Yes, it is. We call that a buggy over here. 

 

0:21:19 – Kayla

Well, good luck. 

 

0:21:20 – Brian

That’s a trolley. At Aldi they charge you a quarter for a trolley. 

 

0:21:25 – Kayla

They do all right If I say dummy. 

 

0:21:28 – Brian

Idiot. 

 

0:21:30 – Kayla

Pacifier, baby, pacifier, baby. Here’s one you’ll know. No that is not. You’re making stuff up, as God is my witness. 

 

0:21:40 – Brian

Y’all call a baby pacifier a dummy. 

 

0:21:43 – Kayla

If I say biscuit, you know this one. Cookie, you got it. Trainers. 

 

0:21:49 – Brian

Trainers. 

 

0:21:50 – Kayla

Mm-hmm. 

 

0:21:53 – Brian

Gym coach. 

 

0:21:54 – Kayla

Sneakers. 

 

0:21:56 – Brian

You are baby. 

 

0:21:57 – Kayla

I am not making this up. I’m not, Baby, I don’t believe this. Drawing pen what? 

 

0:22:06 – Brian

What is a drawing? That’s what I’m asking. You are all pens. Can’t you draw with all of them? 

 

0:22:11 – Kayla

Drawing pin P-I-N. What does that stand for? 

 

0:22:16 – Brian

You can’t draw with a P-I-N. You can poke somebody drawing pin. Take a breath and give me an answer. Knitting needle. 

 

0:22:24 – Kayla

Thumbtack. 

 

0:22:26 – Brian

This is the no. I am cutting this podcast off. 

 

0:22:29 – Kayla

What… a nappy. 

 

0:22:32 – Brian

Oh, that’s what my executive assistant, Adam Reed, takes about six of a day a nappy, I think I know this one. Is it a diaper? 

 

0:22:43 – Kayla

It is Very good. Crisps, what Crisps? Spell it C-R-I-S-P-S. Potato chips. You got it. Now, this one’s not that hard. Crisps. Ice lolly. 

 

0:23:01 – Brian

What? What? It’s not this hard Ice lolly I’ve ever heard that in my life? 

 

0:23:12 – Kayla

Give me your best guess. Popsicle. There you go. 

 

0:23:17 – Brian

No, we gotta talk about this word. 

 

0:23:20 – Kayla

Go ahead. That’s crazy. Bend it out. No, doesn’t change that. Ice lolly is a popsicle. No, it’s not. Football. Soccer. Very good. Timetable. 

 

0:23:31 – Brian

What? Well, I know what it’s, I don’t know a season schedule.

 

0:23:41 – Kayla

Here’s a few phrases for you. I’m chuffed. 

 

0:23:47 – Brian

Pissed. 

 

0:23:48 – Kayla

Actually, it means really happy. How was that close? You should know this one what chuffed, chuffed, what CHUFFED. 

 

0:24:02 – Brian

That… baby? Are you sure that’s even a word? 

 

0:24:04 – Kayla

It’s a word, it is knackered. Your face is a picture. Drunk. Really tired or exhausted. 

 

0:24:14 – Brian

I’m knackered. 

 

0:24:16 – Kayla

Dodgy, you should know this one. 

 

0:24:19 – Brian

Dodgy. 

 

0:24:21 – Kayla

I’m gonna make it. I’ll put it in this. No, hang on Slick, he’s a bit dodgy. He’s slick. Very good, close. Sketchy or suspicious Sketchy, suspicious and a cuppa. 

 

0:24:33 – Brian

A cu… what. 

 

0:24:35 – Kayla

A cuppa. Now you need to get this. C-u-p-o-f a cuppa, cuppa C-U-P-P-A. 

 

0:24:44 – Brian

That’s not a word, it is a word. 

 

0:24:46 – Kayla

Baby, it’s a phrase. 

 

0:24:48 – Brian

Cuppa, I don’t… Tea? Is it a cup of tea? 

 

0:24:55 – Kayla

There you go, that’s not a word. It is no. 

 

0:25:00 – Brian

You just had your very first. 

 

0:25:01 – Kayla

British lesson. 

 

0:25:02 – Brian

What’s this? I don’t think I did. Jumper. 

