Season 3, Episode 4: I See You

I See You - Episode Description

Join Brian and Kayla on their Peas and Carrots Podcast as they wrap up January and step into February with lively discussions on relationships and the challenge of loving difficult people. They reflect on altering vacation plans, delve into communication within marriage, and share the soreness of a new fitness routine. Inspired by Bob Goff, they tackle the art of dealing with rudeness, bullies, and drama, advocating for grace and support in abusive dynamics. The episode lightens with a ‘Getting to Know You’ segment, childhood memories, and a playful giveaway. It’s an honest, enriching, and fun conversation that’s part of the growing Peas and Carrots family.

 

I See You- Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Kayla

Welcome to the Peas and Carrots Podcast. 

 

0:00:13 – Brian

I’m Brian and I’m Kayla, what’s up in the world of Peas and Carrots?

 

0:00:18 – Kayla

Hallelujah, it’s February. Why are you so happy? Why are you so happy about that? Because January felt like it was six months long. I don’t know why it just did. 

 

0:00:29 – Brian

Oh, here’s my quandary with this. Uh-huh. The older we get, we actually complain about how time flies by so fast not January, but then when there’s a month that seems like it lasts forever, we complain that lasts forever. 

 

0:00:41 – Kayla

Well, apparently we just like to complain, but here we are. Here we are as we record today. 

 

0:00:50 – Brian

It’s groundhog day the day of this recording is a groundhog day and this rat is predicting an early spring. 

 

0:00:55 – Kayla

He is so putting a lot of faith in him. But here we are here we are and I hope he’s right. So there, happy groundhog day. 

 

0:01:06 – Brian

We made a huge decision regarding our vacation. 

 

0:01:09 – Kayla

We did. I was really struggling with telling you how I felt, but this is where communication and marriage is so important. I finally got brave and told you be, I really don’t feel that this is the year we should be doing international travel. And your response was hallelujah. 

 

0:01:29 – Brian

You thank God, praise God. 

 

0:01:31 – Kayla

So we shifted gears. We’re gonna do something in the continental United States and we’ll reveal those plans later, yeah so, but we’re both very happy and at peace with this. Italy. Yes, one day, Greece, revisit that. Loved going the first time. I know we’ll love going the second time, but it’s just not for us this year, yeah. So here’s where we are. That’s us, and we’re excited and we’re also very sore. And why is that? 

 

0:02:02 – Brian

Our trainer started us on a new routine this past Tuesday and today like. 

 

0:02:09 – Kayla

Today was day three of her. 

 

0:02:11 – Brian

Yeah, my every joint in my body is screaming. 

 

0:02:14 – Kayla

I can’t laugh. It hurts to laugh, so yeah so yeah, so it’s good for us really it is. We’ve started this week not only, not only tracking our physical activity, but we’re also committing to accountability with what food, food, sleep. Habits. 

 

0:02:35 – Brian

I think he’s doing this to us to make us into like pretty corpses. That’s the whole point of this. So everybody needs accountability and so for my accountability, I’m mine being killed a little bit each week over time. That’s what I’m mine. 

 

0:02:54 – Kayla

Drama party of one. Well, you’re not sore, I am sore, okay. You’re not hurting, I am okay, but I’m a little less dramatic about why I’m grumpy. Okay, well, tell Godzilla, because apparently, yes, he’s joined us again. 

 

0:03:10 – Brian

Yes, he’s here, he’s with me. 

 

0:03:12 – Kayla

Oh, my goodness. 

 

0:03:13 – Brian

He’s my face. 

 

0:03:14 – Kayla

Please stop hugging him. It’s just awkward. He’s lovable. 

 

0:03:22 – Brian

What is that now rallying for? Here we go. Oh my word, you jealous of that? 

 

0:03:30 – Kayla

well, you seem to be. No, he’s just a little crazy. 

 

0:03:34 – Brian

Okay, all right, I think he’s wonderful, mm-hmm my friend. Mm-hmm, so how are you supposed to deal with them? 

 

0:03:46 – Kayla

And we’re putting them in air quotes. So I think back to a quote that Bob Goff shared several years ago. That gutted me when I read it. Love difficult people. You are one. Mm-hmm, and I remember when I read that I thought, well, how do you think you are? But it’s true, at times all of us you have had. We are not going to share any of the details, but this prompted us to start a conversation with each other. You have had a couple of very specific Incidences lately when God has put some difficult people in your path and you’ve had to navigate very publicly around how to deal with that. So we thought that we would spend a few minutes talking about various types of difficult people that all of us encounter or are at some point. For example, how are we supposed to deal with someone who is rude? 

 

0:04:52 – Brian

Okay, my initial response to this is going to be the way Brian’s wired. My first response is going to be what did I do to make them rude? 

 

0:05:02 – Kayla

Hmm. 

 

0:05:02 – Brian

What did I do to mess this up? Am I being an idiot? Am I being rude in response, or something like that? But I’ve got to step back and say you know what? I didn’t do anything. I just showed up here and target. 

 

0:05:18 – Kayla

It’s probably more reflective of what’s going on inside of them than anything that the other person has done and when you can reframe it, as I don’t know what they’re walking with today. Sometimes it can look like grace to say that was uncalled for, but Maybe they just got some bad news. 

 

0:05:42 – Brian

Maybe they if it’s a one-off, yeah, if it’s a one-off, I’m not gonna say anything. 

 

0:05:48 – Kayla

Absolutely. Now, if it’s a pattern, I’m gonna say something and yeah, cuz then it becomes toxic, right a bully. 

 

0:05:59 – Brian

I’ll normally just pull away. 

 

0:06:01 – Kayla

Mm-hmm. 

