Season 3, Episode 29: Three Words

Can We Talk?
Three Words - Episode Description
Is it really fall without pumpkin spice? Join us as we bask in the seasonal shift heralded by cooler temperatures and vibrant leaves. We share laughs over Kayla’s pumpkin spice creamer purchase and recount the influx of students back in Blacksburg—affecting everything from traffic to our favorite dining spots. Kayla also gives a hilarious play-by-play of Brian’s evening snooze-fests, culminating in an unforgettable fireworks show that he mostly slept through. For a fun twist, we introduce “Three Words,” a new segment where we challenge ourselves to boil down our thoughts into just three words, sparking playful exchanges and testing our patience.
The heart of this episode lies in friendship and community. We celebrate the connections that make life richer, urging you to explore the Peas and Carrots Podcast on your favorite platforms and stay engaged through our website and social media. As we close, we share heartfelt reflections on our deep appreciation for each other and the incredible support from friends like Melody and Candy. It’s a warm, engaging chat that will leave you feeling the love and charm of the changing seasons. Don’t miss out on a conversation that underscores the magic of friendship and the delightful quirks of life.
Three Words - Transcript

00:00 – Announcer (None)
We go together like peas and carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast Sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders.

00:11 – Brian (None)
Welcome to the Peas and Carrots Podcast. Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian. Welcome to this week’s edition. And, miss Sanders, yes, the trees are starting to turn here.

00:23 – Kayla (None)
They are. Summer is fading away.

00:28 – Brian (None)
Bye, Felicia.

00:31 – Kayla (None)
I have a confession. I actually bought some pumpkin spice creamer, so I’m kind of bougie and I use the Chobani Wait a minute, I own it, I own it. I bought the Chobani Wait a minute, I own it. Wait a minute, wait a minute, I own it. I bought the Chobani pumpkin creamer. It’s so good, but I’m not letting myself use it until the end of August. Why? Because then I feel like I can let go of summer and it can be fall.

01:02 – Announcer (None)
I love it. We’ll see, stay tuned.

01:04 – Brian (None)
The leaves are changing. I looked ahead at the forecast and I see the highs for some of the days are like in the 70s coming up.

01:12 – Kayla (None)
So I’m excited what’s happening in our town.

01:15 – Brian (None)
It’s filling up with people. All them students are coming back.

01:20 – Kayla (None)
So, for those who don’t know, we live in Christiansburg, but Blacksburg is our neighbor.

01:29 – Brian (None)
And Virginia Tech is outside our back door. And I like the students. I mean without them we wouldn’t have an economy here, wouldn’t have all these stores, that kind of stuff. But it’s a lot of people.

01:39 – Kayla (None)
It’s like day and night. It’s a different world when they are around. You either go eat at 4 o’clock or you’re eating at 9 o’clock. If you’re going to a restaurant, we’re more the 4 o’clock type people.

01:51 – Brian (None)
During the school year, we are and you get that senior special attempt.

02:00 – Kayla (None)
So we were talking the other night. This has been a summer full. We have been a summer full. We have had a really fun summer. We’ve traveled a lot, we’ve played a lot. But is anyone else?

02:16 – Brian (None)
craving a routine. I mean, yeah, I do enjoy routine. I sleep better with a routine. I keep peace in my head better with a routine.

02:27 – Kayla (None)
I’m just ready for it. Really I think that’s why I love the start of school is because I get back in a rhythm and we’ve been like unsupervised toddlers for the last three months. So, yeah, doing what, traveling and all the things? Yeah, doing what, traveling and all the things? Yeah, okay, it’s like we’ve had a routine for a week and then it’s gone. And a routine for a week and it’s gone. Yes, I understand.

02:53 – Brian (None)
So I’m ready, like the routine back at the gym, the routine back with our food.

02:58 – Kayla (None)
Yeah, I get it. So yeah, but thank you, summer, you’ve been fun.

03:02 – Brian (None)
I’m grateful that the Olympics are over. I can get back in my sleep routine.

03:06 – Kayla (None)
You slept through them anyway.

03:10 – Brian (None)
That was not a very helpful comment. Yes, some of them. I did sleep through. Well, when it hits about 840. You’re gone. I’m in my easy chair with a blanket. Just wake me up when you’re ready to go to bed. So I’m going to tell on you.

03:22 – Kayla (None)
Just wake me up when you’re ready to go to bed. So I’m going to tell on you. The other night I was watching there is a streaming channel that I can actually watch the fireworks at Disney and I was watching the fireworks at Epcot and I was loving it, but every time a firework went off you would go huh Because you were asleep and the firework would wake you up. It was a long day. It was a long day that day. It was a long day, but it was quite comical trying to watch.

03:50 – Announcer (None)
Did I enjoy them at least? No, you were out.

03:52 – Kayla (None)
Oh okay, you were gone, so we’re going to do something a little different. Okay, this segment is called Three Words.

04:03 – Brian (None)
Three Words.

04:04 – Kayla (None)
We’re going to say more by saying less. So no cheating, you’re not allowed to say anything more than the three words, not words.

04:14 – Brian (None)
I don’t work like this.

04:15 – Kayla (None)
Uh-uh, this is the rule.

04:16 – Brian (None)
I need words.

04:18 – Kayla (None)
Well, you get three and that’s it.

04:21 – Brian (None)
That’s it. I don’t get to explain myself.

04:24 – Kayla (None)
You say your three words and then whoever’s hearing it gets to receive it as they are meant to, without any explanation from you. You can do this Okay.

04:37 – Brian (None)
You start us off.

04:38 – Kayla (None)
For example, I love you.

04:41 – Brian (None)
Am I allowed to respond to that? I just listen, that’s all we’re doing.

04:45 – Kayla (None)
You come back with. This is a game of three words, the first thing that comes to your mind.

04:51 – Brian (None)
Am I reacting to you or you’re just my own?

04:52 – Kayla (None)
three you can, but you’re on three oh now I feel this pressure. I mean, I know your response would be.

05:00 – Brian (None)
I love you, but I know I’ve thrown you a curveball, but you can do this. Probably my actual response to you would be love you more.

05:12 – Kayla (None)
Of course.

05:13 – Brian (None)
Okay.

05:14 – Kayla (None)
My little sentimental oh here we go.

05:16 – Brian (None)
I was just trying to Okay.

05:19 – Kayla (None)
Okay, so three words.

05:20 – Brian (None)
You’re making fun of me about the.

05:21 – Kayla (None)
Olympics.

05:22 – Brian (None)
I’m a little sensitive right now. Okay, okay, reigning in.

05:24 – Kayla (None)
All right Three, okay, okay. Reigning in All right Three words.

05:27 – Brian (None)
Do hard things. Okay, see, and I feel this pressure to explain.

05:33 – Kayla (None)
Uh-uh, you’re not allowed to Practice the pause. That’s so hard to do, apparently, because you can’t do the three things. Apparently I can’t.

05:53 – Brian (None)
Read more books.

05:55 – Kayla (None)
Ooh, do the work.

05:59 – Brian (None)
Gosh, I want to say something. Okay, I feel I’m in this awkward tension Just keep going.

06:05 – Kayla (None)
What would be your next one?

06:07 – Brian (None)
Love her. Well, no, you weren’t supposed to say nothing. This is like a jacked up.

06:14 – Kayla (None)
Okay, well, this is really awkward. Following that, buy the shoes.

06:23 – Brian (None)
And you do.

06:24 – Kayla (None)
Yes, I do. Next one Is yours. Own your crap.

06:32 – Brian (None)
Spend money wisely.

06:35 – Kayla (None)
Ooh, jesus is enough.

06:39 – Brian (None)
Brush your teeth, it’s Okay. Well, I just hear.

06:44 – Kayla (None)
Okay.

06:50 – Brian (None)
Mind your business, brush your teeth. Be like lincoln read your bible I am just following the rules here, okay, never trust farting okay, never trust. Farting, that’s three words, oh my gosh, um especially wearing white britches stop three words, oh perhaps this one’s a good one you’re more upset about me using more than three words, three words that I use.

07:28 – Kayla (None)
I’m a little upset about both, but it’s okay, embrace your quirks. I’m trying.

07:39 – Brian (None)
Three words Experiences over things.

07:42 – Kayla (None)
Oh, buy less junk things.

07:47 – Brian (None)
Oh, buy less junk Love others well.

07:53 – Kayla (None)
Don’t post that, but it’s so funny.

07:57 – Brian (None)
Three words oh so funny it I can’t figure out three words to say there I’m trying to be Yoda over here, Get back up.

08:07 – Kayla (None)
Oh words to say there. I’m trying to be Yoda over here. Get back up. Never say never.

08:12 – Brian (None)
I wanted to say this, but I couldn’t figure out the third word, so I made a third word up. Okay, Okay, love Jesus bigly.

08:20 – Kayla (None)
Oh, okay, go to church. Okay, open your home.

08:29 – Brian (None)
The only people allowed at our house are announced for UPS, amazon and FedEx. I am not opening up the home for you. You ring my doorbell, I will look at you through the peephole and I will not open the door.

08:41 – Kayla (None)
Here’s another one. Take a nap.

08:45 – Brian (None)
How do you do that? You watch the Olympics or Disney stuff. Take a nap. I like take a nap. Okay, how about eat a snack?

08:54 – Kayla (None)
Oh, good one.

08:56 – Brian (None)
Okay.

08:57 – Kayla (None)
I’ve got one for you. Watch Star Wars.

09:04 – Brian (None)
That’s in the Gospel, according to Brian, chapter 3, verse 10 there you go okay three words come on three words. She is beautiful always be kind kiss her daily hold her hand. Okay, let’s not get too we’re gonna keep this pg in.

09:23 – Kayla (None)
well, at my let’s not get too. We got to keep this PG in.

09:28 – Brian (None)
Well, at my age it’s not all PG. I mean, it is PG, go ahead. What are you looking at me like that? I didn’t say anything bad. I didn’t say anything bad Behave Three words. Have fun daily.

09:43 – Kayla (None)
There we go.

09:44 – Brian (None)
Laugh at yourself. That’s a big one. That’s a big one.

09:46 – Kayla (None)
That is a big one. Very good Laugh at yourself. Okay, know your limits.

09:53 – Brian (None)
Watch Godzilla movies.