 

0:25:04 – Kayla

Oh, I did. What do you think? It is clothes, but what in particular? 

 

0:25:11 – Brian

A jacket? Sweater. 

 

0:25:15 – Kayla

So there you go. That is not. 

 

0:25:23 – Kayla

So that is your very first British lesson. 

 

0:25:27 – Brian

Kayla’s dad came over to America for our wedding. 

 

0:25:30 – Kayla

Yes. 

 

0:25:32 – Brian

And we went to, took him to the grocery store to buy him. He wanted to buy a roast. Now, nobody told me any of these, any of this word. I’m going to share one story. He goes to the butcher at the grocery I’m with him and he goes up to the butcher and he says mate, I’d like a two-pitch, I’d like a two-pound joint. Dad, you can’t be asking for drugs here, dad, why are you asking for drugs? No, a joint is a roast, Not in America, dad, you just asked the butcher for illegal drugs. 

 

And then the manager came out and I had to explain to everybody that your dad was British. 

 

0:26:14 – Kayla

There was also a situation where my dad had been going through a rough time and we had called to talk with him just to see how he was doing, and we’re on the phone. This is back in the day, kids, when we had house phones and there’s one upstairs and then there’s the extension downstairs. Well, I’m on the one phone and you’re on the other, and I hear my dad say not so good mate, I’ve been made redundant. And your response was well, congratulations. 

 

0:26:47 – Brian

I thought that meant like you got promoted. 

 

0:26:50 – Kayla

But it meant what. 

 

0:26:52 – Brian

He’d been let go. 

 

0:26:52 – Kayla

He’d been laid off. 

 

0:26:54 – Brian

So embarrassed. 

 

0:26:56 – Kayla

So again interpretation was needed. 

 

0:26:58 – Brian

I’m a dumb American. 

 

0:26:59 – Kayla

No, not at all, just two worlds collide. 

 

0:27:02 – Brian

Yeah, just don’t remember that. We whipped y’all’s tail at Yorktown, oh, here we go. On that note. 

 

0:27:09 – Kayla

This has been fun, it’s been educational. 

 

0:27:12 – Brian

It’s Chews-dee. Oh, here we go again. Say it for me. Did I get it right that time? You did very close. It’s Chews-dee, isn’t it? Nope? What am I saying wrong? It’s Chews-dee innit? 

 

0:27:24 – Kayla

There we go, you got it. There’s not a D in the second word In it. The first two people who go to our website and you will not have to answer any British question. 

 

0:27:39 – Brian

And you’re not going to have to say Chews-dee either. 

 

0:27:42 – Kayla

You’ll win a Peas and Parrots coffee mug and some stickers and some stickers. 

 

0:27:47 – Brian

All that you have to do is go to peasand carrotspodcast.com. When you get there you look for a little button. It says trivia, and when you get there you answer this question. 

 

0:27:58 – Kayla

So, as we are getting ready for daylight saving time, do you prefer springing forward or falling back? 

 

0:28:06 – Brian

I prefer Chews-dees. Here we go, so you can win a mug and a pack of stickers. We’ve been having about four winners a week. 

 

0:28:15 – Kayla

At least, and thank you so much, for it’s been a lot of fun reading your comments. I hope you’re enjoying your mug. We need to bring some of those comments so we will do that. Yes, we should do that. I think next week we’ll share some of what you’ve shared with us. 

 

0:28:28 – Brian

Anyway, go to peasandcarrotspodcast.com. Click on the trivia button. 

 

0:28:32 – Kayla

Here’s the question Do you prefer springing forward or falling back? All right, and we will delightfully send you some stickers and a mug. You can also search Peas and Carrots Podcast wherever you get your podcasts, or visit our website. 

 

0:28:48 – Brian

That is peasandcarrotspodcast.com. Hey, when you do, please don’t forget to subscribe to our podcast. You can also follow us on Facebook and Instagram. 

 

0:28:57 – Kayla

Just search for the Peas and Carrots Podcast. 

 

0:28:59 – Brian

One more time it’s cheers day, isn’t it. Nope? 

 

0:29:04 – Kayla

Man, so close. 

 

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Season 3, Episode 3: Just Keep Swimming!