 

0:06:02 – Brian

I’m just not going to engage you, I’m just not going to say anything. 

 

0:06:07 – Kayla

Yeah, because engaging is fuel for a bully. When they don’t typically get the reaction they’re seeking, they’ll go find someone else. Yeah, and maybe that’s wrong of me, but I don’t have the mental now again, if someone is bullying someone that I care about, then I’m gonna step in and just call them out for it, but nine times out of ten if I feel bullied by someone, it’s because they’re lacking control in an area, and that’s how they feel that they’re seizing control. 

 

They’re trying, so I just have to take the fuel out of there. Yeah, oh, this one’s hard for me one who seems to love drama. Drama makes me insane. It just yeah. How do you deal with people like that? 

 

0:06:59 – Brian

I will listen and I will try to reframe something again. If it’s a pattern, I will probably listen and then move on to a different topic. That’s what I will do because everybody you know, there’s a lot of people who invite drama, a lot of people who like drama, and for some people that’s how they get attention. 

 

0:07:22 – Kayla

So I’ve also found with drama try to get to its sores and try to ask very specific questions like well, was this your perception of a situation or was this actually what happened? Is this actually what was said or done? 

 

0:07:38 – Brian

Nice or not. 

 

0:07:39 – Kayla

Or is this? And then, if it’s someone that they truly seem to thrive in that space, I kind of whisper to them you may need to talk to someone. 

 

0:07:50 – Brian

And You’re a lot nicer and I am no, not always. 

 

0:07:53 – Kayla

I think so, because you don’t know what’s going on inside this head. 

 

0:07:56 – Brian

Well, how do you deal with? 

 

0:07:59 – Kayla

these drive you up a wall. Constant complainers. 

 

0:08:04 – Brian

Yeah, I can’t stick her. I can’t. I have to have hope. 

 

0:08:08 – Kayla

Mm, hmm. 

 

0:08:10 – Brian

I’m wired for hope, I have to have hope. And if every time I talk to you oh, whoa is me? Oh, this is wrong, that’s I’m done, I’m out, I’ve got to have some hope. And if all that you ever see is the bad stuff, if all you ever come talk about is the bad stuff, let me just say this I will spiral into a serious depression. I’ve got to have people around me. 

 

0:08:40 – Kayla

Yeah, see the good. What is that saying? You steer where you stare. Yeah, it’s kind of the same with negative people. Yeah you’re constantly around. Negative, you become negative. And there’s one unifying thought with all of these it reveals the what the heart, the heart. 

 

0:08:56 – Brian

And people are stupid, oh well that took a turn. Well, I’m just saying some of this is some of this is people don’t think before they talk. Yeah, and I’m guilty of that every single day of my life. 

 

0:09:10 – Kayla

Ok, but a lot of these reveal character traits that stem back to there is something going on inside. This one is hard because I think we’ve all either been guilty of this or we’ve been involved in this. A transactional air quotes friend, someone who only seeks you out when they need something from you or you’re benefiting them in some way. 

 

0:09:36 – Brian

Yeah, I’ve lived this several times in my life, I find friendship to be very difficult, extremely difficult, and I think we’ve talked about this on the podcast before. If the only time I hear from you is when you need something, if the only time you reach out is like is when you’re going through a crisis. 

 

0:09:56 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:09:57 – Brian

To me that’s a transactional friend. 

 

0:09:59 – Kayla

Mm-hmm. Or if you only want me when I can help pay for something, yeah, help provide something for you or make your life more comfortable. 

 

0:10:09 – Brian

Yeah. 

 

0:10:10 – Kayla

I’m not sure we’re really friends, correct, and that’s probably not gonna last long term and a lot of guys aren’t wired like me. 

 

0:10:19 – Brian

In other words, I like to chat, I like to talk, I like to share jokes. I like to do that. Some guys they don’t even want to talk to each other unless they’re sitting around a car they’re trying to fix or drinking beers or watching football. Yeah, you know I want to laugh. Cut up, be involved in your life. You’d be involved in mine. 

 

0:10:39 – Kayla

You’re an enneagram 2. Yeah, I want, yes 100%, you know so and that’s not a bad thing. So yeah, yeah, so. I think it just reminds all of us Be more of a giver than a taker in relationships, seeing less of what yourself is gaining and what you can be pouring out in that moment Someone who doesn’t share your faith. 

 

0:11:06 – Brian

I Don’t struggle with this as much, because I find them to be intriguing. I love talking to them, I love doing things for them because I feel like it’s an opportunity to show Jesus. That doesn’t bother me, I don’t. 

 

0:11:21 – Kayla

I’m not. You chose this one and I don’t struggle with this one. I just stay curious. 

 

0:11:27 – Brian

Love them, do a meal with them. Listen, you know people say well you know, if you Take them out to a meal, well then you’re you become like the five people you hang around. 

 

0:11:39 – Kayla

There’s truth in that, but also you can’t, just you’re not compromising your faith either. Yeah. 

 

0:11:46 – Brian

Look who Jesus hung around. Yes, so there’s that. How do you deal with people who live a lifestyle that you disagree with? Let me just say this every day I wake up, I wake up arrogant. I wake up selfish. I wake up cranky, I wake up just sinful. I Live a lifestyle by being arrogant, selfish, bent toward myself, bent away from God that you would disagree with. The this is the real issue is getting along with with people who sin differently Than we do. 

 

0:12:26 – Kayla

I think of the woman at the well, yeah, and I think of the moment when Jesus communicates to her I See you, and he doesn’t shy away Because of her sin. He know of all people, he knows her life, he knows the choices she’s made and yet he chooses to, in that exact moment, see her and he, he forgives her, a person. Now he does tell her go and live differently. But the first challenge in this is he didn’t just walk in there and blast her. 