09:55 – Kayla (None)
Make more memories.

10:00 – Brian (None)
I don’t know how to make this one into three words, but I’d say trust God always.

10:07 – Kayla (None)
Be more transparent. That one does not apply to you.

10:14 – Brian (None)
See y’all, would y’all email in and pray for me? Sign up for the Brian prayer list. Okay, I don’t know, why are you being like this to me today After?

10:27 – Kayla (None)
what you just said. A minute ago, I didn’t say anything. Okay, you have a look when you’re being mischievous, and it was yeah, see, now you’re laughing at yourself. One more, give me one more. Oh, eat a popsicle. Cheer him on. So there we go. It’s a little game of three words.

10:48 – Brian (None)
Believe in yourself. So well, that was fun.

10:53 – Kayla (None)
It’s harder than you think, though Are we doing four words next week.

10:57 – Brian (None)
No, I mean in a month, we’ll have a paragraph going Stop.

11:07 – Kayla (None)
We have three words, three last words. We appreciate you. This has been a really fun ride and we’re still going, but we wanted to come to you, our listener. We just wrapped up. This is wild. We just finished our third year of this podcast and your words, your kindness, your engagement, your emails yeah, Text messages, videos, phone calls We’ve had it all and it means so much to us. It is scary. I never thought I would be this terrified doing something to put yourself out into the wild, and yet others have made space for us and we will always hold space for you.

11:56 – Brian (None)
Yeah, I’m just shocked by how God has used this little podcast and the lives that he weaves, I mean, and some of you have become our friends and that kind of stuff. So thank you for listening, thank you for sharing the podcast with your friends and your family, thanks for allowing the Lord to just use these words to impact your heart.

12:16 – Kayla (None)
Yeah, and know this everything we share with you, it’s either something that God is working on in us or he’s worked on, or it’s something that we want to share with you because you feel like family to us and it’s almost as if we’re sitting across from you at a coffee shop sharing a moment where we can just be real with each other.

12:46 – Brian (None)
And Miss Kayla’s being kind towards you and I’m trying to crack jokes. That’s what’s going on at that coffee shop.

12:53 – Kayla (None)
Very much so.

12:55 – Brian (None)
But it’s been a joy and we’re going to continue on.

12:57 – Kayla (None)
Yeah we’re not going anywhere, but we appreciate you.

13:01 – Brian (None)
So we’d like to send you a Peas and Carrots coffee mug, a Peas and Carrots pen notepad and some Cute little stickers. All you got to do is answer this particular trivia question.

13:12 – Kayla (None)
Yeah, as we say every week, go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Look for that trivia button. Click it. What are your three words? Share with us and you can share multiples if you want to, like we did. But yeah, go to the website. Click the trivia button.

13:34 – Brian (None)
What are your three words? That website is peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Hey, thanks for listening this week. It’s always a pleasure and, by the way, you can search the peas and podcast the peas and carrots podcast wherever you get your podcast, or visit our website at peasandcarrotspodcastcom.

13:51 – Kayla (None)
When you do, don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast. You can follow us on Facebook and Instagram. Just search for the Peas and Carrots Podcast.

13:59 – Brian (None)
I have a final three words for you.

14:01 – Kayla (None)
Oh no.

14:02 – Brian (None)
I love you.

14:03 – Kayla (None)
Very good.

14:04 – Announcer (None)
For more about the Peas and Carrots Podcast and to reach out to Brian and Kayla, visit peasandcarrotspodcastcom. Life’s not perfect. That’s why God gave us friends like Melody and Candy. Check out quirks, bumps and bruisescom, or search quirks, bumps and bruises wherever you listen to podcasts.

 

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Season 3, Episode 27: Not Home Yet

Can We Talk?
Not Home Yet - Episode Description

What if living your faith authentically could transform the world around you? Join us on the Peas and Carrots Podcast as we kick off with a light-hearted confession about our love for Chick-fil-A ice cream and share our collective excitement for the Olympics, celebrating the incredible triumphs of athletes like Simone Biles. We sprinkle in some humor with a funny story about our new programmable AC unit and share a heartfelt visit to our friend Donna, who is on the mend from a recent accident. Our conversation takes a thoughtful twist as we unpack the controversial moments from the Olympic opening ceremonies and discuss the concept of living in the world but not being of it. We dive deep into the idea that non-believers should not be expected to adhere to Christian values and the importance of not imposing our beliefs on others.

This episode also tackles the nuanced topic of boycotting events and products from a faith-based perspective. We emphasize personal conviction and maintaining a Christ-like attitude, making a clear distinction between persecution and mockery. You’ll hear us reflect on how the gospel should be the only offensive element in our lives, not our behaviors or words. To bring it all home, we highlight the temporary nature of this world and the eternal hope of heaven, encouraging our listeners to glorify Christ in their daily lives. And don’t miss our exciting trivia contest! Participate for a chance to win some fantastic Peas and Carrots Podcast prizes. Tune in, and let’s navigate living out our faith in an ever-changing world together.

Not Home Yet - Transcript

00:00 – Announcer (None)

We go together like peas and carrots the peas and carrots podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

00:11 – Brian (Host)

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. Hi, I’m Kayla and I’m Brian, and welcome to this week’s edition of the vegetable patch. 

 

00:18

What is up in the world of peas and carrots? 

 

00:21

Okay, first of all, we just had a Chick-fil-a ice cream cone. So if you hear us, it’s, we just had a Chick-fil-A ice cream cone. So if you hear us, it’s because we just had ice cream. 

 

00:28

Confession is not good for the soul in this moment. 

 

00:31

Oh, okay. 

 

00:33 – Kayla (Host)

Just kidding. Well, I’m just getting it out there on the table. 

 

00:36 – Brian (Host)

You just got a little drainage after all the ice cream Got a little bit of drainage. 

 

00:40 – Kayla (Host)

We have been watching the Olympics and loving it, yeah. So in all seriousness, I don’t want to spoil anything, but if you have been watching, some people are actually watching it later they are. I learned there are people who have Peacock the app and they are watching it of Peacock the app and they are watching it. But to see two athletes conquer their physical and mental health issues and win gold is amazing. 

 

01:14 – Brian (Host)

Simone Biles is just an inspiration. She really is, that’s the truth and you’ve been watching it every night. 

 

01:20 – Kayla (Host)

Except last night I fell out because, yeah, this whole, well, there wasn’t a lot. 

 

01:25 – Brian (Host)

I’m not going to say that. 

 

01:26 – Kayla (Host)

There was a lot, I just I was tired so I took a break last night. But tonight is some more women’s gymnastics, so I will be watching that, if the Sanders were involved in Olympics, who would win the gold medal? 

 

01:39 – Brian (Host)

Oh, our new AC unit would win the gold medal. Oh, gotcha, okay, yes our new ac unit would win the oh gotcha. Okay, yes, you like. You’re in love with our new ac. Yeah, it’s programmable. It has a programmable thermostat. 

 

01:53 – Kayla (Host)

I have an app on my phone you can set it to like turn down and cool the house before we get home. 

 

01:58 – Brian (Host)

It’s on a schedule, I never have to go the thermostat. 

 

02:01 – Kayla (Host)

It’s weird yeah, I’m still getting used to that so because, y’all, we had an old timey one where you had to slide the thermostat up and down. 

 

02:10 – Brian (Host)

I don’t know if that’s old timey, they still make that maybe it was 20 years old. 

 

02:14 – Kayla (Host)

well, I mean okay. So yesterday was everything. We got to visit our friend slash co-worker, donna, in Winston-Salem, north Carolina. She is recovering from a recent accident and it was just seeing her smile, getting to laugh with her, seeing how well she’s doing with her healing, so yeah, she looked good. 

 

02:41 – Brian (Host)

She did, she laughed joked, yeah, she looked good. 

 

02:43 – Kayla (Host)

She did, yeah, she laughed, yeah, joked. She’s got a ways to go, so please keep praying for her, but it was a great visit. 

 

02:50 – Brian (Host)

She’s doing her own Olympics. I just saw where she had to play the drummys today Uh-huh, for part of her physical therapy. 

 

02:58 – Kayla (Host)

Yep. 

 

03:00 – Brian (Host)

So that’s, I mean, I don’t know, that’s just a whole new way of therapy for me. I guess the opening ceremonies of the Olympics we have some thoughts. The social medias have been on fire. 

 

03:17 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, just on fire, I do not miss Facebook. So yeah, I want to give a disclaimer, not miss Facebook. So yeah, I want to give a disclaimer before we go here. This is not one of those moments where we’re going to get on our soapbox and we are not coming at anyone. This is just some thoughts that in light of the opening ceremony, and some people may be like I have no idea what you’re talking about, so I will share very briefly. 

 

03:46

There were two incidences during the opening ceremony. Apparently, there was a scene where the performers we will put it that way were making a mockery of the Lord’s Supper, and then there was another. I actually watched this one, so’m just I’m gonna confess I think I kind of dozed off before the the lord’s supper thing. I came back for a little while. Later on I woke back up, but yeah, that thing goes. I forgot how long the opening ceremony is, but anyway, earlier in the evening you and I were both speechless. At a, there was an artistic interpretation. There were three people dancing through the streets of Paris and it was very risque, and yes, I’m trying to choose my words carefully here, but at the end of the scene it was very suggestive and they were the three of them going into a room and closing the door, and you and I both were absolutely shocked. 

 

04:49 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, I couldn’t believe it was like in family primetime. 

 

04:52 – Kayla (Host)

And this is happening. So the question that I’ve been sitting with and you and I talked about this after watching the opening ceremony and then, like the dumpster fire, that is the interwebs what does it look like to be in this world, but not of this world? And it led to this ongoing conversation that we just want to have with all of you today. 

 

05:19 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, Let me start off with this basic principle. Okay, and we’re taking that particular principle as to living in the world, but you’re not of it, and so let me say this how do you respond to the world as well? How do you live in it, not be of it, but also respond to it? I’m going to lay down this particular foundational truth. This particular foundational truth Never expect unbelievers to love, act like or honor what believers love, act like and honor. Don’t do it, because you will set yourself up for failure. So that is the basic principle there that I want to start with, because they don’t know your God and you cannot legislate or force people to live like a Christian. 