Just Keep Swimming! - Episode Description

Ever wondered how to navigate life’s disappointments with grace and humor? Join Brian and Kayla as they reconvene after a cozy team retreat. As the conversation warms up, they shift gears with to a more reflective space and contemplate the disappointment that, so far, 2024 feels no different than 2023. Feeling stuck seems to be a universal sentiment, but you can find hope in the fact that God never changes and His grace can carry you through. 

Then, lighten up as we indulge in a whimsical round of “Would You Rather?” where we debate whether to don Spock ears or Superman capes, and imagine life with bionic enhancements. Prepare for a podcast journey that promises both introspection and laughter, with an inspiring reminder to place your hope in God.

 

Just Keep Swimming!- Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like peas and carrots! The Peas & Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders.

 

0:00:11 – Kayla

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. I’m Brian, I’m Kayla, sorry, no, there you go.

 

0:00:18 – Brian

Good, good to be here, mm-hmm, we took a week off.

 

0:00:22 – Kayla

We did, we had our entire team in 10 were overworked, mmm. Well, that’s a joke. I don’t say we did have a very full week. Last week our entire PAR team came together to Kind of reset our vision for the year, spend some time together, build community. It was cold, but we’ll talk about that in just a second crank party of one so be. Who are we? We usually watch West Wing Every winter season, and what have we? We hinted at this on another podcast, but what are we still working our way through?

 

down to the abbey we are. And what’s one of your favorite lines now from Downton?

 

0:01:09 – Brian

Maggie Smith, who’s in downtown. She’s the senior lady.

 

0:01:14 – Kayla

She’s the Dowager countess.

 

0:01:16 – Brian

Who knows what that means she does. I can’t even spell. What is it Dowager who? Can spell that British people don’t know. You can’t.

 

0:01:25 – Kayla

I Saw you coming a little spicy today, no.

 

0:01:28 – Brian

I saw yesterday where you, where y’all spell check CHE Q you eat the rest of a spell at CHE CK.

 

0:01:36 – Kayla

Well, that’s the rest of you. So, anyway, what? What is one of your favorite lines now from she goes weekend what’s a weekend?

 

0:01:46 – Brian

because she lives in such a high fake world society that there’s every day is the same and that there is no day off because every day she never works. So he’s like well, weekend, what’s a weekend?

 

0:01:58 – Kayla

So we’re really enjoying that. You love her zing and one-liner.

 

0:02:03 – Brian

Yeah, so we’ve watched it before.

 

0:02:06 – Kayla

But I don’t remember any of it.

 

0:02:08 – Brian

It’s been years since we’ve watched it, so yeah, I think it’s gonna become part of her, and we had just wrapped up West Wing, probably a month ago.

 

0:02:16 – Kayla

We started it a little early. Yeah, so I have a confession. I’m sorry people.

 

0:02:22 – Brian

I’m glad the buck’s lost if we’re talking about the NFL, she’s glad that the Tampa Bay buck.

 

0:02:28 – Kayla

I wasn’t cheering for someone, I was cheering against.

 

0:02:31 – Brian

Tell us why you’re happy.

 

0:02:32 – Kayla

The Buccaneers lost because they go against the Saints and and yeah, they took my Saints out, so I’m glad they’re gone.

 

0:02:41 – Brian

I’m happy they lost as well. Yeah, right now I’m cheering for the Now at the recording of this. The Lions have not played in the championship, correct? But I’m praying and hoping that they win, because I think that would just be a story. That would just be a it would be epic. Yeah, that would be just great.

 

0:02:58 – Kayla

So let’s talk about last week’s weather. Okay, this week’s weather is being all cute.

 

0:03:04 – Brian

I want to pause right here. I want to pause. I Am married to a woman who loves the weather. She watches the weather, she checks the weather for okay, hold on.

 

0:03:17 – Kayla

Just so no, no, no, you went there. I do not watch a YouTube channel by Ryan Hall that you watch where you actually like. Watch him discuss the radar and point to all the different storms. That’s so. I don’t watch the weather as much as you do, but I like to be prepared. I like to know what clothes I should be wearing and Last week, during vision week, over here it was bitterly cold. It felt like minus 11. And why?