 

0:13:07 – Brian

No, he loved her. 

 

0:13:08 – Kayla

It was he loved her first. He saw her as she was, and we’re never going to be able to. I’m trying to say this the right way. We are never going to be able to have influence with people who live different lifestyles If all we do is judge and hate. 

 

0:13:29 – Brian

And never let him into your life. 

 

0:13:31 – Kayla

We have to love and see people first. Amen and then perhaps God will open a door for them to hear something that draws them to him. 

 

0:13:40 – Brian

Preach. Here’s the final one. How do you deal with somebody who’s a control freak or abusive? 

 

0:13:47 – Kayla

You don’t. 

 

0:13:47 – Brian

You don’t. Let me just say that Full stop you don’t? 

 

0:13:51 – Kayla

There is a point where, regardless of what anyone else thinks of your choice, you have to do what is safest and best for you and perhaps those around you. 

 

0:14:03 – Brian

You are made in the image of God and you have value and you have worth, and so I would tell you to run as fast as you can get out of an abusive relationship. 

 

0:14:12 – Kayla

And get the help you need. Yes, because this one there is no, but I have to love them and I know if. If it’s a situation that is unsafe, you don’t see it, you, you get out of it. So, maybe some would disagree with that. You’re free to disagree, but nobody deserves to sit in that I agree. 

 

0:14:34 – Brian

So I’m going to say this go with God, love who you can. Yeah, Be the best you can be and don’t put up with people’s crap. 

 

0:14:43 – Kayla

And the hard truth. You have to coexist with difficult people. 

 

0:14:48 – Brian

Yes. 

 

0:14:49 – Kayla

Because, again, sometimes I am one. 

 

0:14:51 – Brian

No. 

 

0:14:52 – Kayla

But how can you cut through the? We all have it, that moment where you just tense up when that person comes around. How can you choose to see them differently If you’re willing to? 

 

0:15:05 – Brian

Hmm. 

 

0:15:08 – Kayla

Oh, this is going to be fun. 

 

0:15:10 – Brian

What. 

 

0:15:11 – Kayla

Today we’re going to play a little game called getting to know you. 

 

0:15:14 – Brian

Oh, I thought we were playing Yahtzee. 

 

0:15:16 – Kayla

Well, that would be interesting on a podcast, but okay. 

 

0:15:18 – Brian

When’s the last time we played Yahtzee? 

 

0:15:20 – Kayla

I don’t know, years ago. Okay, we have it at home, I think we have a Yahtzee game. 

 

0:15:26 – Brian

We do. 

 

0:15:27 – Kayla

Anyway, conversation starters here you go. These are some fun topics that you can bring up at your next dinner with friends or at family dinner night. What are three foods you refuse to eat? 

 

0:15:41 – Brian

Sushi oh beets. 

 

0:15:43 – Kayla

Okay. 

 

0:15:45 – Brian

And probably. 

 

0:15:48 – Kayla

I can’t believe it’s this hard for you. Sushi Beats and probably Brussels sprouts see my first one quickly is Brussels sprouts. Greens can’t handle. 

 

0:16:02 – Brian

Yeah, I turn up greens, not a fan. 

 

0:16:05 – Kayla

And yeah, so she’s not happy fish should be fried. I am. 

 

0:16:11 – Brian

I am from Louisiana. You need to batter that baby up, put it in some grease. Do not eat that mess raw. Okay, what would you say is one toxic or quirky habit you have? 

 

0:16:22 – Kayla

So this is a quirky one for me. Some would consider it toxic. I have hidden chocolate in multiple spots, everywhere. 

 

0:16:32 – Brian

And I’m okay with that toxic or quirk and when I answer this, that it could be toxic for me that I solve my stress with food and apparently, I do with chocolate so, and it used to be fried chicken, so I used to go get fried chicken a lot, so that was my thing. I miss it too. We were great friends. 

 

0:16:56 – Kayla

What is one thing that’s hard for you to comprehend? 

 

0:16:59 – Brian

The Trinity? I don’t understand. 

 

0:17:03 – Kayla

How they, how God is three and one. 

 

0:17:05 – Brian

Yeah, people give these examples, but every example falls short. 

 

0:17:09 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:17:10 – Brian

I’d like to understand that. And then in this passage you get this glimpse, and that passage you get that glimpse. So I believe in it. 

 

0:17:18 – Kayla

Wow, yours is so deep, mine is just people who say they hate to read. I struggle to understand. 

 

0:17:26 – Brian

Well, they’re not Christians. Oh, that’s a joke. Don’t write the podcast. 

 

0:17:31 – Kayla

Go ahead, so next one. 

 

0:17:33 – Brian

What was your favorite childhood toy? It had to be something Star Wars. It would have to be something Star Wars not your Batman mobile oh. I love. 

 

0:17:43 – Kayla

okay, I also had? 

 

0:17:45 – Brian

I am shocked. I had a bat cave, a bat mobile, uh-huh. I had the figures Batman Robin, Joker, Riddler and then also Ping. 

 

0:17:56 – Kayla

I have to say I think that was your favorite childhood back and they’re actually for sale on eBay. 

 

0:18:02 – Brian

What I had, oh my, I’d love to have it to display in the podcast studio, but I’m not gonna pay $300. 

 

0:18:10 – Kayla

Oh, okay. So you mine was a toss-up. I had a panda bear. Here we go. 

 

0:18:16 – Brian

I know it’s gonna be Pandy and I love it is dead. 

 

0:18:20 – Kayla

Stop it. I loved Pandy. See, even Godzilla fell over on that. Okay, he gets me. Okay, I might be back to being friends with Godzilla, thank you. Thank you for having my back. 