 

06:18 – Kayla (Host)

There’s a couple of other disclaimers that we want to give. If you feel a strong conviction to boycott something, I say that’s between you and God and that is where it should stay. Here’s just. This is just my take. If doing so requires you to incite anger and project hate on everyone around you, maybe it’s worth taking a pause first, and this is not going to be a political discussion. That’s not where our heads are as we broach just our thoughts on this. 

 

06:57

Yes, there were moments in the opening ceremony that gave me a lot to think about. Even yet, I did not decide well, I’m not watching one minute of the Olympics because of that. These athletes worked really hard to get where they are. I want them to know that I’m sitting on my couch cheering for them, rooting for them, posting about them, because I can’t go that far personally. I can’t say well, this was just evil and not of God, so I refuse to have anything to do with the Olympics. And if that is where you, as a listener, have landed, that’s between you and God. So that’s just a disclaimer we want to give Exactly so. 

 

07:45 – Brian (Host)

Again, we want to say this it is our stance that, like, if you want to boycott something, do it quietly, because you never see I don’t want to say this. You never see Jesus and the apostles holding up picket signs or anything like that. Their goal is to not be offended by the world. Their goal is to change the world. 

 

08:13 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

08:13 – Brian (Host)

And to change it you usually have to be friendly with people. So let me say this also the church has faced persecution since the beginning of time. What happened at the Olympics is not persecution. Okay, that is just. You could call it mockery, you could call it misunderstanding, all that other kind of stuff, but it isn’t persecution. Now, when you’re being persecuted, you’re being put in jail for your faith. You’re being killed for your faith. Yeah, so let’s get that straight. ‘re being killed for your faith? Yeah, so let’s get that straight. Is that that wasn’t persecution? 

 

08:49 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

08:50 – Brian (Host)

That was something else, and what we’re talking about is how to react to it. How would Jesus respond? 

 

08:58 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, here’s a truth that you and I both live by, because we have friends with varying backgrounds, with varying lifestyles, and yet we have chosen to lean in and love. Well, our lives should make some uncomfortable, so this is where I’m kind of going to go there a little bit. We have guidelines for how we should live, and those are presented to us through his word and the Spirit’s nudging. As a believer, there are things that I know I’m going to feel a conviction for is more about who they see in us than what we say from our megaphones, our social media platforms and felt judgment. Should they brave attending our churches? I want to be a person that I’m living out my faith, but I’m not shoving it down someone’s throat. 

 

10:05 – Brian (Host)

Here’s what Ms Miss Kayla is saying your life and the gospel should make people uncomfortable. Yeah, the way that you talk to people should not. 

 

10:16 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

10:17 – Brian (Host)

In other words, the gospel is offensive. You don’t have to be, yeah, don’t be a jerk. 

 

10:23 – Kayla (Host)

Well, jesus dined with sinners and he walked with broken people. 

 

10:27 – Brian (Host)

Yes, One of the apostles was a zealot, was a terrorist I can’t. I’m trying to grab his name here and it escapes me. Also, that woman at the well yeah, she had how many husbands, yeah. Woman at the well, she had how many husbands, yeah. Then apparently, mary Magdalene was a very. She was a woman of the world according to church tradition. 

 

10:52 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah. 

 

10:53 – Brian (Host)

And none of these people were like perfect. Matthew was a tax collector. And look at Paul he murdered. There’s a great quote about Paul that says Paul entered heaven to the cheers of the people he martyred. That’s how the gospel works, that we want society to live like we do, that we forget that it takes the gospel to change a heart and so you can’t legislate that. So back to what you said, Ms Kayla, because it was powerful. You said our lives should make some uncomfortable. 

 

11:41 – Kayla (Host)

They should. That’s how I should be in the world, but not of it so powerful. They should see something in me that they yearn for, but not my hate or not my vitriol about everything and not your Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or whatever. 

 

12:01 – Brian (Host)

it’s called X rants or whatever. 

 

12:03 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, I know all that stuff. 

 

12:05 – Brian (Host)

It’s possible to love the person and also hate the sin From Facebook posts and like social media. We’re hating the people and that will never win anybody to Christ. That will never bring them, because think about this Jesus said that if you gain the whole world and yet lose your soul, what is a prophet? Hmm, what if you won the moral high ground all over the world? What if you forced everybody to live the way you do, but they never believe the gospel? 

 

12:47 – Kayla (Host)

It’s all for naught what is the profit in that. I want to say this it is just and it is good to have conversations with others about living a gospel-centered life. It is on me to talk about my walk with Christ, but I can do that without always putting others on defense or making them doubt that the Jesus that we love could ever love them. May the gospel be offensive. May we not be offensive. 

 

13:20 – Brian (Host)

Amen, you ought to preach sometime. No, no, no. 

 

13:28 – Kayla (Host)

This world is not our home. 

 

13:29 – Brian (Host)

Amen. This is a temporary place, yeah, and we long for the hope of heaven, but we may not. But help us not to squander the privilege we have of glorifying christ in our time here. So here’s the thing sometimes it’s like we fight as though this is our eternal home, as though this is where and we should take care of this place. But y’all, we’re just passing through. Yeah, our hope is not built here. No, and it’s like we’re just all ramped up about you know, we got to. Anyway, before I go off, on. 

 

14:02 – Kayla (Host)

I was going to say you’re, you’re you got one foot on the soapbox. 

 

14:05 – Brian (Host)

I know, I know. 

 

14:07 – Kayla (Host)

Bottom line. 

 

14:08 – Brian (Host)

A few things I want to say. 

 

14:10 – Kayla (Host)

I know. So I’m reining you in because we promised this was not going to go there. I know. 

 

14:14 – Brian (Host)

I got kind of close. 

 

14:28 – Kayla (Host)

The challenge to me when situations like this arise, where I think back to and we will not dwell here, but I think back to the Starbucks Red Cup and how Christians lost their ever-loving mind over a Starbucks Red Cup. Yes, may we not be remembered for those types of moments where, as a believer, it even still sits with me and I chuckle on the inside. May we bring people to tears because they long for a faith that we have that makes them want to draw closer to him, because that’s the whole end game. Is the way I act, the way I react and y’all, I do not get this perfectly right. Not even once a day do I necessarily. 

 

15:13 – Brian (Host)

Well, you do pretty good. 

 

15:15 – Kayla (Host)

But I think I just I told you the other night after watching the opening ceremony yes, I was heart sick, I was some of what I saw. But we live in a broken world. We are broken people. May we chase so hard after Jesus that in doing that, our lives somehow inspire others to pursue him as well. 

 

15:43 – Brian (Host)

I have nothing to add to that Beautiful. 

 

15:46 – Kayla (Host)

Shall, we play some trivia. I thought you would like this. I like trivia. 

 

15:50 – Brian (Host)

You like these little games, I like these little games. Yeah, and you came up with the questions. 

 

15:56 – Kayla (Host)

I always do. 

 

15:59 – Brian (Host)

I had some in here every now and then. Well, you do? 

 

16:02 – Kayla (Host)

I left room for you to add some but you didn’t. You’ve had a little busy week, so I get it. What’s the first question? 

 

16:09 – Brian (Host)

If you had to participate in one Olympic sport, which would you choose? 

 

16:14 – Announcer (None)

I would choose gymnastics Because I was in gymnastics as a child and I hope it would come back to me. 

 

16:23 – Kayla (Host)

I want to talk about this a second. 

 

16:26 – Brian (Host)

When you dance, one leg moves and one finger goes up and down, how are you going to do gymnastics? 

 

16:34 – Kayla (Host)

Gymnastics is flipping and turning. It’s not If you can’t flip and turn. 

 

16:38 – Brian (Host)

if you can’t dance and you fell down the stairs a year ago. 

 

16:43 – Kayla (Host)

I’m feeling a little attacked. 

 

16:46 – Brian (Host)

What would yours be Swimming, I could float. Oh my gosh, I can’t run, flip, jump, nothing. I can’t pummel that horse or whatever it’s called. I can’t do any of that stuff. I’d float, but then every now and then I hope I wouldn’t get harpooned, though as I’m floating across the pool. 

 

17:10 – Kayla (Host)

Look Mom mom, it’s moby dick. You know it’s a whale. You you didn’t. Are you done? You didn’t find that? 

 

17:13 – Brian (Host)

no, okay, next name one item on your bucket list to be married to you for 50 years no you’re gonna say something like eat ice cream and all the disney cards well, that one’s a given. 

 

17:29 – Kayla (Host)

Um well, I’ll say another one do please, okay, I don’t know um, I will start then. Okay, I look forward to the day that we will do a cruise of europe oh, wow, well see, I got. 

 

17:45 – Brian (Host)

I’d like okay, I’d like to write a book about abraham a cruise of Europe. Oh, wow, well see, I’d like to write a book about Abraham Lincoln. 

 

17:51 – Kayla (Host)

Okay, nobody’s shocked by that. 

 

17:56 – Brian (Host)

I’d like to go back to Greece. I’d like to go back. Oh, greece was amazing. I’d like to go back to Switzerland, although we’ve been checking the temperatures in Greece and Rome, right now 98. 

 

18:07 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, they’re dying in Paris. It’s hot. 

 

18:09 – Brian (Host)

If you could eat only one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be For me? Fried chicken Every day, Every single day. 

 

18:20 – Kayla (Host)

See, I would say steak, mashed potatoes and rolls. 

 

18:23 – Brian (Host)

Oh, I get to like I thought it was just one food. I said meal, oh oh, fried chicken, rice and gravy. 

 

18:33 – Kayla (Host)

Okay. 

 

18:34 – Brian (Host)

I could eat rice every day of my life. 

 

18:36 – Kayla (Host)

Okay. 

 

18:36 – Brian (Host)

Okay. 

 

18:39 – Kayla (Host)

What scares you more? Failure or never trying? 

 

18:43 – Brian (Host)

Failure? Yeah, because I’m too dumb not to try. To try, I mean I’ll try, I mean I’ll. 

 

18:50 – Kayla (Host)

I could live with failure. I could not live with never trying I can’t. 

 

18:54 – Brian (Host)

Uh. Well, now I’m making me think this differently. I will try anything that doesn’t make me afraid. Failure scares me, so I will pivot. 

 

19:07 – Kayla (Host)

See, I’m more scared of having a wasted life. 