 

0:03:51 – Brian

was your little quip.

 

0:03:52 – Kayla

I told you the other day this week’s weather’s being all cute. Like it didn’t try to kill us last week, so it’s 64 today, yeah.

 

0:04:02 – Brian

At home, I think we had to leave cabinets open. Yeah, water going, yeah to run. Some make sure water was running so it wouldn’t freeze the pipes.

 

0:04:09 – Kayla

We get getting alerts about, you know, and today, it’s going to be 61. 64.

 

0:04:13 – Brian

  1. Mm-hmm. Wow, speedo day.

 

0:04:17 – Kayla

Oh, okay, moving on, we actually went. We’re not going there. We went to see a movie again the other night. We actually went with our whole team to see Wonka.

 

0:04:33 – Brian

Oh Wonka is a prequel to the original movie with Jean Wilder. I highly encourage you to go see this movie.

 

0:04:42 – Kayla

Yeah.

 

0:04:42 – Brian

It is delightful, it is fun and if you love the original, you will love this, because there are so many nods.

 

0:04:51 – Kayla

Yeah, we may have said this a couple of weeks ago. The thing that I wanted to add to this I wasn’t quite ready to declare this. I think it’s this year’s greatest showman.

 

Wow, because you know how much I love that movie. I will watch that movie over and over again and I’ve worn the soundtrack out and now I’m wearing out the Wonka soundtrack. I just love everything about it and I will tell you my favorite song and I’ve cried twice just because of the visuals and the music for the moment. So I don’t want to give anything away, but if you go to see Wonka, soak it in when they sing for the moment.

 

0:05:40 – Brian

It just yeah, okay, confession I did cry the first time that I watched that. We watched the movie and it was at the end of the movie and all of a sudden he says come with me. Oh and he does, uh, and he does pure imagination.

 

0:05:58 – Kayla

It’s just yeah, it’s all the things. So again, I know we probably did mention that already. Definitely worth another viewing.

 

0:06:08 – Brian

What if? What if this happens? What if that happens?

 

0:06:12 – Kayla

Well, okay, let me so. I brought this to you because I’m just going to be honest. God has woken me up three different nights with this on my heart, and so I told you this morning. I’ve really been wrestling with him over this because I just kept saying no, I don’t, I just don’t want to go there. But I’ve been talking with several friends and I’ve been reading some things where it seems like these are the sentiments 2023 can kick rocks. I can’t wait for 2024.

 

Fast forward to two weeks into 2024 and then, talking with friends, I’m just really disappointed in how this year is starting. I just wanted different. I wanted to change. So there’s this sadness that we couldn’t reset. If that makes any sense, and I’ve even felt it in some ways. But if you’re, 2024 seems very much like 2023, even though you’d hope for something new. I think the first thing I want to say to you is we’ve still got 11 months in this year that God can do amazing things, and maybe he is, and we just don’t see them yet.

 

But, for example, I have one friend who she has been sick for two weeks, seriously sick For her, it’s not fun. Another friend found out that she has a parent who has cancer. Another friend has just sat with disappointment after disappointment. One is beating herself up because she didn’t hit any of her goals for 2023. And so here she is limping into 2024. What if you are sitting with any of that, if you feel like you just can’t overcome? Last year, or you came charging into this year with this is how it’s going to be, but then God. So we just started talking about this, you and I the what ifs. What if you can’t make sense of it all?

 

0:08:30 – Brian

I want to say something from like my perspective, as we’ve talked about this, and we’ve talked about it for a few days. I think that one we have to be realistic, that we must change what we can change.

 

0:08:45 – Kayla

Yeah, mmm.

 

0:08:47 – Brian

Okay.

 

0:08:48 – Kayla

Something God said there.

 

0:08:49 – Brian

And then lean on grace, lean on Jesus, trust him for the stuff that isn’t going to change. Yeah, I had a seminary professor say people don’t change just the pages on the calendar, do, mmm? And his point was is that human nature has been like this since the fall? Yeah, the world’s been like this since Genesis, chapter three, and therefore we have this. It’s a brand new year we have. We’re going to, we’re going to do all this. Well, we can change stuff about ourselves. Yeah, we can try to. But we might set ourselves up for disappointment if we expect different from people. Yeah, we expect different from the world. Does that? Is that making it?