 

I’m gonna post a picture Godzilla and then I also had this may sound really creepy, but I had this doll that you could cut her hair and then you could turn this crank and it would grow new hair that then you could style and cut. It was weird now that I think back, but it was really cool wouldn’t run out of hair after, I guess so eventually. But yeah, I think they were hoping against hope that you wouldn’t continually cut her hair. 

 

0:18:57 – Brian

But we’ll go buy a new doll. I guess so. But wow, I think I remember those commercials. 

 

0:19:02 – Kayla

Yeah, it was fun. 

 

0:19:05 – Brian

My G I gel didn’t do that Just yeah, good to know. What is one thing you feel society would be better without? 

 

0:19:12 – Kayla

Social media platforms. I’m just gonna say it. 

 

0:19:16 – Brian

I’m gonna say, politicians, I wish we had a king. 

 

0:19:19 – Kayla

Wow. 

 

0:19:20 – Brian

A lot less argument, a lot less fussing and that kind of stuff. I’m a royalist. Bring on the king. 

 

0:19:28 – Kayla

Mark it down, gracious sakes. 

 

0:19:32 – Brian

So there’s, that. 

 

0:19:33 – Kayla

If you could adopt one new hobby or interest, what would it be? 

 

0:19:37 – Brian

Napping, buffet surfing. 

 

0:19:44 – Kayla

Stop. In all seriousness. 

 

0:19:47 – Brian

Napping. 

 

0:19:47 – Kayla

Napping for real. 

 

0:19:48 – Brian

Yes, I’d be down for napping. 

 

0:19:52 – Kayla

I would love to try my hand at painting Just for fun, I have no interest, I could care less. We would be terrible, but I would love to. I did this paint class one time with a friend and I really enjoyed it and it surprised me because I was terrified when we went in. But I think I would love to try my hand at it. 

 

0:20:11 – Brian

I’ve toyed with like photography. 

 

0:20:14 – Kayla

I could see you doing that. You’re really good this is my struggle except taking pictures of me, because you think every picture of me is great. It is, and I’m like really. 

 

0:20:23 – Brian

Let me say this Like to be a photographer. You got to go to these places, walk these miles, take a picture. I’m not going to spend two hours getting somewhere to spend two minutes to take a picture, Because that’s going to interrupt your new nap routine. Whoa, I see how this day is going to be. All right, well. 

 

0:20:42 – Kayla

So there we go. Those are some conversation starters. 

 

0:20:45 – Brian

Yeah. 

 

0:20:45 – Kayla

Apparently we just got it and some conversation enders too. I’m just saying. 

 

0:20:50 – Brian

I’m all righty. Hey, god save, the king, god save. Thanks for listening to this week’s podcast it’s. We are honored and we are privileged that you’re part of the peas and carrots family, and we had a winner yesterday. Each week, we give away a few of our peas and carrots coffee mugs. 

 

0:21:07 – Kayla

We do. There is a free mug and a pack of stickers. 

 

0:21:11 – Brian

Miss Kayla loves the stickers. 

 

0:21:12 – Kayla

Y’all the stickers are so cute. They really are. When you go to our website, look for the trivia button. Click that button at again peasandcarrotspodcast.com. This week’s question. 

 

0:21:25 – Brian

What was your favorite childhood toy? What was your favorite childhood toy? Yes, okay, so search the peas and carrots podcast at peasandcarrotspodcast.com.

 

0:21:36 – Kayla

Click that trivia button, answer that question. You’ll get an adorable mug and some very cute stickers. 

 

0:21:42 – Brian

Hey, and if you’re new to the podcast, you can get caught up on all the episodes. You just search peas and carrots podcast wherever you get your podcasts, or visit our website peasandcarrotspodcast.com. And when you do, please don’t forget to subscribe. Also, Hey, come and follow us on Facebook and Instagram. 

 

0:21:58 – Kayla

Just search for the Peas and Carrots Podcast. 

 

0:22:00 – Brian

Da na na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, na, Batman.

 

0:22:03 – Announcer

For more about the Peas and Carrots Podcast and to reach out to Brian and Kayla, visit peasandcarrotspodcast.com. Growing through the challenges we face and finding hope along the way. That’s the Jesus Fix It Podcast with Jess. Check out JesusFixIt.com or search Jesus Fix It wherever you listen to podcasts. 

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Season 3, Episode 1: “Wait, What?”

"Wait,What?" - Episode Description

Happy New Year! Welcome back for Season 3 of the Peas and Carrots podcast! Brian and Kayla kick off this episode by sharing all about their Christmas break and the hilarious things they heard people say over the holidays. Then Brian and Kayla dive into an inspiring discussion about what they will be setting down as they leave 2023, and what they are carrying in to 2024. Also, listen in for a surprise visit from Godzilla!

 

"Wait,What?" - Transcript

 00:00:00 – Announcer
We go together like peas and carrots! The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders.

0:00:11 – Brian
Welcome to season three of the Peas and Carrots Podcast. Hello, I’m Brian. I’m Kayla and Season three miss. I’m peas and I’m, I’m carrots.

0:00:24 – Kayla
This is who we are.

0:00:25 – Brian
This is who we are. So if you want to find out more, go back and listen to the old episode. We there. You just gonna say okay, so Welcome to season.

0:00:35 – Kayla
This is who we are.

0:00:37 – Brian
You know, we ain’t gonna explain ourselves to you people one of us would, but never mind.

0:00:42 – Kayla
So Well, who of us?

0:00:44 – Brian
Would you think you me? She’s the kinder of the two of us.

0:00:47 – Kayla
No, that’s not what I was saying.