 

19:10 – Brian (Host)

Well, I guess that’s where. Okay, let me say this I don’t think I am wasting it, so I’m willing to try anything. 

 

19:19 – Kayla (Host)

This question’s really tripping you up. 

 

19:20 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, because here’s the thing I’ll do something twice, because I figured I did it wrong first time. 

 

19:26 – Kayla (Host)

Well then you’re not scared of failure. 

 

19:29 – Announcer (None)

Oh. 

 

19:30 – Kayla (Host)

You’d be more scared of never taking the risk. 

 

19:33 – Announcer (None)

True. 

 

19:33 – Brian (Host)

Yeah. 

 

19:34 – Kayla (Host)

Okay, what’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done? 

 

19:38 – Brian (Host)

Going to that gym the very first time. 

 

19:41 – Kayla (Host)

Mm-hmm, I can see that. 

 

19:44 – Brian (Host)

Was I supposed to say something else? 

 

19:45 – Kayla (Host)

no, I’m just that’s um yours marrying me. No, I would out for you. I would say I taught a cpr instructor’s class to 15 firemen one time and it was the most terrifying. When was this? Back in new orleans, when I was certified in cpr and first aid, I actually had to teach to become an instructor and I actually had to teach a class of firemen and it was terrifying, but second only to the first time I ever walked in your gym. That was the scariest thing I’ve ever done. 

 

20:30 – Brian (Host)

Our gym. If you had to learn another language, which would you choose? 

 

20:36 – Kayla (Host)

I would choose French because I think it’s such a beautiful language. 

 

20:41 – Brian (Host)

I would sound terrible, but I’ve had four years of training in german, so I would naturally lean toward no, no, you already know that you have to learn a language. No cheating I guess spanish okay, I don’t know any spanish, oh, I see I like spanish, any Spanish. 

 

21:01 – Kayla (Host)

Oh, I see I like Spanish. What is one character flaw you struggle to overlook? Don’t give any names, but I don’t want to say it’s the unforgivable, but what is one character flaw? That it’s just really. This is like confession time. 

 

21:18 – Brian (Host)

And myself or other people. 

 

21:19 – Kayla (Host)

Either no names. 

 

21:22 – Brian (Host)

And other people, people who never shut up. It’s like they don’t even stop and take a breath. It’s just, it’s like they’re circular, it’s like they got gills and they never have to stop. And they just keep going, and going, and going, ok, ok. 

 

21:42 – Kayla (Host)

For me, it’s people who lie. I really struggle with dishonest people, but one of my core values is integrity, so I just have to feel that what you’re saying is something that I can get behind, that it’s truthful, so yeah, so those are just some random trivia items. 

 

22:03 – Brian (Host)

That’s interesting, but what is one character flaw you struggle to overlook in yourself, in? 

 

22:09 – Kayla (Host)

myself. 

 

22:10 – Brian (Host)

I’ll start with me. Okay, flaw that I have is I can listen for a short amount of time and I struggle to listen for a really long amount of time and that aggravates me. You zone out, I zone out. 

 

22:26 – Kayla (Host)

A character flaw in myself is that and you have none. Oh, I have plenty. Okay, I’m actually going to give two no, because it’s something that I often struggle with Through this podcast. I never want to come across as self-righteous you don’t. But second of all, this is me answering the question.

 

22:48

I apologize the second one is I am my own worst critic yes, you are and I am constantly the person that’s telling myself that I got it all wrong and so learn. I’m learning to give myself credit. What was the good in that situation? Because my brain trends toward the kayla. You should have done this. You should have said that, you should have thought this out. Um, you’re the reason this happened. Blah, blah, blah. So yeah, that’s, that’s a character flaw in me I don’t’t think so. 

 

23:22 – Brian (Host)

Yeah, well, I can see where you struggle with that and it breaks my heart. Yeah. 

 

23:26 – Kayla (Host)

So, anyway, that’s enough confession for today. If you go to our website, which is peasandcarrotspodcastcom. And you answer the question correctly, you can win a whole like plethora of things. A mug and stickers and a notepad and a pen and all kind of stuff. A little post-it note. 

 

23:45 – Brian (Host)

Really. 

 

23:46 – Kayla (Host)

Yeah, it’s a little notepad of post-its. 

 

23:48 – Brian (Host)

So you go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom. When you get there, you click the trivia button. And what is this week’s trivia question? 

 

23:56 – Kayla (Host)

Which Olympic sport would you choose? So which Olympic sport would? 

 

24:02 – Brian (Host)

you choose to participate in, Go to our website peasandcarrotspodcastcom and click the trivia button and answer the question. 

 

24:10 – Kayla (Host)

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24:21 – Brian (Host)

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24:28 – Announcer (None)

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Season 3, Episode 20: Here’s Your Sign

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Here's Your Sign - Episode Description

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to come with their own set of caution labels? This week on the Peas and Carrots Podcast, we gear up for our much-anticipated vacation, sharing our quirky tradition of collecting crazy travel stories. Brian’s confessed addiction to Mexican food sparks a hilarious debate on the frequency and health implications of indulging in fajitas and chips. We also get nostalgic about the joy and immediate gratification of in-person shopping, lamenting the frustrations of the online retail world. To keep things interesting, we promise to return with some entertaining tales from our upcoming adventures.

Switching gears, we delve into the complexities of dealing with toxic individuals who should come with warning signs. From know-it-alls and drama magnets to the challenges of navigating political debates on social media, we share personal anecdotes and reflect on the importance of patience and self-preservation. We touch on the discomfort of family arguments and the draining nature of energy vampires while emphasizing the need for self-awareness and grace in our interactions. Wrapping up, we discuss the importance of embracing imperfections and finding laughter, inspired by a cherished father figure who taught us to stay grounded. Tune in for relatable discussions and plenty of laughs!

Here's Your Sign - Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Kayla

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. I’m Brian and I’m Kayla. 

 

0:00:16 – Brian

Here we are, here we are. You are so excited. She is bouncing off the walls. Yeah, her smile is from ear to ear. Her eyes are even smiling. 

 

0:00:27 – Kayla

This is my last official. 

 

0:00:29 – Brian

Full day. 

 

0:00:31 – Kayla

Well, I was going to say project oh, on my task list. 

 

0:00:35 – Brian

Oh. 

 

0:00:36 – Kayla

Before vacation. I mean, it is our last official full day before vacation, but yeah, so spoiler, we are recording ahead yes but yeah, we’re getting ready to leave in a few days on vacation but flying out of here, so we will have stories. You are a crazy magnet, so if anything crazy is going to happen, you attract it, so stay. That’s hurtful. It’s truthful, okay. Well, there’s just gravity. Tell me someone who would say that’s wrong. B you come back with the best stories from vacations. 

 

0:01:14 – Brian

I think I have, because I’m such a large body, I have gravity and it attracts people to me, so I think that’s what’s going on. I need to make a confession. 

 

0:01:26 – Kayla

Okay. 

 

0:01:26 – Brian

Okay, and this is a big deal for me. I want everybody, okay, to sit down. Okay, I’m addicted to Mexican food. Okay, you thought? 

 

0:01:38 – Kayla

I was going to do something. I wasn’t sure where we were going there, fajitas, and how is that a problem I’m trying to understand. 

 

0:01:46 – Brian

Enchiladas. What is that thing we get when we go Fajitas? 

 

0:01:49 – Kayla

We do fajitas for two Chicken. 

 

0:01:53 – Brian

But I could eat. How often per week could you eat Mexican food? 

 

0:01:57 – Kayla

Oh, probably three times a week, but it’s not the greatest for us, I mean, if we skip the chips, and Well, where’s the fun in that? That’s what I was going to say. 

 

0:02:08 – Brian

I read the other day if you eat four baskets of chips, or you eat two baskets of chips, it’s like eating 30 tortillas, holy cow. I don’t know if that’s accurate or not. 

 

0:02:18 – Kayla

Well, aren’t they fried tortillas? Isn’t that what the chips are? 

 

0:02:22 – Brian

Maybe, but I think so. Yeah, no, but it ain’t 30 of them. I don’t think so, anyway, so anyway. Is anybody else addicted to like the Mexican food? 

 

0:02:37 – Kayla

I think most of America Okay. 

 

0:02:39 – Brian

Yeah. 

 

0:02:40 – Kayla

So you’ve had an interesting experience lately. We needed some parts for our grill and we needed some parts for some other things around the house. You are running into one. It’s the same issue over and over. You cannot get the part and you’re having to order it. 

 

0:02:58 – Brian

I’m having to order, and what? 

 

0:03:00 – Kayla

did you declare that you would like to be able to do? 

 

0:03:02 – Brian

To go back in the store and buy things To find what you need in the store. I’m tired of waiting five, six, seven, ten days. 

 

0:03:13 – Kayla

And then it gets lost in the mail and it gets lost in the mail. 

 

0:03:19 – Brian

I have to contact the people who sold it and I’ve heard that from a few friends and I’m wondering if in a few years now this might take a few years, not going to happen overnight if there might slowly be a desire for a return to like in-person retail. 

 

0:03:33 – Kayla

I actually read not long ago that retailers are making clear their demands that they want to go back to store. 

 

0:03:42 – Brian

Really Mm-hmm. You mean shoppers have made that clear that they want to go back to the store. Yeah, well, I would do that. I would like that, because now I do like the option to see before I go to the store if they have what I’m looking for. 

 

0:03:58 – Kayla

Yeah, but what I’m saying is the retailers are finding out that consumers are they’re you. They are disgruntled with the online experience. They want to be able to go in the store, to have it immediately, to have more options, to experience the whole experience again, not just sitting at their keyboard and ordering something and hoping it works. It was almost like it was a revelation to those that run the stores. 

 

0:04:30 – Brian

We’ve got to rethink our inventory and our and a lot of times our stuff will go through like North Carolina. 

 

0:04:37 – Kayla

Oh, we’ll go with God. 

 

0:04:39 – Brian

And if it goes through a certain place North Carolina, it’ll sit there for five days. 

 

0:04:42 – Kayla

It’ll sit there for five days. 

 

0:04:44 – Brian

I could drive down there and get that package and have it back by the time that they do. I’m not kidding, I mean, this is grumpy old man venting here, so you feel better Well. 

 

0:04:55 – Kayla

I want them to fix it Anyway stay tuned, some great stories coming soon. 