 

0:09:37 – Kayla

It does, because this is one of the things that you and I talked about. There are people who are beyond our control. There are circumstances that are beyond our control. The things that we can change is what we should focus on and then trust God to help us. You and I have some very intentional goals for our health this year. Well, if we keep eating the same junk that we ate two, three, four years ago, that’s not going to change. If, if I need to feel more rested but I don’t change my sleep habits, I can’t blame anyone else. To the friend who is struggling with, we just didn’t hit any of our financial goals. If you don’t change your spending habits or your saving habits, or nothing’s going to, nothing’s going to. So those are just practical examples that we bring to the table. But but here’s another thing that you and I talked about what if we look beyond the now? And what do I mean by that? What if we stop fixating on the past or believing this air quotes is permanent? Because we do have a hope.

 

0:10:49 – Brian

We do, we do, I’m teaching James right now in adult Sunday school and I’m just gonna drop this in there. Then I move on. He says count it all, joy when you face various trials, because you know that God is using that to help build your endurance. Now here’s what he’s not saying. He isn’t saying that when people disappoint you or you miss a goal or you get a diagnosis that you should go, yes, I’m happy. Yeah, that’s not what he’s saying. What he’s saying is you can be joyful that God isn’t going to waste your suffering. He isn’t going to waste that disappointment. So was 2023 a disappointment? Yes, yes, because, let me say this, all of us miss the goal.

 

0:11:42 – Kayla

Oh sure, this is personal to every single one of us.

 

0:11:46 – Brian

Now know this God is not going to waste that pain in his economy. Therefore, as we come to 2024, and we’ve already had some different struggles in 2024, and different things like that I can have confidence that God is not going to waste that. Yeah, now, I may not like it, I may get upset, I may want to throw a taco, I don’t know.

 

0:12:14 – Kayla

I wouldn’t throw a taco, I’d eat it.

 

0:12:16 – Brian

But yeah, so I’m just saying so there’s some hope. Yeah, and also remember this this world is not all there is.

 

0:12:25 – Kayla

That’s right.

 

0:12:25 – Brian

Heaven is real.

 

0:12:27 – Kayla

It’s not lost on me that our church family is grieving the loss of two dear members. Yes, we ran into 2024 out the gate. We lost two very special people.

 

0:12:40 – Brian

I lost a friend, Jim, and we lost Reba. It was sad.

 

0:12:44 – Kayla

It’s hard, but there’s hope in knowing that life for them is so much better now and it will be for all of us one day, if we cling to him and our faith is in him. It’s just sometimes, I think we all need the reminder that we can get stuck, and we can get stuck on thinking that, well, this is as good as it’s going to get, or well, I am just a failure and there’s no hope for me. Maybe it’s just a reminder to all of us. There’s still a lot of time for 2024.

 

But here’s another question I’m going to throw out there what if 2024 isn’t any different from 2023?

 

0:13:28 – Brian

My answer to be well, then, God is still the same as it was yesterday, today and forever. And the grace that carried you yesterday, well, he will carry you today, but you have the power to change some things that are within your control. And let me say this, and because we have talked about this, we will have a new problem in our lives by like five o’clock today.

 

0:13:50 – Kayla

I’m just saying Well, aren’t you positive? You’re a ray of sunshine.

 

0:13:57 – Brian

I’m just that was just good. But so here’s what I’m going to say Even if 2024 looks a lot like 2023, he is the same yesterday, today and forever, and that same grace and that same hope is still there.

 

0:14:17 – Kayla

You are all excited about this, so we’re bringing back a game, oh, and I actually like have cards this time, so this is going to be fun. This is a game called Would you Rather?

 

0:14:30 – Brian

What do I have to do here?

 

0:14:32 – Kayla

Really again with the Godzilla, really.

 

0:14:40 – Brian

He’s the third.

 

0:14:41 – Kayla

You just sat him in front of you.

 

0:14:42 – Brian

He’s the third co-host of our podcast. Oh no, he’s not.

 

0:14:47 – Kayla

Okay, if that’s how we’re playing, I’m bringing friends. Next week, brace yourself.