0:00:50 – Brian
It doesn’t matter if you say I’m into details.

0:00:53 – Kayla
I will put it that way so okay before we digress, what’s up in the world of peas and carrots?

0:00:59 – Brian
well, we had a peaceful and relaxing Christmas.

0:01:04 – Kayla
We did.

0:01:07 – Brian
I am thankful for that.

0:01:09 – Kayla
It was we had the Friday off before the holiday and the Monday after for Christmas, of course, and, and I should say the weekend, the Friday before, the weekend, the Monday after, and it was four days of just Snacks and movies and reading Christmas story naps.

0:01:32 – Brian
Yeah, it was good, so it was great, and We’ve picked up a new hobby.

0:01:39 – Kayla
I shouldn’t say new, we picked this back up we used to do this all the time we’re working puzzles and we’re puzzling.

0:01:47 – Brian
So, and I get aggravated.

0:01:50 – Kayla
And, I get so tickled at you. This is hard.

0:01:53 – Brian
Like no, and then you say I do something else when we’re puzzling, like I’ll be sitting, you grunt.

0:01:58 – Kayla
It is the funniest thing I don’t hear myself like what you just kind of go. Then it’s when you’re trying to figure something out. You’ll just be trying to piece things together and you go Over and over and over.

0:02:12 – Brian
So we actually have a puzzle at home. We do, and we also have one at the office.

0:02:17 – Kayla
So what started this is. I was reading about ways to Enjoy winter instead of enduring it, and one of those was to tap into things that give you comfort. So I started brainstorming what are some things that, at work, we can do during breaks and downtime? So I just brought a puzzle and I watched the number of team members who have come through our office and just sat down For ten minutes to work the puzzle. I thought, okay, we’re on to something here. And then you told me I’d really like to do a puzzle at home.

So, this weekend we picked up some puzzles.

0:02:55 – Brian
We finished a star, would you like. Star Wars was our first on it. It’s really hard.

0:03:00 – Kayla
Yeah, I and you buy these 500. So we’re going to do another 500 piece puzzle Right.

0:03:05 – Brian
And so when I hear 500 piece, I’m thinking like kitty. And these are not kitty puzzles no no. It kind of aggravate me a little bit. So, ladies and gentlemen, it has begun. So at the time of this recording, there’s chatter about a potential winter storm.

0:03:23 – Kayla
There is potentially Saturday, anywhere from one inch of snow to 10 inches of snow, depending on who you’re listening to.

0:03:30 – Brian
Yes, so yeah, stay tuned. Now I’m going to say this I don’t mind if it snows, I don’t want to be trapped in no house for three days. We’ve got puzzles. I will not be trapped in that house for three days. I will go nuts.

0:03:43 – Kayla
We’ve got puzzles and snacks. Is that better?

0:03:46 – Brian
Like snacks.

0:03:47 – Kayla
There we go.

0:03:48 – Brian
All about snacks.

0:03:52 – Kayla
So we thought we’d have a little fun.

0:03:53 – Brian
She has been so excited about this topic.

0:03:56 – Kayla
She has talked about Going into the holiday I told B I want you to make note of and we did not compare notes before today, but I said I want you to make note of things that you heard or were said over the holidays.

0:04:10 – Brian
I’m just talking about some of what you have written. I said some of these things.

0:04:14 – Kayla
Yeah, you did.

0:04:16 – Brian
That’s wrong.

0:04:17 – Kayla
No, it’s not, so go ahead explain what we’re doing here. There’s may have been broken. You know it’s the holiday, so let’s keep that in mind. But, for example, I overheard the following the weekend before Christmas Any exciting weekend plans? And the response was we’re getting two new toilets for Christmas. You wanted to die, oh my gosh. Well we did get two new toilets for Christmas.

Not for Christmas. Before Christmas, I asked you to please stop telling people that we bought each other a toilet for Christmas. They were pricey. I don’t care, they were not our Christmas presents.

0:05:00 – Brian
I couldn’t find a way to wrap them up, though, so all right, apparently, I said the next one you did. Okay, how’s your leg? Have you thought about putting febrize on it? And I say that a lot.

0:05:17 – Kayla
You meant to say biofries, biofries, but I guess you wanted my leg to be fresh and I don’t know.

0:05:24 – Brian
Well, you don’t stink, I don’t, but I don’t know why I say febrize. But, I got tickled at that. And if you do febrize. I like that, I like the apple cranberry scent.

0:05:33 – Kayla
Okay, good to know, I really say febrize, you said febrize, you did.

0:05:37 – Brian
Well, I got tickled at that Be like that old fella in that big fat Greek wedding.

0:05:41 – Kayla
Windex, windex, windex.

0:05:44 – Brian
On your hip. That’ll fix it.

0:05:46 – Kayla
Actually said, no reference needed. I try not to be a cranky old man, but people get on my nerves.

0:05:56 – Brian
I’m guessing I said that, did I say?

0:05:59 – Kayla
that you did.

0:06:00 – Brian
Well, I’m coming to learn that people don’t have to get on my nerves to be a cranky old man. Oh, all right, I think I’m just cranky. Okay, so that’s just me, okay.

0:06:15 – Kayla
I may have said this one.

0:06:17 – Brian
Okay, is this a glimpse into our retirement years, drinking hot tea and working puzzles?

0:06:23 – Kayla
I just kind of felt like a retirement home.

0:06:26 – Brian
Well, you put that for breeze, that bio freeze on you. I said it there to give you Put that bio freeze.

0:06:32 – Kayla
Bio freeze and we’ve got it lit.

0:06:35 – Brian
And you’ll and we’ll smell like the ward at a nursing home. So where’s that?