 

0:05:03 – Brian

Caution signs. You ever what does that mean? You ever been driving along the road and it says caution ahead. And then, and then you drive, you drive and there’s a few things there that you know it could be a wreck. It could be that they’re doing world road work, World road work, Spit it out. So there you go. So have you ever encountered someone that should have come with a caution sign? 

 

0:05:34 – Kayla

Oh ouch. 

 

0:05:36 – Brian

I wish people came with like warning labels, you know. 

 

0:05:40 – Kayla

I feel like some days maybe I need one. No, I mean, there are moments, but what do you mean by this? 

 

0:05:49 – Brian

give me an example people who are never wrong. Oh okay, yeah, now I need to say something here. 30 years ago, Brian Sanders was not wrong about anything life has a way of knocking that out of you doesn’t it? 

 

I mean, I would argue like theology, I’d argue with, I mean, the finest points of it Today, oh, we agree on, like the Apostles’ Creed and the gospel. You’re good to go, bro, move along. People want to sit, you know, we believe in like infant baptism, because we are Presbyterian, yeah, and then we have other friends who don’t. 

 

0:06:29 – Kayla

They believe in immersion and we have no issue with that. 

 

0:06:31 – Brian

I have no issue with that, but they’re like well, you’re sinning when you do that. Now listen, look of all the sins I could commit. If that’s a sin, I’m going to be OK. 

 

0:06:42 – Kayla

So I’ve got one. Be okay, so I’ve got one. Those who refuse to listen to other people’s viewpoints about anything, not just religion. But they have fixed their mind and they are not even willing to give audience to someone else’s point of view. 

 

0:06:58 – Brian

That’s why I am so nervous about being on social media as we enter this political season, because there’s going to be so much back and forth and people not listening to each other. 

 

0:07:08 – Kayla

So a normal day on Facebook, a normal day, just a normal. 

 

0:07:13 – Brian

I remember one time I mean speaking of this people refuse to listen to other people’s viewpoints. We were at one of our favorite restaurants about three or four years ago during the first election and you remember that family. They were sitting there and they had a knockdown drag out. 

 

0:07:28 – Kayla

I do remember that Yelling at each other. Yeah, it was very uncomfortable. 

 

0:07:32 – Brian

And they wouldn’t listen to each other’s viewpoints. Yeah, you don’t have to agree to somebody, but you don’t have to be a jerk about it, but show respect, just hear someone out. 

 

0:07:41 – Kayla

It doesn’t mean that you have to buy into everything that they’re saying. 

 

0:07:46 – Brian

But yeah, 100%, 100%. Here’s another one People who think that they’ve learned all there is to learn. There’s a famous quote I love that says be the dumbest person in the room and if you’re not, go find a new room. 

 

0:08:02 – Kayla

I read a book recently and it’s by Shauna Niequist and I think I actually referenced it here. It’s called I Guess I Haven’t Learned that Yet and it was a great book, and it just reminded me that we are all a work in progress. We’re all realizing things about the world around us, about each other, about ourselves. All realizing things about the world around us, about each other, about ourselves, and hopefully it helps us to change and grow in the areas that we need to change and grow. But those people scare me. Yeah, I’ve got another one. This one, you know me. This one is like high on the list for me Drama magnets. 

 

I am not a fan of drama. If it’s a legit like house on fire situation, I’m here for it, I’ll be there. 

 

0:08:51 – Brian

But if it’s like everything in your life is constantly chaotic and Let me say this there are people who think they have to create drama in order to get attention. 

 

0:09:01 – Kayla

Yes. 

 

0:09:02 – Brian

That drives me up a wall. Now let me say this I still try to be patient. Yeah, I’m not perfect. 

 

0:09:08 – Kayla

But I find something in my brain just flipping off from the situation. I just find myself just You’re flipping off your brain. 

 

0:09:15 – Brian

You’re not flipping off the people. 

 

0:09:17 – Kayla

Yes, okay. Because you were one word away there from Maybe we’ll say switching off. 

 

0:09:25 – Brian

Sorry. 

 

0:09:25 – Kayla

Yeah, behave. I kind of zone out, I just I get to the point where I think it’s a self-preservation thing that I just switch off. Better choice of words, sorry, and I can’t deal now because I want to. I want to absorb what’s going on, I want to fix what’s, and I just can’t always do that. It’s too heavy. 

 

0:09:50 – Brian

I want to I want to fix what’s happening, yeah, and resolve it, move on, yeah. And let me say this we’re not saying that like we’re perfect. 

 

0:09:59 – Kayla

We’re far oh, we’re coming to that, okay, we have. 

 

0:10:01 – Brian

Oh, we are. Yeah, I was just trying to do that one blank. I didn’t know it was going to get all detailed. Now we’re going to keyboard warriors, drive me up a wall. 

 

0:10:10 – Kayla

We’ve experienced some of those experience. 

 

0:10:13 – Brian

Uh, when I wrote my first book, leadership endurance, we met with a market each agency who actually walked us through this and said you need to be prepared, there’s going to be keyboard warriors. And I thought it’s a book about leadership, it’s Lincoln and FDR and Grant and yet Churchill, there’s not going to be anybody man. A lot of people got upset with me because I included FDR, I included Lincoln. I mean, people hate Lincoln, people hate FDR. Really, these people are dead. Yeah, they saved the nation and I’m just like wow. 

 

0:10:48 – Kayla

So I will actually share at this moment why I shut down my Facebook page. You know this Very few people know this. When you became an author and your book came out, I got some really nasty private messages, and you know that. Yeah, I got some really nasty private messages and you know that I got accused of being a joke of a wife that if I really loved you, I would take better care of you, I would cook healthy meals, I would make sure that you had a support system in place so that you would not be the size you were. I was accused of either oversharing about the book or undersharing about the book. It’s like I could never find the right balance to please people and I just got to the place where it was not what was happening in the day to day, believe it or not. I could kind of step over all the political banter and all the other stuff. It was the toxic private message and I realized I’m not here for this. I didn’t sign on for this and so I shut down. 

 

0:11:54 – Brian

Facebook. Do you miss it? I? 

 

0:11:55 – Kayla

don’t, I don’t even think about it, I really don’t. So, yeah, which lends to another one for me, someone who is often I’m going to throw in that key word often rude or ill-mannered, because there are days when we all have an off day and we may come across as-, but some people have them every single day. But if you’re constantly incapable of saying please and thank you, you or you’re not able to show kindness and general respect to someone else, if it’s just your nature to be just obnoxious, yeah yeah. 

 

0:12:37 – Brian

It, just it actually helped me with this. Now, I’m not trying to be rude, but like we’ll be somewhere and I’ll ask for like a refill of like a Coke Zero and it’s my grandmother coming out, that’s fine. But I try to say it kindly. 

 

0:12:52 – Kayla

You always say it kindly. 

 

0:12:53 – Brian

But as they walk away, you say say please, say please. And so I do, and so you would always. 

 

0:13:00 – Kayla

I was so proud of your tone and again, tone matters a lot. But you would say, could I have a refill or could I trouble you for? But I’m like say please, because my grandmother, she has refused meals to people before for a lack of please and thank you and tone’s a topic we could, we could, we could spend a whole other subject. 

 

0:13:22 – Brian

You do that, and then my executive assistant, Adam Read. I’ll be in meetings. 

 

0:13:27 – Kayla

What will he tell you to do? 

 

0:13:29 – Brian

I’ll be in a meeting for like 20, 30 minutes with a group of people and he’ll send me a text. It’ll have one word. You know what that word is, don’t you? 

 

0:13:36 – Kayla

Smile. 

 

0:13:37 – Brian

Smile, because you get so serious looking and I’m just, I mean, I don’t think I’m sitting there scowling at people, you know, but there you go. 

 

0:13:46 – Kayla

What’s another one for? 

 

0:13:47 – Brian

you Self-righteous people. Oh this is a big one for you. Huge Brian Sanders is who he is, at Walmart, Target and at church. If I’m flawed at Walmart and Target, I’m going to be flawed at church. If I say something inappropriate at Walmart and church, I’m going to say something inappropriate at church. That’s why I don’t want to be different people. I want to be the same person everywhere I go. I want to be authentic and I can’t stand plastic Christianity. 

 

I can’t stand plastic. Christianity Can’t stand fakeness. And again, I’ve got my own sides to it. I mean there are parts of me like when I have to put on my best face and have to smile, and like when I’m done with. There’s times when I’m done like, okay, I’m done with this, can we move this along? No, so I got to say I mean there’s sides to me that I still have to work on. But I think that self-righteousness does more harm to the kingdom than it does grow it. 

 

0:14:51 – Kayla

This is a huge caution sign for me, and you know this Someone who’s projecting their elitism, superiority or status on someone else. Something my daddy taught us from knee high is do not forget your roots, and what he meant by that was no matter how big your britches get, do not forget where you came from. 

 

And I am so challenged to engage people when they are just giving off this air of, well, I have more money, or I have more social status, or I’m more educated, or the list goes on. I’m not comfortable in environments where someone likes to project their status is better than everyone else. 

 

0:15:47 – Brian

Folks who are a wet blanket get on my nerves, like you. 

 

0:15:50 – Kayla

It wears you down, yours, and because I can’t. 

 

0:15:54 – Brian

I have to have some positivity. 

 

0:15:56 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:15:56 – Brian

I need somebody who’s a little bit happy. Now let me say this I don’t want to be around Tigger all day, but I wouldn’t mind a little time when we poo bit happy. Now let me say this I don’t want to be around Tigger all day either, but I wouldn’t mind a little time of ween, poo and rabbit. Okay, but Al drives me up the wall. We talked about that last week, but Eeyore. 

 

0:16:10 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:16:11 – Brian

Well, I’m going to go in the corner and die and I want to say you want to set an alarm clock? Oh, I, just that’s my imperfection coming out. Yeah, but I can’t. It just kills me, it just drives me up. 

 

0:16:27 – Kayla

No, I see that Well, it drains you. It’s like it sucks the life out of your battery. 

 

0:16:32 – Brian

Energy vampires. 

 

0:16:33 – Kayla

Yeah, I have one more and I have to give a shout out to our friend Tara. I asked her. I said if you were to come up with one of these, what would you say? And for her it was people who overshare. Get right up in your face and they just they tell you their whole life and you may know them for like 10 minutes. And they tell you, or they’re telling you intimate details of things. That it just makes it very uncomfortable. 