 

0:14:52 – Brian

You’re going to roll the Pumbin’ Tumon up in here.

 

0:14:54 – Kayla

You hide and watch what’s wrong. He’s nice.

 

0:14:57 – Brian

Look at him.

 

0:15:01 – Kayla

You think he sponsored this thing or something. Well, he hasn’t destroyed it yet Anyway to our game. So we’re just going to, we’re going to ask each other some questions and then maybe those who are listening can play this as well. So pick a question off there quickly for us and we have to answer it together.

 

0:15:23 – Brian

Would you dress for one year like Spock from Star Trek, which includes the ears, or like Superman?

 

0:15:30 – Kayla

She’s thinking Superman, I get to wear a cape. Oh, wow, okay, I think the ears would bother me a little bit I couldn’t pull off the tights.

 

0:15:39 – Brian

but there’s that. Oh, he can’t leap a single building in a. You know he can’t leap, oh, go ahead.

 

0:15:50 – Kayla

Would you rather have to walk around with six large balloons tied to your wrist for a year, or with loud bells on your ankles? Balloons- Balloons.

 

0:16:02 – Brian

I would do balloons, because the bells would roger them up with all the noise, the rack.

 

0:16:06 – Kayla

Well, the balloons would eventually lose air, and I’d probably paint my face like a clown and wig people out as I walked around.

 

0:16:15 – Brian

So Would you. Here’s your, here are your choices.

 

0:16:19 – Kayla

Okay.

 

0:16:20 – Brian

Would you put your bare feet into a very moist pair of old bowling shoes or walk barefoot in a gas station bathroom?

 

0:16:31 – Kayla

What was the first choice?

 

0:16:33 – Brian

Put your bare feet into a very moist pair of old bowling shoes, or walk barefoot in a gas station bathroom.

 

0:16:42 – Kayla

Oh, I’d have to risk the bowling shoes.

 

0:16:44 – Brian

I would too, yeah, cause what.

 

0:16:46 – Kayla

Yeah, what is that? Would you rather ride in a tight crate for a 13 hour plane flight? A tight, what Crate? Okay. Or with cows in the back of a truck for a two day?

 

0:17:04 – Brian

road trip. I’d have to go with the cows. I don’t do anything higher. I’m not I can’t.

 

0:17:11 – Kayla

I think the cows would be fun. They crap everywhere. Oh wow, that took a turn, um, okay.

 

0:17:18 – Brian

So, okay, here are your choices. Miss Kaylee, you ready? Okay, okay. Would you milk a cow every morning for a week or shear a sheep every morning for a week?

 

0:17:30 – Kayla

Oh, milk a cow.

 

0:17:32 – Brian

Really yeah, why.

 

0:17:36 – Kayla

Cause I love cows.

 

0:17:37 – Brian

Okay, very good, your next next question for me.

 

0:17:42 – Kayla

Would you rather not be allowed to wash your hair for a month?

 

0:17:45 – Brian

I wouldn’t bother me.

 

0:17:46 – Kayla

Or not be allowed to wash your hands for a month.

 

0:17:49 – Brian

Hair. I don’t have any hair, so I’m gonna bother me.

 

0:17:54 – Kayla

See, it didn’t say I couldn’t have dry shampoo.

 

0:17:57 – Brian

I’m a guy, so let me just say this I’m a guy and so I don’t wash my hands all the time, but you’re a girl and you believe what?

 

0:18:06 – Kayla

You just admitted to not washing your hands.

 

0:18:08 – Brian

I’m a guy, so Dirt doesn’t bother me Well apparently I know the answer to this one.

 

0:18:14 – Kayla

I’m gonna go ahead and ask it Would you rather live in a home without electricity or in a home without running water? Apparently, you don’t need running water.

 

0:18:23 – Brian

I don’t know.

 

0:18:24 – Kayla

I need the internet, so well, cleanliness is not next to godliness for you, but internet is.

 

0:18:32 – Brian

That’s not the Bible, that was by Benjamin Franklin. I’d have to go with electricity, but how am I gonna heat water for tea? All right, here we go. Live the rest of your life in 90 degree weather Wearing and sitting on vinyl, oh, or in 40 degree weather, wearing metal mesh and sitting on aluminum bleachers.