0:06:42 – Kayla
Getting a head start. So, may have said I’ve decided I’m not going off the rails with my eating this Christmas. I’ll never forget that. My grand declaration on like Wednesday.

0:06:57 – Brian
And two days later I hear this you think our daily bread still has Christmas sugar cookies. So I went and bought you six. You did.

0:07:07 – Kayla
I was the proud owner of six.

0:07:08 – Brian
They were massive, they were huge.

0:07:09 – Kayla
I ate one for breakfast every day.

0:07:12 – Brian
I didn’t have a second.

0:07:12 – Kayla
Well, I can’t have coffee and a sugar cookie. It was heaven.

0:07:15 – Brian
You were in, yeah.

0:07:17 – Kayla
I swear If I have to hear Rudolph the red-nosed reindeer one more time on the radio.

0:07:23 – Brian
All the time that and that rocking around the Christmas tree, and that.

0:07:29 – Kayla
Now disclaimer. You love Christmas music, but there’s a window of time for you.

0:07:34 – Brian
There’s a window of time and have a holly jolly After the 80th time I’m ready to. You know you’re not as holly and jolly I’m sick of it, okay. Man. I really am a cranky old man. I need to pray a little bit more.

0:07:51 – Kayla
This one made me laugh. I had to turn around in the store.

0:07:57 – Brian
We were at Target and we were buying cough syrup because we had to restock something. And we’re buying this cough syrup and the young lady checking us out at Target says sir, I need to see your ID to see if you’re old enough to buy that cough syrup. And she go ahead and she’s serious Like I. First I paused and looked at her, but she was here. My beard is what color, Miss Kayla?

0:08:24 – Kayla
Well, it’s gray and white, it’s gray and white in her defense.

0:08:28 – Brian
She was a newer team member.

0:08:30 – Kayla
I don’t care, she was just doing a job.

0:08:32 – Brian
A monkey can tell me how old I am.

0:08:35 – Kayla
Your next one. We were at Olive Garden and what did you hear?

0:08:40 – Brian
As we were leaving, somebody said wow, that’s a big noodle. They were like I’ve never heard that before at Olive Garden. It’s how you in restaurant.

0:08:51 – Kayla
They weren’t going to be hungry when they were. No, but I mean okay.

0:08:56 – Brian
So we’re in Barnes and Noble, we’re in Barnes and Noble and you’re in your little area and I’m in my area and I usually go to the Christian section and I’m in the Bible section. I like to look at that kind of stuff and there’s a clerk and there’s a customer.

0:09:12 – Kayla
Okay, there’s a service desk right near the Christian section.

0:09:16 – Brian
So at the Barnes and Noble, this customer asked the clerk for an audio book and the clerk says sir, we don’t sell audio books, you download it to your phone. The customer said I have it on my phone, I can listen to it on my phone, I just want the audio so I can take it anywhere. Now it’s at that point. I tune in because this cat Hold up a second yes, he says I have it on my phone.

Take your phone with you, exactly. And the clerk, who is now confused, says sir, if you have on your phone, you can take it anywhere. And the guy says well, what if I lose my phone? Like I’m trying hard not to stare, like is this, like I’m thinking I’m on an episode of something, okay? He says what if I lose my phone? I still want the audio version. The clerk says if you sync it across devices, then you can listen to it on any device. And the customer says I guess I’m after. What I’m after is the audio, so I can take it anywhere. Now here’s my. Does this guy think that the audio can fit in your hand? Like?

0:10:24 – Kayla
in his defense.

0:10:26 – Brian
No, no, there is no defense. Stop it. You’re being too nice to people. Stop it.

0:10:32 – Kayla
I’m wondering if he meant like with a kindle or something. Well, kindles don’t have audio, do they?

0:10:40 – Brian
Probably but, he’s got a phone.

0:10:41 – Kayla
Okay, you’re getting a little wound up about this.

0:10:44 – Brian
You go in there and you ask for an audio book.

0:10:46 – Kayla
Okay, Walter, we’re moving on now.

0:10:49 – Brian
I don’t appreciate. Do you want to tell people why you call me Walter?

0:10:53 – Kayla
Because sometimes you act like a cranky old man. And there’s the mannequin.

0:10:57 – Brian
There’s the Jeff Dunham and puppet that he calls Walter.

0:11:01 – Kayla
We were out to dinner on New Year’s Eve.

0:11:02 – Brian
Well, I’m not done with this fella. No, we’re done.

0:11:04 – Kayla
No, we’re done. We’re done with this fella. We’re moving on. New Year’s Eve, fast forward, wonderful dinner. You ordered the prime rib, you have this. They brought out half a cow.

0:11:13 – Brian
I asked how big the steak was. Seriously, I wanted to be too big and he said 10 ounces. It was huge that steak had to be.

0:11:20 – Kayla
You got three meals out of it.

0:11:22 – Brian
It was massive y’all, and so I couldn’t eat any of all of it. I had to eat about a third of it, okay.

0:11:29 – Kayla
Yeah.

0:11:31 – Brian
Well, when they deliver it now we’ve struck up a conversation and a friendship with the owner during this time they deliver the prime rib and the owner walks by and he goes, ooh, says you’re the first customer to have ordered that this evening. I’m looking forward. I’m excited to see you eat that. Now, wait a minute. I ain’t going to sit here and let you watch me eat this, but I’d sit there and eat it. He’d come by and he’d fist bump me and that kind of stuff.

0:11:54 – Kayla
But he wanted to make sure you were enjoying your meal. So we did. We sent our best regards to the chefs they had done an amazing job and to our friends who live in the New River Valley or even if you’re within like an hour or two of Christiansburg, go to Bull and Bones in Christiansburg.