 

0:16:58 – Brian

When I was five, I actually burnt our house down. My parents still don’t know it to this day. Really, I don’t need to know that. I don’t need that kind of guilt on my conscience. Okay, please don’t tell me that. 

 

0:17:10 – Kayla

But let’s bring this back though, because it may sound like we are really ragging on some people. We are these people, so let’s just start here. 

 

0:17:20 – Brian

On any given day I can be prone to overshare and I and you can. You can say this I will get whenever we leave social functions, I’ll get in the truck and sometimes what’s? 

 

0:17:31 – Kayla

the first thing I say to you I said too much. 

 

0:17:32 – Brian

I said too much you. 

 

0:17:33 – Kayla

you are plagued by that. Oh, and we have actually learned a secret code with each other where there is a certain look that I will give you if I feel like you’ve hit that threshold. Not that one. 

 

0:17:45 – Brian

Not that look. 

 

0:17:46 – Kayla

This one is, I’m kind of reminding you OK, be kind of hit the brakes so that you feel comfortable when you leave that situation. There’s a couple of key truths we want to say, first one being this All of sin will fall short of the glory of God. None of us are perfect, no. 

 

0:18:03 – Brian

I mean, I’m loud, I’m boisterous, I can overshare, I can be judgmental of people. I may not argue with you in person, but I may get in. I’ll be honest. I can get in my truck and say Lord, have mercy, what an idiot. I’m just saying, I’m being real Maybe that’s too honest. 

 

0:18:32 – Kayla

But to that point we’re kind of in jest sharing these, because we all at some point wear these caution signs and let he who is without sin cast the first stone. And I mean there are days that I’m a number of these.

 

0:18:43 – Brian

I shouldn’t get in the truck and call somebody Well probably not, but because that lends to. I need to ask myself a question Am I mindful in the ways in which I need to be sanctified? Am I mindful of my weak areas, where Christ still needs to do a lot of work on me? Yeah, not just a little bit of work, but a lot of work. 

 

0:19:06 – Kayla

Here’s another question that I often ask myself Am I involved enough in this person’s life that perhaps I should speak some truth and love? Should I help them to see their caution signs? If I’m going to do that, Iron sharpens iron. Again, this is. There’s a key phrase Am I involved enough in this person’s life? And then the spirit has to speak into whether it’s mine to do this or not. 

 

0:19:33 – Brian

Now, unlike leadership issues with, like, those who report to me, yes, I will address certain issues. Yeah, personal issues. Yeah, personal issues. Yeah, there’s probably three, four people in the world. I feel like I am close enough to that I can address certain issues. 

 

0:19:52 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:19:53 – Brian

And one of them. I still want to be able to sleep in my own house. 

 

0:20:00 – Kayla

Fair enough. Oh, all right, then I’m guessing we’re having a conversation. 

 

0:20:08 – Brian

Because I don’t ever have to, because you are near perfect, oh, whatever. You’re like Mary Poppins. 

 

0:20:13 – Kayla

Oh. 

 

0:20:14 – Brian

Practically perfect in every way. 

 

0:20:15 – Kayla

Here’s another question I ask myself Am I comfortable with just embracing the flawed parts of other people? Because, back to my, I guess I haven’t learned that yet. We are all hopefully growing and changing. Life has a way of when you were talking about 30 years ago, you felt like you knew everything. We all go through seasons that really humble us, take the wind out of our sails, teach us a different perspective, hopefully mature us and are we willing to let God be God sometimes and let him be the one that reveals those caution signs? So, yeah, may we not leave you thinking that we’re sitting here, going well, we are perfect, and everyone else is going around with caution, because there are many, many days that when I’m doing my journaling at night, I’m realizing I’ve got a lot to repent for. 

 

0:21:15 – Brian

No, no, I think you’re am got a lot to repent for. No, no, I think you’re. Am I comfortable with embracing flawed parts of others? It’s according to oh gosh, it’s so. So y’all don’t think less of me. It’s according to what that flawed part is. That’s horrible of me to admit. It’s honest. If they’re a little rough around the edges, I’ll probably get along with them. If they’re mopey and you’re, I’m going to have to. I’m sorry. 

 

0:21:41 – Kayla

You’re going to find a way to remove yourself from that? 

 

0:21:43 – Brian

Yes, that’s awful, but at the same time I can’t be everything to everybody. I’m not Jesus and I don’t see how he does it. That’s a little too honest. Not who does it, that’s a little too honest. 

 

0:21:53 – Kayla

Not at all. Oversharing there it is right there, so anyway. But yeah. 

 

0:21:58 – Brian

There’s our hearts on a platter today. We getting Mexican food later. I didn’t know it was going to be all this kind of personal. Last week’s podcast you had me crying. Now I’m all guts out on the page, okay, so there you go. 

 

0:22:22 – Kayla

So laughter is good for the soul and we have had a few things to laugh at recently. I love to laugh, so our friends Adam and Ronda they are with our WCQR station yep, they did some face swap videos. I and I have not laughed that hard in a very long time they put faces on, that look like Shrek and that Shrek’s wife and then they swapped faces and it was like that software where you can it’s hilarious I mean my cheeks hurt from we may have to do this for our peace and care yeah, this is something you want to do, but we’ll see. 

 

So you were going one Saturday morning. You went to get breakfast for us and what did you see? 

 

0:23:02 – Brian

in our town I was driving back and this truck full of stuff in the bed of the truck also had a trailer in the bed of the truck. There’s these two huge. Now y’all. When I say huge, I mean 30-foot wide and 20-foot-long Frankenstein feet in the bed of the truck. 

 

And then in the trailer was like a 50-foot plastic snake, disassembled, five skeletons and what looked like a body wrapped up in a rug. Well, I took a picture of that and put it on our town Facebook page Everything Christiansburg and I said meanwhile in Christiansburg. That post went viral. There’s like 300 people. 

 

0:23:49 – Kayla

And didn’t the driver actually post, oh, so embarrassed. 

 

0:23:53 – Brian

The woman that it belonged to saw the post and commented that there were no bodies there were no bodies on the trailer oh, I wanted. 

 

0:24:04 – Kayla

We laughed so hard. 

 

0:24:06 – Brian

When I read her comment I wanted to crawl under the desk. 

 

0:24:10 – Kayla

We’ve also been able to laugh with friends lately. We’ve also been able to laugh with friends lately. We’ve been able to reminisce with some friends about their mom, who passed away several years ago, and stories about my grandma and there is some healing balm in being able to remember your people. 

 

If someone is grieving, share the story because it does something for their heart that you haven’t forgotten their person. And watching this family as we were sitting there sharing stories about their mom, you could tell that it just was really blessing them that their mom had not been forgotten. And so, yeah, do that. 

 

0:24:55 – Brian

It was during the pandemic and it was near the end of it. We had not gone back to restaurants yet, yeah, but we had agreed we were going to order takeout from a particular restaurant here in town that does ribs and that kind of stuff. 

 

0:25:07 – Kayla

Well, we had learned that they had some very serious protocols in place for picking up meals, how the food was handled, all this kind of stuff. So you decided to surprise me with dinner one night. 

 

0:25:20 – Brian

And you are sitting at the table. I will never forget this image as long as I live. You’re sitting at the table, in one hand you got a fork, in the other hand you got a knife. And I pull back and there’s ribs in there and you start dancing. That little fork and knife start going up and down and your little body starts going left to right and I said, baby, are you excited? And you said was I dancing? I said yes, and you said yes, I’m excited about this. 

 

0:25:48 – Kayla

So it’s become my thing now. So that I will do a little jig when I like a meal. 

 

0:25:52 – Brian

You said the first meal. In four months I haven’t had to cook little jig when I like a meal. 

 

0:25:56 – Kayla

You said the first meal in four months I haven’t had to cook. Yes, yes. 

 

0:26:01 – Brian

So yeah, you get tickled at me because now, if I’m excited about a meal, I will do this little jig as of this recording. I was in Lynchburg, Virginia, yesterday for some business meetings and two of my leaders were there. 

 

And you guys went to lunch together at a Mexican restaurant were there and you guys went to lunch together at a Mexican restaurant and the waiter asked us if we wanted the lunch portion or the regular portion or the dinner portion. And so Adam Reed, he always orders the smaller portion. So me and Doug just said regular because we thought that meant the dinner portion portion they bring out like a dog bowl of food. Let me just say this First of all they bring Adam Reed he got a chimichanga lunch. That chimichanga had to be three inches long and like a half inch wide. It was the most pitiful thing I’ve ever seen in my life. And then me and Doug we both got this steak over rice with cheese and it was like five bites. 

 

0:26:59 – Kayla

Is that why you were so hungry for dinner? 

 

0:27:01 – Brian

I was starving yesterday and so we all got done. We were done eating in, like you know, five minutes. And we’re sitting there and Adam Reed says why didn’t you order something else? You don’t like pigs? Oh, if I’m at a Mexican restaurant, I don’t you order something else. 

 

0:27:15 – Kayla

You don’t look like pigs. Oh, if I’m at a Mexican restaurant I don’t care, well bring it. 

 

0:27:20 – Brian

You’re going to be eating 40 fajitas later. 40, call them things 40. What do you call them Fajitas? Is that what it’s called? Tortillas, tortillas, tortillas 56 has been rough on me, so anyway. 

 

0:27:38 – Kayla

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0:28:02 – Brian

You’ll get a mug pen, notepad and a pack of stickers. This week’s question is oh, I’ve got to think of one. Okay, so you go to our website, peasandcarrotspodcast.com. When you get there, click the trivia question and this is this week’s question. 

 

0:28:21 – Kayla

What is your favorite restaurant of choice? 

 

0:28:25 – Brian

Oh, oh, that’s a good question. 

 

0:28:28 – Kayla

Why? Thank you, that’s good. So, yeah, go to peasandcarrotspodcast.com. Click the trivia button. Share with us what is your favorite restaurant of choice. You can give us that information and any other stories you’d like to share with us. If you’ve had a good laugh lately, share that with us Share it and we will send you a notepad, some stickers, a mug and some pens. 