 

0:18:56 – Kayla

Oh, the 90 degree on vinyl.

 

0:18:58 – Brian

Yeah, your honey will stick to it. I don’t like to be cold when you get up, and I mean it would just, oh wow.

 

0:19:12 – Kayla

I’m unfiltered today, I’m just okay. All right, a few more. Would you rather have a bionic eye or a bionic ear?

 

0:19:23 – Brian

huh, I’m trying to figure out which one would help me best with my, with my?

 

0:19:30 – Kayla

see, I would choose.

 

0:19:32 – Brian

I because really my sign of spread.

 

0:19:34 – Kayla

I would choose. I because I’d rather see than hear what people.

 

0:19:38 – Brian

I’d rather see actions rather than hear words I’d probably do the eyes so I could read. More books would help me read fast.

 

0:19:44 – Kayla

Oh, there you go.

 

0:19:46 – Brian

Would you rather have to carry around the CPR dummy everywhere or wear big clown shoes everywhere?

 

0:19:56 – Kayla

Which one I’d probably go for. The clown shoes I go with clown shoes.

 

0:20:00 – Brian

Yeah, I don’t want to People that he came around a dead body. What’s going on around here?

 

0:20:06 – Kayla

Would you rather be six feet tall and ugly, or three feet tall and beautiful? That just did.

 

0:20:19 – Brian

You go to Walmart any given day, you’ll see.

 

0:20:23 – Kayla

Here’s the final question, okay answer that here’s the you have to answer it Six feet tall and ugly, or three feet tall and beautiful?

 

0:20:30 – Brian

I’m already six feet tall and ugly. So there you go, but I don’t want to be that short cuz. Oh, then you smell stuff.

 

0:20:38 – Kayla

Okay.

 

0:20:40 – Brian

Here’s your, out of control. The last one. Would you rather have a paper cut on your tongue or a booger in your nose that you can’t quite reach all day? Oh my gosh look at the first question. Is that a paper cut? Well, I currently have the booger situation, so we’re gonna. So there’s that I’m.

 

0:20:59 – Kayla

I’m just gonna go ahead Yesterday, so we’re going so you have, so we have that.

 

0:21:05 – Brian

I’m gonna go. All right, I’m gonna go with the paper cut, okay.

 

0:21:08 – Kayla

Wow, why that really went off the rails just completely.

 

0:21:12 – Brian

So there we are.

 

0:21:13 – Kayla

That’s this edition of, would you rather?

 

0:21:15 – Brian

there you go. So thanks for listening to peas in carrots podcast and hey, we have a coffee mug and a pack of stickers to send to you, and it’s for the first two people who go to our website if you will click the trivia button and answer this question.

 

0:21:35 – Kayla

What is? Let’s see, I didn’t think of one beforehand.

 

0:21:40 – Brian

Would you rather? Would you rather be six feet tall and ugly, or three feet tall and beautiful? What?

 

0:21:47 – Kayla

would you rather?

 

0:21:47 – Brian

Okay, there we go we want to ask you that what would you rather so?

 

0:21:51 – Kayla

when you go to our website peas and carrots podcast, calm, you can answer that question and we will send you a mug and some sticker.

 

0:22:00 – Brian

Okay, our website is peas and carrots potat. See, Jesus is judging you for our website is peas and carrots podcast, calm, and you just click on the trivia question and you answer this trivia question. Would you rather be Six feet tall and ugly or three feet tall and beautiful? Why’d you point to yourself and you said three feet tall and beautiful?

 

0:22:23 – Kayla

cuz I’m choosing three feet oh you said six feet for you to say the question.

 

0:22:27 – Brian

I am offended, I am writing to the podcast tribunal and filing. And who would that be? I don’t know.

 

0:22:34 – Kayla

I think it’s me, so here we go. Okay we should end search the peas and carrots podcast Wherever you get your podcast, or visit our website at peas and carrots podcast. I’m not imagine you as three feet tall when you go to the website, please don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast.

 

0:22:52 – Brian

You can follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Just search for the peas and carrots podcast and we should just go ahead and apologize for this episode.

 

0:23:01 – Kayla

Well, I didn’t say anything wrong.

 

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