0:12:11 – Brian
It’s incredible you will enjoy it was amazing, your meal.

0:12:15 – Kayla
It was stellar.

0:12:17 – Brian
You had filet medallions.

0:12:19 – Kayla
I got filet medallions with grilled shrimp and sweet potato casserole.

0:12:23 – Brian
They were in a garlic butter sauce.

0:12:26 – Kayla
Yeah. So, and sweet potatoes and broccoli.

0:12:30 – Brian
It was good.

0:12:30 – Kayla
It was very, very good.

0:12:31 – Brian
It was. I’ll just tell you that the Bull and Bones in Christiansburg had a thing going. It was called Old Farts, new Year’s Eve, okay, and they were going to drop a ball Toasting at 9 pm yeah. Toast at 9 o’clock and drop this ball at 9 o’clock, so everybody go home and go to bed Now. Our reservations were at 7.

0:12:48 – Kayla
We made it to 8.30. Okay, then went home.

0:12:52 – Brian
Right, because we live two minutes from the restaurant.

0:12:54 – Kayla
Yeah. So, yeah, it was fun. I mean yeah, it was great.

0:12:58 – Brian
I’d say go to Bull and Bones.

0:12:59 – Kayla
Yes, definitely give them a chance.

0:13:04 – Brian
All right, it’s time to get serious.

0:13:06 – Kayla
Just for a minute.

0:13:07 – Brian
Okay.

0:13:08 – Kayla
But we welcome you to join us in this.

0:13:10 – Brian
Okay.

0:13:12 – Kayla
There’s a lot of things coming out of 2023. You’re seeing it, whether people want to call it their intentions or their goals, or they want to talk about, Resolutions.

Their word for the year, or we’re kind of putting a different spin on this, because for us, honestly, for the first time in a long time, you and I have chosen a word for the year. We feel God leading us in a certain direction. That’s not what we’re going to share today, though. We’ve been asking each other this question, I guess technically two questions what are we setting down as we leave 2023? What are we hoping to leave in 2023?nAnd what are we carrying into 2024? And so we just something to think about. If you’re really struggling with, well, I don’t have goals, I don’t have resolutions, it’s not a bad thing, but what are some things in your mind and in your heart? You know, I need to put this down and leave it there, and in 2024, I’m going to pick this up and carry it. So be give us an example.

0:14:27 – Brian
I’m going to put down that everyone has to love and accept me. I’m going to leave that behind, going to try, Because that’s a big struggle for me and I’m going to pick up that Jesus and Miss Kayla love and accept me Now. For me that’s a big deal because I want everybody to be happy and I feel love and appreciated when I mean, that’s just how I’m wired and it’s brokenness and that’s something I’ve been reading about lately. So I’m gonna try and leave that behind, that Brian is still okay and that it’s enough that Jesus and you love me. So that’s me. That’s my first you.

0:15:14 – Kayla
Kind of along the same thought process. What is going on? You just picked up a Godzilla and sat it down in front of you.

0:15:23 – Brian
I just don’t worry about him, Keep going. Things are gonna leave things are gonna leave. Godzilla is apparently not one of them. I’ve been watching a lot of movies. I just wanted to.

0:15:34 – Kayla
Okay, can you pay attention?

0:15:38 – Brian
What do you think? The answer to that question is no. Okay, then why are we asking?

0:15:44 – Kayla
I am going to put down other people’s expectations and their disappointment, and what I mean by that is you and I are both wired that we want everyone around us, everyone to be happy, to be comfortable. We wanna make sure that nobody is disappointed in us or disappointed in something that they expected of us. But I’m going to pick up just doing my best to love others well, practicing healthy boundaries and living into what God has called me to do, and if any of that is a disappointment to someone, then I’m gonna have to let them sit with that.

0:16:32 – Brian
And this is.

0:16:33 – Kayla
And that’s gonna be hard. Well, I just didn’t always go share this much.

0:16:36 – Brian
I mean, I’m kind of Well I didn’t know Godzilla was joining our podcast.

0:16:39 – Kayla
He is always in here, but here we are.

0:16:41 – Brian
Okay, I wanted to take a picture to promote the podcast.

0:16:44 – Kayla
Onto your next one. Well, I’m not sure how he fits, but anyway Onto your next one.

0:16:51 – Brian
All the hate for Godzilla, I’m gonna put down managing and leading toward a bank balance instead of chasing a dream, and that’s something that’s been really impressed upon.

0:17:03 – Kayla
For our organization, for the organization For the organization. Because I’m continuing to pursue our bank balance at home. Yes, I understand. Okay, very good.

0:17:12 – Brian
Okay, because you need a dream to chase.

0:17:15 – Kayla
Yes.

0:17:16 – Brian
You need a.

0:17:17 – Kayla
And some wise advisors nudged you on this, so I’m glad to see it.

0:17:22 – Brian
I love them.

0:17:23 – Kayla
So this one scares me. But, I’m going, I’m done with him, okay.

0:17:30 – Brian
You should see the look I’m getting.

0:17:33 – Kayla
I am setting down, playing it safe, and I am picking up doing a lot of things this year that scare me, but I will show up and this is in my work and personal life. Let us pray.

0:17:48 – Brian
You’re saying you’re gonna get a little bit more spots.

0:17:52 – Kayla
Not even promised that. There’s no spontaneity in that. That word wasn’t in there. Don’t be.

0:17:58 – Brian
don’t be reading, All right, I apologize, I did not see that word there. Okay, I’m going to put down that food. Feels a hole in my heart. I’m picking up what Jesus says about me and what Jesus is that. He’s enough. He’s good. The only thing with all my food, with my full allergies, with my wish I had full allergies, but with my food allergies, the only thing I can really sneak off and get now would be like tacos and but you don’t do that.