 

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Season 3, Episode 17: It’s A Trap

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It's A Trap - Episode Description

In the Peas and Carrots Podcast episode titled “Embracing Life’s Journey: From Cabo Fish Taco to Summer Adventures,” hosts Brian and Kayla Sanders share their experiences and insights on living a meaningful life. They discuss the importance of embracing your unique path without falling into the trap of comparing your journey to others.

From delighting in a newfound favorite restaurant to funny incidents that remind them of the aging process, they offer a heartwarming and humorous take on life’s adventures and the significance of companionship. The episode also delves into navigating life as a couple with differing habits and preferences, preparing for the summer season, and staying connected with friends.

It's A Trap - Transcript

0:00:00 – Announcer

We go together like Peas and Carrots. The Peas and Carrots Podcast, sharing life from our piece of the vegetable patch, Brian and Kayla Sanders. 

 

0:00:11 – Kayla

Welcome to the peas and carrots podcast. I’m Brian and. 

 

0:00:14 – Brian

I’m Kayla. Welcome to our piece of the vegetable patch. Mm-hmm, we haven’t had any insecticide put on a shift this season. 

 

0:00:23 – Kayla

Gee boy I’m running a little bit late this morning, y’all I just put on my headphones. 

 

0:00:30 – Brian

I’ve been at the dealership dealing with taking care of my car. 

 

0:00:35 – Kayla

I appreciate that. So the semester has officially ended. We had our last home group yesterday evening. We transitioned to our summer schedule at work today. 

 

0:00:46 – Brian

We had barbecue last night and a little veggie salad, which was wonderful. 

 

0:00:51 – Kayla

Yeah. 

 

0:00:52 – Brian

Mozzarella and tomatoes and cucumbers. It was wonderful. 

 

0:00:55 – Kayla

Lots of laughs and fun times. 

 

0:00:57 – Brian

It was good times, little baby. 

 

0:00:59 – Kayla

Joanna was there. 

 

0:01:03 – Brian

Who makes everybody happy? 

 

0:01:05 – Kayla

Yes, she does, and I was nice last night I let I let other people snuggle her. 

 

0:01:10 – Brian

Did you get to snuggle? 

 

0:01:11 – Kayla

No, but that’s OK. 

 

0:01:14 – Brian

OK, I can deal. 

 

0:01:16 – Kayla

I will next time. 

 

0:01:17 – Brian

OK. 

 

0:01:19 – Kayla

We’ve lived here 20 years. 

 

0:01:20 – Brian

What is something new that? 

 

0:01:21 – Kayla

we did this week be for the first. I mean, it’s not a new restaurant, but where did we go this week? 

 

0:01:29 – Brian

A restaurant, yes, called Cabo Fish Taco, and I am in love with this place. 

 

0:01:36 – Kayla

Now confess what’s been your thoughts about it for 20 years, until. 

 

0:01:41 – Brian

Who would eat a fish taco? You loved it. Oh, they did this thing called a Baja Bowl. It had grilled shrimp, rice, black beans and some veggies. 

 

0:01:53 – Kayla

But the ambiance of the restaurant reminded us of where. 

 

0:01:57 – Brian

New. 

 

0:01:57 – Kayla

Orleans yeah. 

 

0:01:58 – Brian

It was great. 

 

0:01:59 – Kayla

So we’ll be going back. 

 

0:02:01 – Brian

It even smelled like New Orleans a little bit it did yeah. Not that that’s an endearing smell, but it smelled like New Orleans a little bit, so I enjoyed it was great we got to visit with some of our dearest friends, yep, so mine and mike’s reason for existence is to put you and Wanda together. That’s the reason why we my bestie, so yeah, we went to a. We went to Harrisonburg. There’s a great pizza place there in downtown. I can’t remember the name Bella Luna. Bella Luna, yeah. 

 

0:02:30 – Kayla

If you are ever there, it’s what do they call it? Wood-fired pizza. It’s wonderful. 

 

0:02:37 – Brian

And I can get one that’s allergen-free and it’s great. 

 

0:02:40 – Kayla

But we had a great day with them and got to catch up after fundraising season, so yeah, I think we were the loudest people in Barnes and Noble, I think we were, but that’s okay. We sat in the cafe. Sorry, not sorry. So yeah, it was fun. 

 

0:02:53 – Brian

So we were at a restaurant last weekend. 

 

0:02:57 – Kayla

Not Cabo, and we won’t say where. 

 

0:03:00 – Brian

Okay, and we’d finished our meal. Waitress comes up to bring us the ticket. She slicked at both of us and said do y’all have an AARP discount? 

 

0:03:29 – Kayla

And your reaction. You didn’t say anything to her, but your eyes got as big as saucers and your jaw hit the table a little bit. She could not see my face, but yes, I’m still recovering. But yeah, I mean you don’t look a day over 29, but it’s oh come on, but it’s my beard, it’s my goatee, that and my gray hair and yeah, but anyway, beautiful, I’m healing from that. It’s my goatee and my gray hair. Yeah, but anyway, beautiful, I’m healing from that. 

 

0:03:49 – Brian

But I got to be honest. It’s the first time ever we’ve been asked. 

 

0:03:54 – Kayla

And I hope it’s the last time ever. It’s the first time we’ve ever been asked. 

 

0:03:58 – Brian

Do y’all have an AARP discount? I have to say so. Here’s where we are. 

 

0:04:05 – Kayla

So I was visiting with a friend the other day and she made a comment about the stage of life that she’s in and how hard it is not to compare herself to others in the same stage and feeling like maybe she’s not getting it right or she’s coming up short, and it led me to think about an ongoing topic that we all have with ourselves, which is the trap of comparison. 

 

0:04:35 – Brian

I do this all. 

 

0:04:36 – Kayla

We all do it, and so here’s a few gentle reminders for all of us, our first one being this their journey is not your journey. At our gym, each of us has our own fitness plan and it’s catered to what our goals are and what our needs are and, honestly, what my capabilities are. But it’s easy for me to fall prey to feeling inferior to others in that gym who are doing things that would probably break bones in my body. But I have to remind myself you have goals. You have a plan crafted by your trainer, which is what’s safe for you, it’s what’s good for you, and just chase hard after that. Don’t get distracted by what other people are able to accomplish or not accomplish. 

 

0:05:26 – Brian

When we joined the gym, I started following our gym on Instagram. It’s called Trouble Wellness, and as soon as I started following them, Instagram starts recommending training videos, and there’s these people on there who have six-pack abs. Well, I don’t even have a one pack ab I mean, I haven’t seen my ab since probably month three of my birth. 

 

Okay, so it just I’m being serious, so I can’t even feel them. But here’s the thing, like those videos, like whenever they come up, first some of them made me uncomfortable, so I’m like you know, I don’t want to see this. So they’re little x. And then, over time, I’m like I have to check myself because I can’t compare myself to this you’re not meant to. 

 

0:06:16 – Kayla

Yeah, you know, but it is. I mean we all do it follow. 

 

0:06:19 – Brian

You know I need to watch videos of people my age, my size trying to work out and die. That that’s what I need. 

 

0:06:25 – Kayla

Just today I was rowing and a guy came and sat down next to me and was rowing and I realized do not try to keep his pace. He’s like six foot five and he’s a dude. 

 

0:06:39 – Brian

So I had to tell myself your pace is what you’re meant to do, so yeah, Also, early in our marriage, we made a big decision and a series of decisions, and one of those is this we’re not going to keep up with others. Nope, we’re going to do life our way, yep, on our pace, yep, and just do things like that. Because I would love to collect antique books. I would love to do that, but in the back of my mind there’s a voice that says stuff is fleeting. Now there are some antique books that, like, people have given me that I keep. Well, sure, but stuff is fleeting and I’m not going to pour money, a lot of money, into stuff. That is like fleeting. 

 

0:07:27 – Kayla

We like making memories. 

 

0:07:29 – Brian

So there’s. I think this is a quote from Dave Ramsey. He says live today like no one else. So you can one day live like no one else. 

 

0:07:39 – Kayla

Yeah. And I think now we would like to retire one day. We love our ministry, we love what we do, but we don’t want to work full time until the day we drop, God willing. Our goals are to have enough to just live comfortably when that time comes, not to spend every dime that comes in every month. Another goal of ours was to make sure that we capture experiences, not things. Now, don’t get me wrong. We have nice things in our home. We’re not, you know, living with one set of clothes, and you know one book. 

 

But at the same time we don’t feel the need to. Oh well, this person went here on vacation, so now we have to. Yeah, that doesn’t or they have this kind of house, so now we have to have one. 

 

Or oh, they’re driving this kind of car. So now we have to. We have never. I mean, it’s just not who we are, and I’m good with that. I’m very comfortable with what B and K want out of life, and it’s worthy to sit down with your partner and say what are our goals, what are our dreams, and then let that drive you, not the latest version of whatever. But Ask yourself what season are we in? I’m just going to be really honest. 

 

0:08:59 – Brian

Well, spring has just sprung by us, because right now it’s hot. 

 

0:09:03 – Kayla

We went straight to summer but, I’m referring to a different kind of season. Okay, so right now our home is less than spotless. Our home is great we’re going to talk about that in a little while. Our garden’s kind of disheveled I plan to work on that this weekend, and we have literally not had a meal plan for eight weeks. No joke, give yourself grace for whatever outside factors you are navigating that have you in the season of life that you’re in. Maybe your home isn’t meant to be your priority party. We were working literally 60-hour weeks for six weeks and it was everything we could do to go from start to finish, go home literally wash, rinse, repeat ourselves and the day and today we’re feeling I’m just I mean yeah, we’re, we’re pretty tired but, but in that six the house is still standing. 

 

And it looks great the garden will get done at some point. 

 

0:10:02 – Brian

It’s all going to be fine. 

 

0:10:03 – Kayla

But don’t look around at other people’s day to day and feel like you’ve got to keep up with that. 

 

0:10:11 – Brian

Well, I’m going to say to this is there are times when you just simply have to focus on the task at hand, yeah, and everything else kind of falls to the side, and then, when you complete that task, everything else can come back into view. So I think that’s a healthy perspective. 

 

0:10:28 – Kayla

Yeah, it’s called finding balance where you can, and sometimes that’s what it looks like. A couple of quick hit reminders. You were chosen to do that job. You’re not chosen to do what they’re doing. God called you to the specific job he’s gifted you. You were given that child, or those children. 

 

0:10:48 – Brian

Let’s not waste the energy. They’re your children too. 

 

0:10:51 – Kayla

Let me just go ahead and say, oh my gosh, I probably shouldn’t have said that. Well, that was a little honest, but you didn’t mention names, so I think we’re good, let’s leave it there. Okay, it’s easy to look at how someone else is raising their children, or the work that you feel someone else is doing that’s more impactful, or that maybe their kids just seem more well-rounded, or it could go on and on and on. Or they seem to have their life together and their kid’s on a schedule and yours isn’t, or it doesn’t matter. That’s not what God’s blessed you with. May we never forget what he’s doing in our lives, rather than setting our sights on someone else’s. 

 

0:11:36 – Brian

You need to remember and this is something that I struggle with, but I have some stuff in my iPhone notes that remind me of this is that you are made uniquely in the image of Christ yeah, he didn’t make a carbon copy, and so lean into that, lean into the fact that he chose you before the foundation of the world yeah, lean into the fact that you have value yes, that because you are made in his image. And lean into your talents and abilities and what brings joy, and if you do that, that will lead to some contentment and peace. Yeah, don’t try and find that outside of his purpose for you, outside of his why he’s made you. 

 

0:12:16 – Kayla

Yeah, I have found for myself the more that I lean into who I was created to be in Christ, the less anxiety I have, the more my nervous system settles. The more we are chasing after things that God did not intend for us, the more unsettled we’re going to be, because until we feel right in him, all of those things are just going to wear us out. You were given this one life. Don’t waste it trying to live someone else’s life. 

 

0:12:52 – Brian

But we get so unsatisfied with where we are. 

 

0:12:57 – Kayla

And what is it that Barnabas piper taught us? We are unsatisfied unsatisfiable people. 

 

0:13:01 – Brian

yeah, we are unsatisfiable people. We’re also part of a world economy that generates sales and income. Oh, absolutely, making you unsatisfied with what you have, yep, so that you’ll buy something else? Yeah, I’ll never forget. We spent Christmas with some family one year and they had little ones, and Christmas morning it was a joy. They were just all into it, just all. Well, the next day, December 26th, we all went to the stores and those kids, they just screamed and begged for toys and I’ll never forget that. Their dad said you just got all new toys yesterday and that little one said that was yesterday. I’ve never forgotten that and that’s an indictment of all of our hearts. So, be who you were made to be and lean into who he created you to be. Well, this is going to be fun, as I studied for this. This is him versus her. Can I ask a question? Why did you put him versus her instead of her versus him? 

 

0:14:14 – Kayla

Well, I don’t know. 

 

0:14:15 – Brian

Okay, it just kind of sets me up as being the one against you. 

 

0:14:19 – Kayla

Oh, we’re not against each other, yet, you’ll see. Yet this could end differently. 

 

0:14:24 – Brian

World War III about to happen, all right. 

 

0:14:36 – Kayla

One of yet. This could end differently. 

 

0:14:37 – Brian

World war three about to happen all right, one of us likes details oh my word and one of us drowns in them, maybe? No, I think we have figured out the non-detail person. Yes, I fly at a 30,000-foot view. You fly at a hundred-foot view. 

 

0:14:45 – Kayla

Now that comp and that’s how we complement each other yes, I literally read emails and give you the highlights. 

 

0:14:51 – Brian

Oh, if your email is more than five sentences, Brian Sanders is not going to read it. Truth. Okay, you need to encapsulate that. You send me something for paragraph song. 

 

0:15:01 – Kayla

It’s delete he’s read the first sentence in the last. I hope you got your points across. 

 

0:15:05 – Brian

Yes, but details you are great with like money. You’re great with like budgeting and that kind of stuff and you’ve begged me not to hand that off to you. I mean, that’s yours Now you’ll want to sit down and go over everything. 

 

0:15:20 – Kayla

It’s one of my Christmas gifts Once a year you have to. Let me walk through the annual budget with you. 

 

0:15:24 – Brian

It’s one of my Christmas gifts. 

 

0:15:26 – Kayla

It is have to let me walk through the annual budget with you. It’s one of my Christmas. It is about 10 years ago remember we made this pact that you have to let me walk through the annual plan, because I want to make sure that it’s yours, not just mine okay me, I take a power nap oh, I nap. Like it’s hibernation season. 

 

You go down for like two hours I can’t do these little 10-minute naps. I get the worst headache. Yeah, I just can’t. But you can. You’re like a toddler. You can lay down for 10 minutes and then, boing, you are off and running again. 

 

0:15:58 – Brian

It just amazes me At the same time. Now, if I’m serious about a nap, Now you will go down. But yeah, go down for like five hours but it’s very rare, very rare, yeah. 

 

0:16:09 – Kayla

One of us starts packing two weeks before a trip. Oh, God. There’s piles and one of us packs the night before or the morning of. 

 

0:16:17 – Brian

We’re going to Disney in two weeks. There is a section of stuff already on the dining room table and there’s a section of stuff in one of the guest bedrooms. 

 

0:16:33 – Kayla

Uh-huh already on the dining room table and there’s some section of stuff in one of the guest bedrooms and there’s some section of stuff already on the dresser and the main bedroom maybe we won’t forget anything though well, I don’t understand of what I packed anyway oh, did anybody else feel that comment? 

 

0:16:41 – Brian

or just me in my head why not just create a list and then, the night before, do all I’m working the list two weeks before. 

 

0:16:51 – Kayla

Well, some of it’s stuff that I needed to pick up at the store. So anyway, you do. You, I’m good shots fired. He never meets a stranger. Nope, I often wonder are people just getting stranger? 

 

0:17:08 – Brian

Well, I find people to be an adventure. I find people to be a story that is waiting to be told. Ok, so I love to talk with people because you’ll learn details and it can be a great story, because I’m all about a great story and some people’s story scares me a little bit. You like to enter into a store, to a restaurant, and just uh-huh, be quiet, be all by yourself and you’ve introduced yourself to half the wait staff. 

 

0:17:39 – Kayla

So, yeah, this is who we are. It’s good. You will have a new friend every time we leave target. 

 

0:17:45 – Brian

So yeah, well, I just here, we are. Okay, here we are. I can literally not be thinking about anything. I can literally not be thinking about something and I’m thinking about what I’ve forgotten to think about whereas your mind, and that has always plagued you, that you don’t understand, like Bea, what are you thinking about and what will I say? 

 

0:18:09 – Kayla

Nothing, and you’ve never, and you mean it, nothing. 

 

0:18:15 – Brian

And. 

 

0:18:15 – Kayla

I’m worried about what I’ve forgotten to think about. 

 

0:18:18 – Brian

You’ve often said there’s like 19 things. 

 

0:18:20 – Kayla

Oh, I’m always just. It’s like a computer browser with multiple files open at all times. 

 

0:18:26 – Brian

And I understand that this could be one of the differences between men and women. 

 

0:18:29 – Kayla

Absolutely Yep. So all right, we talked about this a minute ago. You are completely unfazed by the state of our home. Okay, which right now? 

 

0:18:42 – Brian

Okay, we need to clarify this. When she says the state of our home home, she’s going to make it sound like that there’s a pack of monkeys that live there that don’t know how to use the bathroom. It is y’all the state of our home. Okay, it may not be dusted for five days, I don’t care it doesn’t.

 

0:19:07 – Kayla

Well, right now there’s piles of stuff everywhere, but it’s purposeful. But there’s dust, there’s who. I am phased by how unfazed you are. So, yeah, say that again. I am what. I am phased by how unfazed you are. It doesn’t bother me, but I should be thankful. Phased by how unfazed you are, but I should be thankful. I mean, there are probably some partnerships where it’s like you need to get this done, and I’ve had friends before whose spouses are very specific. 

 

0:19:35 – Brian

You will actually come to me and say B, I apologize for the state of this. Yeah, why are you? I’m happy as a clam. 

 

0:19:43 – Kayla

I just feel guilty, but yeah, okay, I’m working on it. So, to make sure this does not seem adversarial, this is us. We are planners. 

 

0:19:54 – Brian

Oh, we ain’t going nowhere. Where are we? 

 

0:19:55 – Kayla

going? Will there be food, will we get a nap and what will we do? 

 

0:19:59 – Brian

Where are we going to fill up at? Who are we meeting with? Where are we going? Yeah, I need to research the restaurants where we’re going to. 

 

0:20:06 – Kayla

We are both that way, and it’s what makes traveling together so amazing, because we both have the same questions and the same thought processes. 

 

0:20:16 – Brian

And if we’re going through a new airport, I will look it up.

 

0:20:18 – Kayla

Yeah, we’ll watch a video about it we will? 

 

0:20:21 – Brian

Yeah, well, certainly, I mean, that’s just who we are. 

 

0:20:31 – Kayla

Also, there is nobody else we’d rather spend the day with. We have often been teased for this. Like yeah, like, why do y’all spend so much time together? Because we actually like each other we like to talk. 

 

0:20:41 – Brian

Sometimes we’ll talk about you. 

 

0:20:48 – Kayla

This is one thing that I have really come to adopt, though. Our relationship isn’t their relationship, and it does not mean that either of us is wrong. 

 

0:20:59 – Brian

No, I guess not. 

 

0:21:00 – Kayla

We don’t get to decide what is best for any other couple or any other family, and that’s where back to our conversation about comparison. The only time that anyone should be concerned about what’s going on in another relationship is if you sense that there is some kind of abuse or domination or something that lends to yeah, otherwise it is really none of your business how they choose to if you see them buying fish sticks at the grocery store, that’s none of your business. 

 

But if they’re buying fish sticks for somebody they’re not married to, that’s your business oh well, I wasn’t sure where you were going with that, but okay, and fish sticks really well, I’m just saying For the record, we do not eat those. But anyway, here we are. I’m open to them. No, we’re good. So this is us, okay, and it’s a combination of things that complement each other and things that draw us together. 

 

0:22:03 – Brian

Hey, thanks for listening to this week’s edition of the piece. 

 

0:22:05 – Kayla

If you need me, I’m going to be off packing for our trip. 

 

0:22:08 – Brian

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0:22:46 – Kayla

Yeah, we want to know what your plans are. What are you excited about, as we? 

 

0:22:47 – Brian

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