You really don’t. Not much. Since I got food allergies, I risked chicken. You have a good potato chip. I do, and I love chicken tendies, but they came back to bite me one day. Chicken tendies, that’s what the kids call them. What, okay, you don’t think that’s what kids call them.

0:18:46 – Kayla
Tenders, but okay.

0:18:48 – Brian
They are called chicken tendies. Okay, really, that’s what the kids Okay, kids call them chicken tendies okay.

0:18:56 – Kayla
Okay, if you say so.

0:18:59 – Brian
You call them Chicken tenders. Well, if you go on the Instagram, Okay.

0:19:05 – Kayla
I’ll take your word for it.

0:19:07 – Brian
They’re called chicken tendies.

0:19:08 – Kayla
I’m old now to touch and I’m good with that, so I Am going to come back to my last one and skip down, so Kind of in agreement with you, and again we did not come here.

0:19:20 – Brian
Here’s a moment say that again.

0:19:22 – Kayla
Kind of in agreement with you. We agree about a lot, just not Godzilla. I’m going to set down my love of junk food and if you’ve listened to any of our episodes where I’ve confessed I have a very strong Like of sugar and all things that are sweet chicken tendies. Well, I do like chicken tenders, but yes, but this year I am adding nutrition to my health journey and our trainer is actually going to be advising us on ways to make wise food choices so not only are we doing the yeah like the workout with our trainer this year but,

0:20:02 – Brian
we’re also picking up nutrition, oh he should pay me for eating this stuff he’s putting in front of us. No, not really yes, but he’s just giving you advice.

0:20:14 – Kayla
So there’s that he’s not forcing food on you. I think he is.

0:20:19 – Brian
I’m going to put down the fear of people being unhappy when I make certain decisions and I’m picking up, I’m picking back up that I am to lead the last three years or so have been really hard to lead through COVID.

0:20:33 – Kayla
Coming out of COVID. Yes kind of survival mode. Yes and Dancing delicately around and you’re coming out of it.

0:20:44 – Brian
I’m coming out of it, okay, so.

0:20:46 – Kayla
My final one is I am setting down my mindless television watching and doom scrolling on my phone. I Want to read at least one book a week.

0:20:57 – Brian
Wow.

0:20:59 – Kayla
For me I’ve set limits for myself with social media. I actually have set the app to where it tells me you’ve hit your daily limit and I have. I started this back in December that Instagram to tell you yes back at the first of December, I learned from someone that you can actually set your Instagram to tell you that it’s time to log off.

0:21:23 – Brian
I’m not ready to take that plunge.

0:21:24 – Kayla
I didn’t think I was and, but I did it and it’s probably one of the best things I’ve ever done, really.

0:21:30 – Brian
So I’m only average. Respond to certain reels I share with you.

0:21:34 – Kayla
It’s why I don’t respond to a lot, and it’s not because I don’t love people, oh, it’s just that that’s not a priority of mine.

0:21:42 – Brian
Text me, I’ll text you back, but Instagram is so if I text you a real, will you see it that way?

0:21:48 – Kayla
No, you need to stop. I will continue to enjoy social media, but just in smaller doses. I will enjoy shows and movies with you.

0:21:59 – Brian
We just started watching.

0:22:00 – Kayla
But I want them to add value, not just fill time. I’d rather fill it with books.

0:22:06 – Brian
We just started rewatching.

0:22:07 – Kayla
No down to Nami.

0:22:08 – Brian
That’s trying to say it right. I want to say downtown, but it’s down to nothing. So all right, so there you go.

0:22:15 – Kayla
So there you are.

0:22:16 – Brian
There’s season three, episode one in the can, as the professionals say, hey, we want to continue to send you.

0:22:31 – Kayla
We would love to gift somebody a coffee mug and some stickers. So for the first two people, I mean, we’ve done more than two at one time. If you go to our website, look for the trivia button. If you click that, what is our website be?

0:22:48 – Brian
peas and carrots podcast.

0:22:50 – Kayla
So, if you’ll go there, click the trivia button. Answer the question.

0:22:53 – Brian
This week’s question is oh, what is one thing you’re carrying into 2024? What’s one thing you’re going to do in 2024?

0:23:02 – Kayla
So share that with us. Be brave, tell us what you’re doing and we may check in on you later in the year.

0:23:08 – Brian
Just see how probably not, she probably will I probably won’t. I will check. She’s the nicer one of the two.

0:23:15 – Kayla
But go to our website answer the question. We have adorable stickers. I think they’re adorable and we hear they are from various people use the word adorable. That’s okay, but you do like the mug, I do. It’s a nice mug, so again our way.

0:23:29 – Brian
Our website is peas and carrots podcast calm. You look for the trivia button. Click that and answer this question.

0:23:35 – Kayla
What is one thing you are carrying into 2024?

0:23:39 – Brian
Hey, thanks for listening this week. You can search the peas and carrots podcast wherever you get your podcast, or visit our website at peas and carrots podcast common. When you do, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast and when you go there to our website or find us on social media, drop a line about how appreciative you are that, like the Godzilla made an appearance in this week’s episode. You Should see the look why are you.

0:24:08 – Kayla
You can follow us on Facebook and Instagram. No requirement to reference Godzilla, just search for them.

0:24:17 – Brian
He’s very in carrots.

0:24:19 – Kayla
He has no feelings.

0:24:20 – Brian
Do you know, if you watch the Godzilla movie backward? It’s about a benevolent it’s. It’s about this loving lizard who rebuilds a town.

0:24:27 – Kayla
I’m done.

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